30 day no contact for the broken hearted - starts here

[Thewizardo]

I will be using this as my own personal no contact diary.

read here first

Please feel free to join in the thread if you are attempting to go no contact with someone. If you've just been dumped, left or had your heart broken.

I'm on day 1 today. So far today I've blocked his FB/what's app/Instagram etc. I text him to ask him to leave me alone as he's texting quite a bit. Only emergency texts only about DD.

Day 13, writing the days really helps me every morning. I woke up and thought of him first thing, I miss the messages too. I've desperately got to increase my income and I've decided every time I think of him, I'm going to change the thought to what I need to do to sell my product. He's in a very different position in life to me and if I waste my time thinking of someone who doesn't deserve my thoughts I'm just giving my life away.
I'm out walking with a friend today and I'm going to really try and focus in the now whilst out.
Have a good weekend everyone, no matter what else is going on today, make a little time for just you.

I have a whole day stretched out in front of me and for the first time I don't feel daunted by it. There's been a bit of a shift in the last few days and I'm not actually hoping he will text or change his mind.

Hoping it stays like this

You are sending your 16 week old baby away for a week?

I message again I don't know why I keep doing this, I'm filling my day up with things to do so I don't do it again. My day 1 is going to be tomorrow again.

Jennyme. I hope you have some nice time with your friend. I'm finding myself getting angry but really I am so sad. I have no doubt he will be fine, getting on with it. He's the one with the big job, the support. I wonder if he's thinking of me at all?
I'm carrying on decorating, just stopped to cry. I am fed up of not finding someone who is right for me. I've also completely lost myself and my identity in it all. I'm with my son on my own today. We might go out this afternoon. Good luck with today everyone. I feel so lonely but I'm thinking of you on this thread who are in the same boat one way or another..

Flurple, have you made a list of all the things you don't like about him, things that were wrong in your relationship etc?

It is so so so helpful. It puts you back into a strong mindframe when you are feeling weak.

I feel in a completely different head space this morning. Like something has cleared and now all I can see is what a dick he was! I still feel sad but not for 'us' more just a natural sadness at the ending of something. Long may it continue!

Apple I'm decorating too! Thinking of you somewhere out there!

Have you made a list of positive things you would like in your life now he's gone. I did and it had really stupid things on it like - can wear red lipstick again (he hated it), can watch Xyz on the TV which he didn't like etc etc

Wizardo I think I'll do this this afternoon, as time goes on I forget how much he's hurt me and everything he's done. A list will definitely help me get through this mess.

The wizardo. Happy decorating. I have cried ever since I stopped and posted earlier. Just eaten healthily but feel broken. Can't quite bring myself to write the list yet..

Just start with one thing. It doesn't have to be formal. Skiddy boxers? Crap conversation? Rude to people? Farts in bed? Shit kisser?

Ok.
Couldn't spell.
Didn't make me feel special.
Emotionally detached.
Didn't look pleased to see me.
Was rude and hurtful.
Commented on my weight (I'm a size 10)
So. Why do I still believe in him?

Even on day 13, I still have waves of feeling exactly like all of you. I think it's going to take a long time for me to get over this. I had a good walk with my friend but I think knowing that this friend possibly wants more than friendship just made me feel worse. I feel so sad this evening too. I too am tired of meeting the wrong men. Glad you're all decorating. Maybe I should.

Yep shit day here too. Ended up in a row with ex when he dropped DD off. He was all dressed up for a night out, she had a dirty nappy on again and a big scratch on her neck.

I spectacularly lost my shit with him

Hugs the wizardo. You are still doing really well. Keep on keeping on.

Wizardo he probably dressed up for your benefit ie. to pretend going out but has now gone back home... sort of thing mine would do. Dirty nappy as in poo... that would make me grrrr!!!

Mine tried to argue on drop off but I just carried on talking to the baby so he stormed out and slammed door.... er bye then!!

It's All an act , pretense, acting as though they do not give a damn. Most of these relationships resulting from affairs soon loose there shine. You will find not all is chocolates and roses , the man loaths he has been put in the position and hates to be seen as weak as most of them are you will find.
I find the lies very hard to stomach , I have always suffered with insomnia, but it is at its worse😞 It is so hard to think straight

My list: personal hygiene was atrocious
Always hit me to do the ultimate damage
Dreadful teeth and halitosis
Premature( sorry for this one )
Had ow + in the house when we were camping
Borrowed money and never returned ( thousands)
Moved me and dc hundreds of miles away from my dm when she was dying
...sorry cannot go on 😢

Day 14 and I have a wonderful day ahead with people who care about me (he didn't). I read an article that said it may seem like men move on swiftly but they cope worse than women with a break up in the long run as they don't usually process their emotions well. I think we'll all be the better off out of all of this. Go us!

JennyMe- have a fantastic day! Being around true people who care for you. I too am taking a train journey to meet an old friend with my son. Still expecting ups and downs along the way

Have a great day Ladies , girl power r us 😊

Highly recommended a day out ladies.. Away from it all, gets things a little bit in perspective.. Still tough though.. I'm sat on the train but feel 'free' like I have breathing space

Ex just face timed DD whilst out walking with some girl. She made her presence known by coughing the whole time.

Screaming here instead of at him

Wizardo that face timing he is doing (you mentioned it in earlier post also) seems very unnecessary and if I were you I would be refusing to allow it. Isn't it a baby you have? Absolutely no need. You are in control. Show him! Just my opinion but seems very invasive into your life/home and being used as a tool to wind you up. Hugs :D

Yes it's a baby, 15 months today. she does say hiya to him but he stays on the phone for ages just talking shit to her. I've messaged him and told him FT is finished.

I have been failing miserably!! Back on day one and feel worse than ever!! He has been stringing me along and I've finally realised he is never going to change!!
I don't know where you are all getting your strength from!!