Why is another woman's debit card in my house?

[NatashaRomanoff]

Please talk me down, I think I'm close to a panic attack.

My husband is away on business today, he will return this evening, so I can't speak to him right now.

This afternoon I have found a debit card in my house (in the living room) behind some furniture that is not mine. It's not my name or anything close to it. We don't know anybody by the name. The piece of furniture was only recently moved and there was nothing there.

So where the fuck did this come from? Please tell me there's a solution that doesn't include him shagging around. He hasn't shown any of the signs - I know them - exH cheated. I'm an absolute mess.

Most likely explanation is your Nanny is an East European head of a passport and Credit card fraud syndicate have you checked your shed? she is probably running a brothel out of it.

Could someone have had it delivered to you address as part of a scam. It happened to me once. I started getting random 'things' through the post.

I wouldn't be to heavy when he comes home , definitely don't try to trick him with imaginary emails etc ..just show him the card and ask him does he know who's it is . If it was me and I knew nothing about it I would feel you didn't trust me which isn't good .

Lol Blindsider that's more believable than some of the other 'explanations 😳

My immediate thoughts once you said the card is new and unsigned were along the same lines as Blindsider (well, up to the brothel part). Unsigned debit card suggests potential fraud activity to me. Obvs if you'd found a stack of blank cards at least, one on its own is unlikely to be an international fraud ring, but impersonation and stealing identity is a one-by-one process.

As a complete aside OP, sign your Debit card immediately!!! you are not protected if you don't meet basic personal security obligations such as signing your card and keeping PIN secret

Do you have any library books (school or public) in the house? Someone could quite easily pop a book in their handbag and have it swallow up their bank card and be none the wiser. Likewise have you ordered anything off eBay or similar recently?

I have a child Fagin would be proud of, always bringing home credit cards he finds.

Have you asked your DC?

I'm wondering what your DH does for a living- does it involve casual employing of people at all? My DD is always losing her debit card & is often employed in a temporary capacity (farmer). This week she has been around the county shearing & the main man took her along with him. Just another thought to put out there!
I'd not be worried about the cheating side- more insanely curious as to how this card had got in my house.

At work a few years ago,I found £200 in cash lying flat at the bottom of an almost full box of rolls of Christmas wrapping paper.

It was right under the rolls, lying flat so could not have been dropped in. We took it the police, and after a few months got it back again as it was not claimed. The charity I was working for made good use of the money.

The reason I'm relating this anecdote, is because the only explanation I could think of was it must have got there during the manufacturing/boxing of the wrapping paper.

One thing you could do, is phone your DH's workplace anonymously and ask to speak to the named person on the card.

Personally I think it's to do with the Nanny.

You could always do one of those fucking annoying Facebook posts - "does anyone know this person, I've found their debit card...

With the numbers wiped off the pic, of course.

I'm guessing it was in a library or second hand book and fell out.

If you have a nanny who works with your children in your home, I'd assume he wasn't doing anything there. It sounds like it's someone who's been in your home, rather than something that would brought to the house. My money is on your nanny's friend with the same first name.

Take it to the bank?

The library book thing sounds like a perfectly feasible explanation, especially if the piece of furniture where you might put a library book down.

So, nobody your husband is friends on fb with...?

But seriously, don't jump to connclusions.

If you have a 5 or 6 year old I would guess they have found the card somewhere and have posted it there to keep it safe/hide the evidence. Of course they will deny all knowledge! My 6 year old collected all sorts of things and stashed them away.

Is there a sort code on the card? That should at least tell you which branch the card owner has an account with?

Could it be that your nanny knows this person by a different surname?

Do you have many children round for play dates? A friend's toddlers so obsessed with my cards and has some of her own that belonged to family members, could be a cancelled account that they'd been given?

I hope it's innocent OP.

In the late 80's I left a vibrator in the backseat of my best friends fathers car.....

There was an innocent explanation but it caused a shit storm

We recently found a really nice Tommy Hilfiger shirt in our laundry.

We have no idea where it came from. DH ins't a logo/brand guy, he didn't buy it, and I didn't - so where did it come from? Hadn't had any recent guests either.

Mystery.

'One thing you could do, is phone your DH's workplace anonymously and ask to speak to the named person on the card.'

I would try this too.

Go to 192 com and put in the name. It will ask for a location.
Put your town in It should bring up a list of the name and all
the locations that have this name in them.
It is a starting point. If it did bring up the name in a location near you
then you can pay to get the full address.
Up to u what you then do with the info
Does he ever bring collegues Home? Could be a colleague's
wifes card?

Actually I have just remembered that my daughter found a bank card in the street last summer when out playing. she wouldn't of told me had I not seen her with it and it could well of ended up kicked across the living room floor. I posted it on facebook and the persons friend lived at the top of our street and he'd been there the night before and dropped it on the way.