Why is another woman's debit card in my house?

[NatashaRomanoff]

Please talk me down, I think I'm close to a panic attack.

My husband is away on business today, he will return this evening, so I can't speak to him right now.

This afternoon I have found a debit card in my house (in the living room) behind some furniture that is not mine. It's not my name or anything close to it. We don't know anybody by the name. The piece of furniture was only recently moved and there was nothing there.

So where the fuck did this come from? Please tell me there's a solution that doesn't include him shagging around. He hasn't shown any of the signs - I know them - exH cheated. I'm an absolute mess.

Have you had any workmen in?

Oops, cost with the OP!

Ah ok apologies!

Nanny has a friend with the same forename...

I have a quite unusual forename. I'm known to almost everyone as RJ dhslastname. But my bank cards are in RJ myoriginallastname. Causes great confusion.

Well, I've only been married 17 years, no point rushing into changing them in case it doesn't work out...

Ok well I want to know now too!

I agree with the genius idea of calling his work place and asking for the name.

Unsigned? Is it the company account card maybe?

got to be a simple explanation

I'm waiting on the explanation... Me and dp were once very drunk coming back from a night out and found a discarded wallet under a car outside the house. Dp brought it in and I found it randomly around the house about a week later with no memory of where it came from! Very confusing...

Asked dp about it and he jogged my memory. We later tracked down the owner (cards were still in it) and it had been stolen earlier that night. If it had been a woman's purse I may have been were OP is now!

How intriguing...

I am fascinated by some of the strange things that people have lost or found in their houses!

I don't understand the link between a debit card in your house and your DH shagging around. Why would he have her card and put it down the side of your furniture?

I'm sure there's a simpler explanation

I dont think she thinks the DH put the card there, more so that it fell out.

Seems odd.

I am so impressed with some of the suggestions here though!

Have you checked LinkedIn?

at H being a Nancy.

I too think it's the nanny. She's had a friend round and the card has dropped out of their pocket/bag. As someone suggested it could be their employers card which is why your nanny doesn't recognise the name.

When I was a kid I picked up all sorts of shit I found in the street, my mum went mad when she found a bank card I'd found and been playing 'shops' with. I was about 7 and didn't think someone would be frantically looking for their bank card! I also had empty purses that I'd pmess about with and discard whilst playing outside (clearly from robberies, looking back ) a bracelet that I thought was nice but was gold! My mum was furious but I'd never have stolen it, finding it was different iyswim? I'd ask the kids first and say something like 'where did you find this then?' All casually and see their reactions first! (Depending on their ages of course but toy kitchen makes me think young enough to be as random as I was!)

Bloody hell, I hope some of you are writers, you definitely have the imagination for it!

Natasha. I'm all too aware of that baggage, it's shit :(. Your DH sounds like a lovely bloke, please, be careful how you handle this because there will come a time when he's simply had enough of being understanding and dealing with feeling he's not trusted because of what some other bloke did to you. You seemed to have calmed down a lot already, try to get fully out of this 'he could be having an affair' mindset before you talk to him. You don't believe he would cheat on you. He's shown no signs (and you know them well), this situation has a million plausible answers & it's just so highly improbable that it is anything to do with your DH cheating on you. It really, really is not worth using up some of your DH's 'goodwill' over.

I wouldn't rush to any hasty conclusion if this is true.

The Nanny is a Superhero and has a secret identity.

That or is a criminal underworld supremo who has a second identity so that her real one doesn't show up on police checks.

Or the Nanny was kidnapped and switched for another who looks exactly the same but has a different name.

helpful

If you google the 6 digit sort code it should tell you the branch and bank where it was issued.

How odd. I can't see how it would mean affair. Why would an OW take her bank card out in someone else's house. I vote for accidently in the box of the new toy kitchen.

I never knew that! I just googled mine and it took me straight to my branch! Amazing!

Gosh I'd really not think dh was snagging around if I found a random debit card in my house. Is there a reason this has been your first thought?

If you really do think it could you call his place of work and ask to be put through to "name on card" - that will clear up if she is a work colleague before you ask him.

Unless it's my bank and it just says customer services and gives no geographical reference

A few years ago i found a very expensive pair of sunglasses on a table in my flat.
I lived alone, no-one else had keys to my property. I knew every person ( friends ) that had been around in the past few weeks ( only 3 or 4 people) and no-one had lost them.
I had no workmen, no meter readers, no cleaners, no strangers in the house.
I never did find out who owned them.
So I kept them.

Hopefully an innocent explanation :)