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Sick of miserable DP

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Justpulltheplaster · 11/06/2016 16:42

Back from a disaster of a night away. Where would you like to eat? Not bothered. Shall we go to X? Whatever you want. Even what music do you want to listen to is answered with 'I don't care you choose'

Barely cracked a smile all weekend. Wanted to go back to the hotel early so we did. He was asleep in ten minutes. It was the first night we've had alone in ages, in central London and he couldn't suggest one fucking thing he wanted to do, see or eat.

Driving home and his mate calls, suddenly he's animated, laughing and chatting. I snapped and asked what his problem is and he said 'nothing I've had a good weekend'

Well he might have but I didn't. Get home and he disappears to the gym the instant we walk in the door even though the kids are clamouring to see him.

I honestly think I'd be better off alone. At least I wouldn't have another child to make every bloody decision for.

OP posts:
Mozismyhero · 22/06/2016 16:51

Good to hear you're feeling stronger x

nicenewdusters · 22/06/2016 17:24

So glad you're ok Just.

Your friend sounds amazing. Home truths and friends don't usually mix, but you were clearly honest enough with yourself to look at your relationship realistically.

Really pleased to see you had a long talk with dp. As you say, it changes nothing in terms of your future as a couple, but I think it massively helps to sort your head out. Also, contact as regards your dc will hopefully be less dramatic and heated now. Early days but a better footing than last Sunday !

Bereft but more peaceful, I think that's an excellent description. The loss is always there to be dealt with, but it's much easier if you're not having to stare down a fox at night with a hangover coming on !!

Hope you have another good night's sleep, at least you know tomorrow you don't have to go through last weekend again.

HandyWoman · 22/06/2016 21:04

Just your friend sounds like one in a million. You obviously have great sources of support/love/guidance. It goes to show that kid dp's aren't everything... and our lives are more intricate than that. Love comes to us in many different forms.

Good for you. Flowers

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