We're Stayin' Alive, it's DATING THREAD 105

[tanyadm]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

cock shot not cock shit obviously!

Christ, a cock shit would be awful!

NowWhat1983 how disappointing. Do you think he was one of those men who fakes a future to get what he wants now? Maybe he was just good at being charming and saying what he thought you wanted to hear.

cock shit that's brilliant!
Yes Carrot that is very unfortunate on the Aunt Flo front....whats the chances?

I dont know Single.

Or may be liked me at the time and changed his mind.

He kept suggesting more and more and I went along with it.

NowWhat Perhaps he had a few days off & that's all he could sustain. It seems to be such an effort for some men to be both consistent and honest.

Few days off?

as in holiday or his 'weekend' or a break in his list.

Oh yes. he did say he didnt leave the hospital for 36 hours the previous weekend as a mess up with the rota. He works many weekends and is on call tomorrow.

I think he is still on tinder though.

Christ, must be stressful. Maybe he just doesnt gave the energy for more. He must have really liked you to see you repeatedly though.

Yup... met at 7:30pm on Friday. Were out until 2am.

Woke up with him. he wanted to go out with me again saturday night with his friends.

Texted as soon as he was in from that.

Took me out on Sunday.

So we saw each other Friday, Saturday and Sunday.

He said in advance he was not free again until Saturday and most girls dont like his lack of availability.

Aside from this guy. I had the worst weekend ever in the history of dating.

Matched with a few people.

One of them was an Aussie living here. He got my phone number quickly as he seemed nice. Then later on he starts messaging me on Friday night at like 10:30 asking me where I am and can he come over. He told me he was totally pissed. He started saying stupid things like suck it and then blamed someone else for having sent it. Then the phone calls. He kept on ringing and ringing my number. I rejected all the calls and finally had to tell him to fuck off. I got an apology this morning but I blocked him.

Another one was my age, never left parents home, got made bankrupt in 2010 so he will never get credit again. No money, shit job and he asked if i could meet him somewhere for sex. And then sent some bemused messages that seemed surprised I hadn't replied.

Another one I had been having nice conversations with for over a week and I wanted to meet him...out of nowhere he sent me a long message saying he thinks he should make it known now he is a kinkster....he is into really kinky sex....what did i think.

Another guy who looked gentlemanly and from his profile said genuine nice things. I matched with him. Straight away, im sexy, my boobs, do i have a big sex drive. I said to him I matched with you as you didnt seem the type to say such things ...but once again I am disappointed. He apologised and starting chatting normally to me and then kept digressing back to sex. I stopped replying and he has sent me 6 messages asking where I am.

Another guy seemed nice, sent me a photo of himself with his pants down and said like what you see and a load of pics of his face too. he has sent me an audio file too.Ii dont want to play it.

Another asked straight away when was the first time a man saw me naked.

Another asked if i am looking for hook ups.

Jesus Tits!

Way to go me getting more irons on that fire after rejection by vanishing surgeon.

I feel like absolute shit after a lovely weekend last week.

Nowwhat1983! what a catalogue of perverts. You poor thing!

I know i'm older but perverts age so it can't just be that. On POF I think your profile can more clearly indicate that you're not up for sexting etc, you get more on an opportunity to spell out that you're quite wholesome...

My date last night was lovely. Good fun, easy, no fear of saying something uncool. :-p He's so easy to talk to, tells me everything, in fact i@m forgetting which sister is married to who and which sister lives where speaks what language. (I knew the loads of older sisters was a good sign). we are coming right out and just speaking like it's obvious we're going to try and see where we go.. So for once, the feelings, and the intentions are mutual.

But I did express my insecurities that I didn't want another magnesium flare. Ended up telling him briefly that I'd had a fake relationship back in Jan which ended ten minutes after the man had met my children. But I told him I didn't miss that man so I was fine, but can't start parading him about introducing him to f&f until we know ourselves what we want. And he gets that. It was funny, we were in my neck of the woods (although he doesn't live far away) and we met two people he knew.

314 sounds like you had a brilliant date!! He sounds lovely, I do like it when it's just easy and relaxed. I'm hoping for the same this morning. Currently waiting for train into town. Bit nervous now, but at the same time I'm thinking 'fuck it, this probably won't amount to anything'
nowwhat if they ask for your phone number within the first few messages, beware. Don't give your phone number out too soon. (I'm still messaging through Tinder with my date today) If they get remotely sexual and you are uncomfortable with that ....Block and move on. State on your profile that you are not after ONS or hook ups. Don't get disheartened, for every ten of the cockshotters there's a decent one you have to search (and use the block button), and put on your rhinoskin cape!

It gets better. The Aussie with the drunken calls who apologised: I didnt dignify his apology with an answer.

I got a message from him saying just for the record, you are fat and ugly, just saying.

nowwhat seriously ?? What a dick! Wtf is wrong with men???

My WwyD has turned into a 'fuck it'. He texted last night to say he had a lovely time and my photos don't do me justice, which is lovely. I replied saying I had a great time too - maybe next time he could show me his city. No fecking reply sigh
I think I might just get another cat, ready for my inevitable old age as a mad cat lady

Oh sorry SkyRabbit* that is shit after such a lovely date. It makes you wonder what they are thinking when they say all these lovely things.

I told disgusting Aussie to look at himself and his own behaviour before commenting on me he is an ugly git but i didnt say that to him and if he sends any more messages like that, I shall report him to the police.

Missing my surgeon. Was nearly a week since I last saw him.

nowwhat what a disaster. Total scumbags.
I'd second date with lovely long distance guy. Totally unexpected but we dtd
On second date....feel it was too soon. But it felt right.
He's messaging as normal thankfully, but I'm kicking myself for it happening so soon.
It was good though, very very good

Good luck Starskey. I dtd with surgeon on second and now he's quiet.

Hope yours has many dates to come!

Thanks nowwhat he's not gone quiet at all, thankfully.... I like him though, so hope he won't.
I'm sorry about surgeon. I'd same happen to me recently.... They sucks you in and just when you feel yourself starting to like them they pull away. Very frustrating.

The thing is going quiet means they can come back whenever.

One of my gems from Saturday

Oh God, it's headwrecking isn't it.
I'm an architectural Technician and one said I'd have no problem Erecting large things.
Fuck off!!!!!!

My surgeon was lovely and considerate. Now gone quiet after a lovely weekend.

That is so lame and cheesy.....erecting large things.

Well my surgeon couldnt for long

Haha..... That's the spirit, get mad!!!

Date was good, nice guy, gorgeous eyes, but didn't excite me fuck me he was boring, he acted very cool and laid back, I like a man to be a bit more eager and enthusiastic. Went in for the kiss twice at goodbye and got a peck on the cheek. . Didn't do it for me at all. Shame...