Tinder Temptresses Unite....It's Dating Thread 106

[PrizeyPrize]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Witches That used to happen with POF with exactly that reason. But I can't find a crow that could get to Londpn or Brighton in under 80 miles from here!

just popping in with this depressing link.....

thestir.cafemom.com/love_sex/165528/5_types_of_guys_youre

Argh guys I need help, I'm seriously struggling with letting this other guy go! I'm nuts, he had no money and other problems he didn't tell me about but we just connected and I miss him so much.

I'm a bit of an unusual type and it's so rare I find someone I have that level of connection with. I looked up our mbti personality test profiles as I was doing mine and we're a perfect match. I've got my head in cloud cuckoo thinking I won't find another one I connect with like that. Help I'm having to sit on my hands to stop myself texting him

I've got loads of other irons in the fire but I don't like any of them! Argh

Hi everyone, which are the best free dating sites?

So far I've only done POF which appears to be very slim pickings and Tinder which I haven't got anywhere with?

Haha, oh well... I tried, *DrSeth!
bigredcar is this the guy that wanted you to delete your dating profile very soon? Or was that another mNetter?
Ok, well on the one hand, he seems to suit you perfectly. But on the other you ended it because you had a feeling that with his back story and yours, it wouldn't go well.
So... What's the worst that could happen if you contacted him and did give it another go? I mean, are we talking life-changing stress and problems or something that's possibly not as bad as you think... Given that there obviously is a good connection between you both?

It's really hard to not give too many outing details here. Yes basically I'm worried we seem like too many problems together. I have a longterm health condition and a disabled ds, I'm on benefits. He has a rare life long post traumatic mental health condition and is on benefits.

I'm worried mainly about the implications of his condition on his ability to cope with stress and whether he will ever work as he has literally no money!

But everything outside of that was great ha ha!

I'm just not feeling any better a week after ending it but I can be an idealist at times!

I want to know if he is still thinking about me as much as I am him, God I sound pathetic!

Fuck I texted him, and immediately knew I shouldn't, oh no I'm a loon!

Was he the one who lied about working? I'm going blurry.

If you really feel this strongly, maybe it might be worth taking things slow? Try it 'in the moment' and then when things go further you can assess whether it would work taking it to the next level ? But then I guess the down side is that would be even more heartbreaking if you were to realise it wouldn't. Argh - even I'm confused for you!! Sorry I'm not much help.

Haha I texted him and he's seeing someone else! And heres me maudlin. Bastard, I'm released now though but why couldn't I see it! I am laughing at my twattery!

Jesus. A week and he's seeing someone, he moves fast doesn't he!?!

I wouldn't give him another though Bigred.

Blimey, that was quick :-(
Mind you, I've noticed men are very good at getting straight back into dating. Much better than we are after a knockback.
Argh, I bet he's feeling smug and in demand now, too! Two women interested in him.

I know, I'm such a bloody idiot! I mean I've been back on it too, but I finished with him. I certainly wouldn't of met anyone significant in that time though!

Bigredcar, was I right in thinking you ended things? I wouldn't be shocked if he was embellishing to try and get you back!!

Either that or he really does move fast.

Either way you are definitely better off!

When I say get you back, I think get back at you might have been a better phrase. Doing that to get you back when you've text him would be the worst method!!

Yeah I ended it. No I think he really has got someone else, but I expect he hasn't told her all the shit he dumped on me 3 dates in yet!

I reckon it will follow the same pattern he did with me. I feel a bit dirty now Urgh. I think he was far more promiscuous than he led me to believe yuck. I'm obviously a mug

Well then most of us are mugs bigredcar because I bet most of us here have said and done things that when we look back we think 'God, that was stupid!'
Hindsight is a wonderful thing!
Try not to feel too bad.

I tell you what though a good thing to come out of this is I did that personality testing and honestly it is so accurate, it is me. It's quite astonishing.

Not only that it has perfectly described how I've ended up in this situation now (and before I'm sorry to say) but more importantly how to address it. So I think I've learnt something valuable finally

bigred I think you've had a lucky break there. It sounds like he perhaps wasn't the person that you had in your mind, if that makes sense? If he's properly seeing someone else already, then it sounds like he's a bit of a player tbh.

I've wound my neck in, and calmed down about OLD
With the result I have a date with a rather lovely Brazilian guy on Friday.
SexyPlumber is still texting and phoning me too, despite us not having met yet (he has a contract starting near where I live, but until then is 300 miles away) - I said did he want to just leave it until he was up here, and he replied with 'no, you're awesome and I don't want to leave it in case you forget about me' which is a bit nice. I don't think it's red flaggy is it??

No skyrabbit I don't think it's red flaggy, I like to think he's just being honest!
But I am a very trusting sort. Someone else might think it's red flaggy but can't really see how... He's just making sure he's still keeping you interested until he gets to your area. How long will it be till you can meet?
Blimey, you changed your mind quickly, you were saying goodbye to us all a few messages ago!
I'm like that! One minute I'm all 'oh, it's not for me' and the next I'm back on it 'just having a look' ...

bigredcar what is this personality test thingy of which you speak?
Can I do it online?

witches oh I'm a proper flouncer sorry, I'm a bit shit!
It's another couple of weeks before I can see sexy plumber - booo. Think he sounds genuine though?

I did it on 16personalities you can pay on other sites for mbti tests but that was free and I'm pretty sure it's right. It's basically the same thing, quite fascinating.

That doesn't sound red flaggy to me sky rabbit!