Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Ha, it genuinely was like having a sucker fish attached!
Mouth wide open in a big 'O' , lips clamped to mine but totally not moving. Not something I've ever encountered before!

It's big red car here, had a name change moving on! Been having a read will try and not forget anything.

Do you know for me bad kisser could be a deal breaker, short not a problem for me, but I'm passionate about passionate snogging, God I love kissing as much as sex. But I could probably cope with iron lips better than a sucker fish! Whitches you are so funny your posts always make me laugh. I'm wishing you luck with your new potential if you meet when he comes back.

Hope your date goes well mothereilly...I'm the same so far I haven't been on a date out in the evening and the thought of dressing up and heading out fills me with horror I'm so used to to staying in, in my pjs.

Fidelia I agree with your list...some are so carefully worded my last one hadn't, lied as such but very carefully worded stuff to make it sound very impressive compared to reality, the phrase 'not all that glitters is gold' always springs to mind now when I think of him.

I've got 3 irons at the moment. One I'd say we're having quite light, fun to and fros on line but I don't know if we're wasting our time as I think we probably want different things and he's very hard to gauge in messages. He on line all the time too.

One who is at the very furthest away point where I'd be prepared to travel but is great conversation seems really lovely, but I'm just not sure I'd fancy him from his photos.

Then a vegetarian yoga geek, who seems lovely too and quite a lot in common, but could be too serious for me (may find me bloody annoying too tbh!) but I could fancy and is local...but has already told me he's probably moving abroad in December too

No one is bloody actually asking me out though and I've done all the asking so far, I think I'm going to wait and let someone else ask this time

Oh crap kissing would be a deal breaker for me.
I can't imagine dating someone and dreading the kissing at the end. Kissing is the best part.
I was worried about long distance boy as we didn't kiss on first date ( I was too drunk and he didn't want to take advantage)
But we kissed on second (and dtd) and it was great. Obviously or wouldn't have gotten carried away, lol.

I'm staying with him on Sunday. Bit nervous because even though we dtd he hasn't seen me fully naked, we were on sofa when it got very heated so just went for it, so now I've the annoying will-he-still-fancy-me-naked thoughts flying round my head.
Well I suppose come Monday I'll know.

skyrabbit any plans to see the ginger Latino again???
The bad kiss could possibly be nerves so I'd probably give him another chance. But if still bad then I'm sorry, but he'd be crossed off.

fidelia he didn't lie about his height to be fair - he told me he was shorter than me and I didn't ask. He only said he was 5'9" last night
3bearded agree about the kissing - I put a lot of store by a good kiss.
In th sober light of day, I don't know if I'm doing the 'he likes me'dance or if I actually like him?
And your irons - I recommend that you just meet them, get it over with - I'm finding that sorts out the angst a bit. Repeat to yourself 'I'm not here for a pen pal' Thr yoga geek sounds lovely !

starsky I really think men are much less caught up in the finer details of our naked bodies than we are. If he fancies you now then I'm pretty sure he'll fancy you naked!

Skyrabbit it's ridiculous but the kissing is one of the things I'm saddest about binning ultimatum guy from my previous name the kissing from him was something else....lovely soft lips, really passionate as though he wanted to eat you all up, argh I love that! Obviously can't base a relationship just on that though haha.

I agree re just meeting up and I definitely don't want a pen pal but I want one of these men to take the sodding lead and for it not be me that has to instigate the meet up again.

Yoga guy does seem nice, he's got very thin lips in his pics so not sure what he'd be like at kissing though lol. A bit worried about getting involved if he might be going away too though.

starskey I think you could be painted blue and he would still fancy you nekkid! I favour wearing a corset if I'm nervous though - hold everything in, looks über sexy and you don't need to take it off
And I'm seeing the ginger Latino again today - see what his kissing is like when I'm sober!

Oh he's keen skyrabbit
I hope he's better this time round, defo could have been first time nerves.

I'm slim, but I think I'm that type that looks much much better dressed, so I'm then afraid of disappointing when naked. I'm not as fit as I look dressed, if you get me.

I'm basically just a batshit crazy woman.

Oh and I'm peeling from some sunburn on shoulders. Brillopads!!!!

I saw this earlier and I think this sums up what often happens with me, not saying I'm hot but I look more normal than I am haha it really made me laugh!

Really hope the kissing is better today skyrabbit look forward to update

He didn't show up and blocked me on whatsapp.

Oh well. I'm not bothered except I spent £2 on the carpark and I did my hair .

I feel a bit lonely now because I have no family and all my friends are my friends and I don't feel I can turn up at their houses with a bottle of cava.

