30 day no contact for the broken hearted - starts here

[Thewizardo]

I will be using this as my own personal no contact diary.

read here first

Please feel free to join in the thread if you are attempting to go no contact with someone. If you've just been dumped, left or had your heart broken.

I'm on day 1 today. So far today I've blocked his FB/what's app/Instagram etc. I text him to ask him to leave me alone as he's texting quite a bit. Only emergency texts only about DD.

have a great day Jenny and all, we have the upper hand, and they are not dealing with what they have done at all, you are right !!!
Bubbles and camp fires and so many good things to keep us positive , Thank you

Thank you for your support ladies.
Such great responses and as selfish as it sounds I am glad it isn't just me who is angry! I am so cross still that he could send such a cold message. I really want to message him something vile but an added about being here in work for 11 hours is there is no mobile reception so I couldn't even if I wanted to :)!!!
I am hoping by the time I get out of here my mood will feel lighter and I can think clearer and realise he just is not worth breaking the nc rule for. He is toxic and unhealthy and no good can come of texting/calling, we can never go back and quite frankly I don't want to.
To think I've spent over a week wishing he'd message me just to acknowledge he's hurt me and then he does and its made it all so much worse.
Thank god for work (never thought I would hear myself say that!).
I hope every one else is doing ok today?

Keep strong, you will feel better for it. My DH is away today and tonight with a mate but it was meant to be OW. It's in my mind but I'm ok. I was shocked he landed last night. I didn't go no contact for him, I did it for me, but it messes with your mind, though I'm not letting it show. I've had texts this morning 'did you sleep well' what you doing today?' type things. I responded but it was short and I never ask questions back. I just need to get over this big trigger hurdle today, tonight and tomorrow morning.

I'm hoping he's not going to text me cos I don't want to know what he's up to but yet if he doesn't text I'll be wondering what he's doing. I hope it pisses down cos concert is outside and it's lovely and sunny here

lippy you are doing so well , sucha you have hit the nail, Toxic, you do not need that in your life , none of us do

Anger will strike soon Waving, you are doing so well, does he live locally to you ?...you do not have to bump into him I hope.... I am miles away from my xh thank goodness. Try and stop yourself with the twitter thing it is not healthy for you , it will get better

Oh good idea.
if u do see them just hold your head up and lock eyes with him for a moment and then walk away because you've done nothing wrong. He's the one who should b3 worrying about meeting you.

Afternoon ladies ........ Thanks for advice ....... He is a very toxic person and very needy all about him .... His addictions and ego ...... When I did speak to him he said I was a bitch to him .......

Have a good day ladies .....

Just catching up with how you are all doing, my concentration is a bit bad today so sorry for not individual replies.

Trying to stay positive x

Feisty one today, wish anger would hurry up.

waving am with you on feeling numb.

Just want him to fuck off from my thoughts.

None of us are biaches
We are not at fault
We will stay off social media
And we all deserve to be with faithful, loving caring men whether they like it or not !!!
Here endeth the lesson :O)

For all those who have been cheated on - she might be different and that's great for her, but he's still the same. I would not want to be in her position.

Ultimately no one holds their partner to ransom in a relationship - they're always free to leave. There's never an excuse for cheating and I just hope she enjoys his impotence as much as I did.

For me my husband initially emotionally cheated, got caught, moved out, said he'd have NC and strung me along for months deciding what he wanted, eventually found out it had progressed, we officially separated and 4 days later he was back wanting to work things out cos I caught him out again. She wants him. He's made no effort to work at things except NC with her and that's why I said we need a break, cos he's not emotionally ready to work things out. He maintains he wants us to be a family. I've been through the mill, list 1.5 stone and although I'm positive now, it's not going back on, though I do a lot of intentional walking.

He was fine with the break, but I don't think he's enjoying it so much. On the other side I'm the one now in the driving seat, who knows where that may take me... Brum brum X

Brum Brum😊

I like today's quote. I would like to send that to all the men who've been in my life.

Hi all, I took my phone off myself for a week to help me break the cycle, it seemed to work. I don't want to talk to him, I'm happy without him, I don't wonder what he's doing in work (I've volunteered to hot desk for a while so I'm not sat near my team). I'm doing well, I'm hopefully getting out the other end, I don't even think of him as much as I used to.
Sucha, your ex is an arse! He just wants to make you think of him and beg him to come back (I believe) you deserve so much better than that and the games he's trying to play.
Waving, that sounds so difficult, it's hard enough for me seeing him in work, living near him would finish me. You can do this, you are strong enough, if anger helps you then ride the anger it gave me the push to give my phone to my aunt for a week.
Polka, great quote for today.

Today marks 7 days, how many days have you made? I haven't managed to catch up fully on the thread yet

Well done Flurple - 7 days is a milestone.

Jenny - I might make them into a stash of cards to hand out to future men!

Waving - I hope you do get angry, and I hope he sods off bavk to Wales.

I don't understand how they can be so thoughtless, selfish and uncaring.

I have just poured a glass of wine. And sat down and burst into tears. I hate him for ruining it. I have never been in love like that before. I adored the stupid man. And now I can never go bavk even if he wanted to. Just this rocky path ahead.

Well done Flurple, you are doing so well, 7 days !! you have turned a corner, so happy for you

So he's just rung from his night away after texting all day to double check i'm fine and that he's trying his best as its a stresser for me! Told him I was fine, he's coming to see DD's tomorrow and wants to see me too. Told him I'd previously suggested that if he was wanting to see me he was to take me out so now he's suggesting tea.

He's confusing me. I wanted him to take me out like a date but he's trying to get comfy again and I don't want that. It took a long time (4 months) for me to say I wanted a break and I'm losing the control because he wants to see me..... It wasn't meant to be like this, he wasn't meant to just call up last night out of the blue. I think I'll have to text him to say come see the girls and if he wants to see me to take me out that's different. I think X

Thank you all trying to make it last now.
Polka, that's truly shit I'm sorry you're hurting like this but he couldn't see what he had with you and that is his loss, I know how it feels to cry over a bottle of wine because he couldn't love you enough and you loved him too much. I've realised it was better to let myself cry, so you cry as much as you have too, it's much better in the long run.
Lippy, stand your ground if he's coming back he need to realised you are not going to roll over and let him back in to the way things were, he has to work for you, if you think this is the right thing then he needs to earn you, you're worth it.