30 day no contact for the broken hearted - starts here

[Thewizardo]

I will be using this as my own personal no contact diary.

read here first

Please feel free to join in the thread if you are attempting to go no contact with someone. If you've just been dumped, left or had your heart broken.

I'm on day 1 today. So far today I've blocked his FB/what's app/Instagram etc. I text him to ask him to leave me alone as he's texting quite a bit. Only emergency texts only about DD.

I think if there's anyway you can have set times for contact it would help a lot. He seems to be dictating exactly what ever is convenient to him. Set pick up times/days, set times for FaceTime, not just whenever he fancies a chat.
Delete the booking.com App too.

Oh god he sent me a text. Stop me from answering him. Have lasted half an hour so far. Going for a walk now without phone.

Don't let them manipulate you, cos that's all it is, more attempts at manipulation and control.
Be honest with yourselves. Will you feel better if you respond? Will you hell!
Keep focussed. You deserve better. Remember that.

Oh wizard you poor thing you've got a DD, it's so much harder. But you're also 10x stronger because of it.

Day 2 (reset because I broke and texted on Tuesday night....) and feeling good still. Bought myself flowers and starting to ebay everything he ever gave me

Looks like we are all struggling today! Day 5 here and thought i was flying along but today ive restored his number in my phone just so i can see when he was last online on whatsapp yes i need help and fast i am so on the verge of ringing him but i know it will be like starting back at the bottom of the mountain.

Watch how to be single - it cheered me up!

Day 1, done. Feeling better this morning. Out in town tonight so lots of things to look forward to.

You are all doing so well and I watch that film its brilliant!

I'm really pleased Wizardo you're okay. Day 6 and out walking with a friend rather than the usual wondering what he's going to upset me with this weekend.

Ladies 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 just reading this is so inspiring!!! I have been separated from my husband of 12 years for the last 9 weeks, the first few weeks were easy, this is what I wanted after all! He's in the forces so he moved into camp and left me and my 2 children in our married quarter. After 4 weeks I seen pics of him and a local girl very close in a local night club, that's when it hit me, contact was getting more and more frequent and then I broke, felt like I was grieving! He was away at this point and I have him an olive branch, long story short we talked reconciliation and he played me for 2 weeks, asshole!! Anyway back on track, due to being married to the military I'm having to relocate. I am now giving NC a go cause I just can't take it anymore! He has a pattern when he texts, when he's sober he texts daily, usually about the kids or chit chat, when he's out and drunk I don't hear from him, then when he's hungover I get abuse!!!!! I can't wait to leave here and start my life fresh!! Stuck in limbo right now!! Just about to go block his newly set up FB as u say it's not healthy to online stalk!!!!!

I've made it to day 7. Feeling much more free in my head. I went out last night and laughed with friends and made sure I didn't check my phone until the end of the evening.
Life will move on. Still thinking I miss the good times but actually the bad times were heartbreaking and took up far more time.

Well done JennyMe 🙌🏻 good girl! I'm on day 2, I've had contact for the kids this morning, replied short and sharp! I have no desire to text or call him! Now just need to find a way to fill my day while he has the kids X

Hi everyone

Managed my day 2! Went out last night and had such a good time with some friends, got a bit drunk and didn't even think about texting or calling ex. Feeling the after affects of the booze now though, a bit low etc but more positive to be honest.

Star, that sounds so hard. Men seem to move on so much quicker than women do, especially when it comes to sex. Its the thing I have found the hardest. All I can say is, after the sex is done they are left with the man you didn't want! I try not to think about it as much as possible.

Jenny you are my inspiration! You are doing so well.

And a quick side note to say I had the most fabulous one night stand last night with a gorgeous kind lovely man who made me feel on top of the world. He said lovely things to me and gave me a right old self esteem boost

Thewizardo u go girl!!!! 😍😍 best way to get over a man is to get under another!!! Although not sure I'll be so good at taking my own advice!!! After 12 years with the same asshole that petrifies me!! I'm only 30 and I'm smoking 💁🏼 so bring on the good times!!! Lol xx

So glad you're all surviving and having some fun!
Had to work today and it's strange that it's at work I feel the worst for some reason.

I've had a couple of male friends message who I'm not really interested in and realised feeling under pressure from them makes me feel worse but every day I am understanding more of what was wrong and have regular glimpses of happiness in the future.

Feeling really sad again today. I thought we had a future despite the fact things had been so difficult over the past few months. When do I get to be happy again?

Jennyme- I find at work I feel the worse too, I've been teary every shift recently.

I'm currently on day2, but I'm determined to do it this time as I deserve better than the fucking twat excuse my language! I find it so hard, as I am pregnant so although technically we do not have to communicate until baby arrives- I know I will have to at some point and the thought makes me physically sick. he will be part of my life forever and that terrifies me

Good morning, just wanted to say good luck for everyone today.
I'm on 1 week now and pleased I no longer count in days.
I've definitely get more glimpses of future possibilities now.
No going back. I was listening to Matthew Hussey who advised working on something / a hobby in your life that will give you a feeling of progress to help you heal a broken heart. He also said, be okay with feeling sad don't suppress it. Eventually we'll all get to a happier place. I feel like I've been given an opportunity to change my future to a much happier one.
Thinking of you all today.

Room for another? I understand that I might not be the most welcome here due to my circumstances (see I'm a Fool...), but regardless of the whys and where fors, I find myself brokenhearted.

Day 3 for me. I've given up saying 'I'm getting better' or 'I feel worse'. It's like 4 seasons in one day at present. Right now, I'm ok and at my worst I'm still ok. I feel like the rug has been pulled out from underneath me, my heart thrown on top and the cast of Riverdance are doing their thing on it. However, I'm ok. Maybe ok is the best we can hope for just now.

I hope you are all 'ok' too. To a successful no-contact day

Day 3 for me ladies!! Ignored 2 texts yesterday and 1 this morning! Seems he needs contact with me more than I do him!! It's gonna hit him once I've moved and good!! Hoping I get a nice call this week telling me they have found me a house!! Staying here is soul destroying!! Hope ur all good xx

Day one for me just ended an 20 month on and off relationship, still in love with her as she is with me ...30 days feels a long way off but here goes .

Chin up all!

I'm a massive lurker for a while now and only joined for this thread. I'm early 20's and don't have kids but recently split with my partner. It got as far as police involvement and I don't know whether to carry on as it could be a court case if pursued and I don't want that :( I don't want to ruin his life. But it's first love and my 30 days start tomorrow!

Not a brilliant first day , we ended up messaging each other about our feelings, it's so hard to go total no contact but deleted numbers today to stop the temptation .....