That's really rubbish behaviour...what's wrong with people?! I'm Sorry to hear you're feeling lonely, this dating lark can do that to you a bit. I've been happily single for 5 years and only since I started this have I felt the odd bit lonely...

That really is crappy mother - why couldn't he just let you know, going back to the 5 second text thing from earlier!

Hope you and the Cava are spending some quality time together - I'm sat home, listening to my neighbours having what's sounds like an amazing bbq! I agree with Goats - I haven't really felt lonely before starting this up but now I'd quite like to have someone to share my evenings with..

I have been chatting to one guy but I'm not sure whether I actually fancy him - he's got a beard in two of his pictures and I'm like but his final one is no beard and I'm not liking it... haven't plucked up the courage to ask if he's currently clean shaven!

The trouble I'm having also is I keep staying up way too late, I'm only still awake now cos my yoga guy started messaging late this eve and I'm enjoying talking to him...I'm usually asleep by 9.30 ha ha..every ones on a different time frame to me

Marking my place, and hopefully I will get the courage to post sometime. I have only been on 3 pof dates and all 3 have been a flop. Maybe I am not ready to date. This is so hard

mother seriously ?!!! What a cowardly douchebag That's some shitty shitty behaviour. Have some xx

Can I join?

I've taken the plunge and signed up to OLD after being single for over 5 years. So far have mainly got likes from men who are almost 60 ( I'm 42)- is that normal? I thought my profile photo was ok!

I did go on my first OLD last night. The guy was sweet but I felt like I had to carry the conversation all night. I have a hunch he'll ask for a second date ( though who knows!). Do you give men the benefit of the doubt and go on a second date or if it was pleasant but a bit hard work/no initial spark, do you politely decline?

So far, I have not had a second date, but I feel that if the first one dragged a bit, then I probably wouldn't bother.

My experience so far has been:

Date 1: friendly guy but much shorter and skinnier than it looked in the pictures. He seemed very depressed, so I decided I could not cope with his problems. He did speak extensively about them, so I am not making them up.

Date 2: gorgeous guy but he didn't fancy me

Date 3: weird guy who got extremely angry when I sent him a polite message saying I would not see him again.

Date 4: stood me up in a pub. I was so deflated after this one

Date 5: coming up this week, with a friend of a friend. So not OLD

motheroreilly That's awful behaviour, what a miserable excuse for a man. This is the downside of OLD, some people seem to think the normal rules of behaviour don't apply when it's someone they've met online...like, they're not a real person or something, so they don't need to show any consideration or manners!
Just think of it as a lucky escape, you can do better than him.

skyrabbit how did date two with Ginger Brazilian go? Was there kissing, and if so, was it better?

Quick update from me re Invisible...he's back in touch after several days in Spain. Whatsapped me some holiday pics, still wants to meet next week. I'm still up for that. He thinks I have 'beautiful eyes and an infectious personality'...I am trying to be all 'yeah, whatever' to myself about the compliments, but can't quite stop myself from enjoying them a teeny bit. I hope compliments doesn't equal 'player' in this case.

witches that all sounds pretty positive to me! Sounds like nice compliments without being OTT? Obvs it all rests on the first date, but I'd say it's all good?
My ginger Brazilian second date went well tbh - spent the day together at a local festival. He is insanely clever and academic which is very attractive. But, he is still short ( I reckon about 5'7" - I'm 6' so it's quite a difference) and he was still trying to crack my teeth when we kissed . He's very tactile though, which is lovely - lots of PDAs which i think is a Latino thing. God I don't know tbh. I think I'll see him again though. You never know, the sex might be awesome!

Yes, I think it's positive too, he brought up the subject of meeting, which is good as I wasn't left wondering if he still wants to meet or not. He doesn't go overboard with compliments, so I am not getting the Mr Smooth Operator vibe from him.
'Insanely clever and academic' sounds fab. I didn't realise you were so tall, so no wonder 'short' might be more of an issue for you than for me...I'm only 5'2" so most men are taller than me!
Well, you seem to like his personality, and find him attractive so yeah, why not? See him again and see how it goes! You may be in for a treat! ha!

Thank you sky and witches. I wasn't too bothered yesterday but now I'm worried he drove past saw me and thought "no thanks"

motheroteily what an utter Shit.
That says more about him than you. He's probably a Gobshite who is too rude to admit nerves got the better of him.
It is definitely nothing you did, or about how you looked.

I get the lonely thing. It only kicked in when I started dating too. Strange isn't it.

I've third date with long distance boy tonight. Staying at his.
We chat all the time, so kinda feels like we've had more dates than that.
Although our first two went on for 24 hours so that could be why, lol