Why is another woman's debit card in my house?

[NatashaRomanoff]

Please talk me down, I think I'm close to a panic attack.

My husband is away on business today, he will return this evening, so I can't speak to him right now.

This afternoon I have found a debit card in my house (in the living room) behind some furniture that is not mine. It's not my name or anything close to it. We don't know anybody by the name. The piece of furniture was only recently moved and there was nothing there.

So where the fuck did this come from? Please tell me there's a solution that doesn't include him shagging around. He hasn't shown any of the signs - I know them - exH cheated. I'm an absolute mess.

Message her on Facebook?

I found a designer label men's jacket at the bottom of a wardrobe which hasn't been opened in about three years. It was complete with price tag and security tag.

DP never goes shopping on his own and I refuse to even enter designer shops.

Even if I had seen it in a charity shop I doubt I would have bought it.

Asprilla11 did she look that one up in a dream book ?

I can't post it on Facebook now, this is a 'trending' post (apparently ) which means everyone will know who I am! not acceptable at all.

I so want to know where it came from. It's like magic. Very weird magic. Interesting stuff like this never usually happens to me!

A couple of years ago I found a large full toenail in my spare room. It certainly wasn't mine or DHs and nobody had ever stayed in there. It remains a mystery to this day where that minging toenail came from!

My guess is one of your kids has found it, picked it up then "posted" it behind furniture, my youngest son posts bloody all sorts behind our furniture

I meant private message her to say 'I found your card in my house'

Private messages to people who aren't friends go to some weird inbox that no one knows how to check - you don't get notified about it.

Messaging has changed now. If you send a message to someone who isn't your friend they receive a notification.

Oh really? That's interesting to know. Go for it then OP. It would drive me mad not knowing how it got there!

What if she thinks we've acquired it through dodgy means though? I want to make sure it gets back to her but I don't want any bother.

My dp and I once found a the driving license of a woman outside Tesco. He picked it up, and said he would take it to work and send it back to her via the post. He never did. If I hadn't of been there, and had come across it on my own amongst his things, or in my house I would have been extremely confused and suspicious.

No longer that relevant to the thread, but just a point to show how these things can happen.

pleasethankyou Exactly! Like I'd have something like that in my house. cheap shit, mines way better

Well, unless you followed the rather excellent advice above to buy some jewellery with it () she'll know you're not a thieving thief because it's not been used.

She's probably cancelled it by now, anyway ...

Yeah, I was thinking she's probably cancelled it by now and if you were doing something dodgy with it you wouldn't really contact her to give her card back. But given you don't know how it got there or where it was before you found it you don't know if it could have been used fraudulently.

I was emptying my handbag one morning after a night out - out falls a condom. In front of my husband.

That was awkward.

I still have no idea where it came from. I can only guess one of the lads put it in my bag as a joke.

Wasn't too funny explaining to Dh that I do not carry condoms on work nights out.

I doubt she'll be suspicious of you, OP - thieves don't usually go out of their way to return their loot unused...but if she queries it you can always point her to this thread as evidence, she'll probably get a huge laugh out of the trouble her lost debit card has caused!

My money would be on one of the DC, especially if they're of "posting" age. We once found a bag of hamster food in one of the bottom kitchen cupboards. We've never had any pets and we'd had the kitchen re-done about a year previously so it can't have been left there by previous owners (and we would have found it when moving in anyway). Never did solve the mystery but DS (5 at the time) has always been top of my list of suspects. No idea where he picked it up from though, we've never even been inside a pet shop

I found a large pair of women's knickers in my house, clean, in my underwear draw. I was really stumped! Where the fuck did they come from? I knew for sure dh wasn't shagging anyone else, firstly he's just not that type, he's the last man on earth who would do that and our relationship is just rock solid. Plus the pants were large, and he doesn't find big attractive at all. I just threw them away and forgot about them by the time dh came home, never mentioned it. 6 months later I found out he was indeed having an affair with a fat woman, and around the time I'd found the pants, shortly before the affair ended, he'd actually shagged her in my bed. Which was nice!

Sorry, shouldn't have said fat really, that was a bit mean and unnecessary.

:( Blimey, Snooze. As a fat woman, I think it's a perfectly okay word to use. You managed to avoid using it in an insulting way (that would be with embellishments, 'fat' is a neutral descriptor) - under the circs, you deserve congratulations on that!

snooze I don't think you sounded mean at all. You made a valid observation.
That said when reading your post I was a bit about the last man on earth who'd cheat and thought all women who're cheated on never think their partner is the type. Good thing I read the whole post!

Thanks

snooze, that's almost funny. except its not fucking funny AT ALL as it happended to you. wowser [shocked]

Send her a message on facebook telling her you found it. That's the only way you'll figure it all out....Then update us