I just hit DP

[Icklepickle101]

I feel awful.

DP had been prodding me and poking me all through dinner, he found it funny, I didn't and after telling him and telling him to stop I hit him in the face. At the dinner table. In front of my parents. Now I've stormed off and am sat feeling sorry for myself and like a horrible horrible person and he's just told me if I ever hit him like it again he will hit me back

What the fuck have I done.

We have never ever ever been violent towards each other and he is honestly an amazing man. I just don't know what to do or how to make things right.

Pan, Lewj was exploring analogies around consent for the purpose of the argument. All extremes. Consent is consent no matter the scenario.

I disagree with what you are assuming about her posts.

As pointed out; the issue was the op didn't consent to the 'game'. This was ignored.

Lewj is simply expressing concern that this particular element - consent being ignored- is not something that becomes subtly hidden and a frequent occurrence in the relationship.

No one has said a smack was reasonable or appropriate, including the op.

People have said how they can see how ongoing annoyance might push them to the limit, but that it's still not reasonable to hit.

kept asking him to stop and he didn't, then I said please stop poking me again and he did it quite hard right in my stomach

Is hitting somebody wrong? Yes. But if I tell somebody to stop touching me and they continuebto do so they are happy to get 'just hit'. I'd feel attacked and have the need to defend and protect myself. OP, he touched you against your will repeatedly and you hit him. In my book that's selfdefense (whether op is a man or a woman, btw). Don't let anybody make you feel guilty!
Oh, and I didn't read the whole thread, just my opinion.

*not happy, lucky. But seriously, novody has the right to touch anybody against their wishes. It doesn't matter if it's a DP or not.
You told him to stop repeatedly and he didn't!

This thread has been an eye opening!!

I never knew that there were so many grown ass adults who think it's funny to poke prod hurt and antagonise their partners!!!

I thought it was only eight year old boys and their ten year old brothers.

Seems like some of you need to grow the fuck up...