Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Motheroteily don't think it's you..why are some men such idiots?
I'm hoping everyone else's dates are going ok.
My man is still abroad, back late tomoz but has messaged me every day. He doesn't ever do the typical 'morning' or 'good night' messages..does anyone else have this? I know he's thinking about me but find it a bit?! All he keeps saying is he can't wait to be back to see me! Then I've got the parents meeting..eek!

I'll catch up on updates in a bit just wondering, I really hadn't considered long distance but started messaging a guy in London on POF he wants to Skype I've never used it what details will he have if I Skype him any danger in that?

How do you do your long distance Starskey? Phone, Skype?

Messenger and phone 3beard
We've seen each other every weekend since we started chatting though
Just obviously weekly meets are out and he also has a child so we have to work around our kids.
So far so good though.

Is there any harm in skyping someone I don't know, I can block them if they are a loon right?

Can I join too?!

neat I reckon as long as you have regular texting, I wouldn't worry about the good morning and good night texts. I've over worried about this too, and I think in the end it's just down to different messaging styles.

My kids are away for 2 weeks from tomorrow, and I'm racking and stacking the dates Got one with a writer tomorrow who seems cute albeit a bit self absorbed - hasn't asked much about me yet. And another date with the Latino on Thursday who is also kid free

And fransmum of course

Motheroreily, it would definitely not be you. I was stood up a couple of weeks ago, on the evening when Wales was playing. I am sure he thought the football was more interesting than me, or maybe he simply changed his mind. In any case, I refuse to think it was my fault and so should you.

Another one will come!

SkyRabbit - it's mom
Fidelia - he sounds lovely!

I'm not sure I can be bothered with online dating anymore (is that what old is?!) - too many liars! I think I'd rather meet someone irl and can see much quicker then

Witches Bad kissing is a total deal breaker... I think if you don't sync with kissing... In my head it is likely to translate to the bedroom. Or is that a little shallow and judgemental of me?!
Also RE the guy I was dating, I gave him benefit of the doubt regarding his contact over this weekend... Only to find out he had been happily contacting his girl mates all weekend (A friend of a friend who I met this weekend by complete coincidence was like oh so you're *, I know the guy you just mentioned!). Maybe he just doesn't want to worry about anything other than friends and his weekend (which would be fine if he had said that!), but I am 99% sure I am being ghosted. I genuinely liked this guy too, hence sleeping with him on date #4 and throwing caution to the wind that he was genuine. I need to seriously reconsider how I judge people - I feel deflated at the minute that I seem to be so off about peoples characters, especially as I AM a good person :(

Oreily that sounds awful but it says more about you than him!

I am catching up on other updates and will respond soon.... promise!

'Ello, ello, anyone mind if I pull up a chair and join? After being single since Christmas I have finally arranged my first tinder date for Wednesday.

I've never properly 'dated' in my adult life, went from a 3 year relationship to a 6 and I am bricking it. Help! Tips appreciated!

Well, Audidriver is still texting like a lunatic. spent so much time texting over the weekend that we could have met up. I've never dated someone with toddler age children before. Will it always be like this?

Misszp well you're right in my case, Mr Sucker Fish (aka Quirky to those who were on the other thread) and I were NOT compatible in the bedroom area. In fact, it was one of the reasons that I didn't want to see him again, and I'm very much a believer in the idea that good sex with a new person rarely just 'happens'..you have have a few goes to know what each other likes! In his case though, it was never going to be better.

singleandfab don't know if that's what it will always be like, but young kids do curb your freedom to bonk quite a bit! At least he's still very much interested though, no sign of ghosting so that's good :-)
Huh, get you skyrabbit 'racking up the dates indeed! Methinks someone is being greedy, there's none left for us

holdonto ooo congratulations. I am not an expert at all but I would say don't drink too much. That is the most valuable lesson I've learnt!

And just try and see it for what it is a date. I hope you have a fantastic time

Sorry realise that's weird advice but if I'm nervous I might drink quickly then worry was I talking too much? Did I act strangely? Etc

holdonto, that's great. I hope it goes really well. Unfortunately my date for tomorrow just cancelled, so back to square one for me

Still here plodding along and following all your antics. planeman still on the scene but been a bit flaky last two weekends and let me down for dates, still texting every day but been silent since Saturday when I had a go at him for letting me down again... oops. Not sure what's going on there but if he comes back we'll seen if he can raise his game again.

But in other news I have 2 other irons am hoping to meet in next few days, scottishman and chemicalman

Whatam1doing
No!
Not Planeman acting weird? I am genuinely sorry to hear that, he was the one that seemed so reliable! And I was only thinking last night about you and a couple of other people that haven't posted for a while. I was thinking it's because you were all jogging along happily in new relationships.
This makes me so frustrated...why, why, why would a man be SO supportive and put himself out to 'be there' for you, and put all the effort in etc, when you were going through a horrible time, only to start letting you down just when things are better and it should be easier?
Why do men do this? Why can't they just BE CONSISTENT? And if there is something bothering them, why can't they JUST SAY SO?
Sorry for the capitals. Can you tell I've had personal experience?
I HOPE he steps back up and there is a good reason for this weirdness.

I'm kind of sad that you have two other irons - I wanted Planeman to be The One, haha - but good that you are not moping over him, and are casting your net once again!

DragonRojo Oh, that's a shame about your date.

Is it a proper cancellation, as in that's the end of him? or merely a postponement?

Oh witches I know. I can't belive it ... we'd even had the L word conversation albeit via text but he also started finishing phone calls with it. Have no idea what's going on... I haven't texted since Saturday and really know i shouldn't but want to know what's going on. Really want to today though arghhhhh

Yeah 2 new irons had phone chats with both of them last night got on really well with both lots of laughing , BUT one of them dropped into the conversation that he's blind as a result of a terror attack 25 years ago...... He was v nice and said obviously if that's a problem I'll understand. ...what do I do? He did seem really nice and from his pics it's not obvious. ..Help, advice, opinions ladies please.

whatam1doing, well regarding the blindness, that really does come down purely to how you feel about it, I'm afraid. Can't tell you what to do, all I could say is that if the idea doesn't immediately put you off then maybe give him a chance and meet? You might be pleasantly surprised at how well he copes and it might not be much of an issue?

I have a disability myself, and it's a right PITA with OLD in that I always have to judge when I should reveal it to potential dates...should I say something as son as I start talking online (seems too soon) or wait until meeting is mentioned? I bet it's the same for him. I don't show my disability in my profile photos or mention it in the profile as it attracted some pretty nasty messages from the loons that lurk on social media.

And I always say the same as your iron did...that I'll understand if it's a problem for them.

witches it didn't immediately put me of no, we chatted for 1,5 hrs in total and laughed and joked about alsorts of things. He Said my profile had attracted him as obviously he can't see my pic which is nice as I always think guys only reply coz I'm 5 ft 10 and thin. I gave him a brief description and he laughed and said get in struck gold! Which made me laugh..
Have arranged to meet him tomorrow night for a drink he's only local so no hassle.
And in other news I stupidly text planeman this morning just a u ok but arghhhhh so annoyed at myself. ..