Why is another woman's debit card in my house?

[NatashaRomanoff]

Please talk me down, I think I'm close to a panic attack.

My husband is away on business today, he will return this evening, so I can't speak to him right now.

This afternoon I have found a debit card in my house (in the living room) behind some furniture that is not mine. It's not my name or anything close to it. We don't know anybody by the name. The piece of furniture was only recently moved and there was nothing there.

So where the fuck did this come from? Please tell me there's a solution that doesn't include him shagging around. He hasn't shown any of the signs - I know them - exH cheated. I'm an absolute mess.

I'd have just texted by now. All it would need is 'just found this bank card behind the furniture, any ideas how it got there?'

lego, dying to hear the innocent explanation for the vibrator!

Natasha, I once found a pair of men's small underpants in the laundry. Way too small for dh and I know I wasn't cheating and am fairly certain dh wasn't cheating with a skinny man either!

Another time I found a child's E 111 card on the pavement in our village. Put up a notice on Facebook and found the Mum but where I had found the card was nowhere near where she lived.

My point being that things can end up in very strange places indeed and sometimes we never find out why. The last thing I would think of was a cheating husband.

Do you have other reasons to be suspicious of your husband? Because if this happened to me, wouldn't actually cross my mind that it was anything to do with an affair or anything and it wouldn't be anything that would need "confronting".......

Do you have a pet? Newspapers are always full of cats bringing home random things like knickers and newspapers.

What on earth were you doing with a vibrator in your friend's father's car Lego ?

If the nanny has a friend with the same name, it could be that she's married/divorced and using one name on FB and the other on official documents.

Most likely explanation is your Nanny is an East European head of a passport and Credit card fraud syndicate have you checked your shed? she is probably running a brothel out of it.

That'll be it.

There should be a phone number for the bank on the card. If you call it they will contact the woman in question. Happened to me once when I found a man's wallet.

Other thing would be if the DC go to nursery and have a role play shop. Could a member of staff put out of date cards in the role play corner and the DC brought it home?

Simple, it's only just worked its way through the sofa cushions, but belonged to another customer who sat on it before you bought it.

A couple more suggestions for you ...

Your nanny may not be familiar with nicknames (so she had a friend Torie come round and you asked her if she knows Victoria)?

One of your nanny's friends had been given the debit card by her employer to use to withdraw cash for incidentals?

As the nanny's friend has the same forename I would think it's something your child picked up - they can be little magpies - when out with the nanny. Or the friend dropped it, you don't know how long that card lay there so it may be weeks' ago that the nanny had that particular friend over.

(And do sign the back of your own card!).

go onto a local Facebook page (possibly using a different account] Stating you have found the card.invite pm from owner?

How odd.

I think I'd be suspicious too and getting my Sherlock Holmes on.

I like the idea of ringing his work though. But to be fair you could just present him with it and gauge his reaction.

Of course you could end up none the wiser and still suspecting...

One more thing - has the nannys friend recently got married?

Do you have library books?

I once found a £20 note being used as a book mark in the book I borrowed, I have also been known to use store cards as book marks so it's not impossible for someone to use their debit card and it's fallen out when someone has read the book at your house.

Someone could have put it there deliberately.

Lelly sorry but i'm chuckling at the image of a cat trotting home with a credit card between its teeth!
Good luck OP hope its all innocent.

I am with others - card. Down the side of the sofa. Left there by:

Library book
Packer/maker/upholsterer/checker from the sofa factory
Other customer in the sofa shop
Babysitter (had a friend over without telling you)
Fallen from someone's handbag (Health Visitor/Midwife?) or even more likely from the card holder bit of the phone cover

Lots of possible innocent explanations. I would phone the sofa shop and ask for the person. Ditto Toy Kitchen. Ditto your DH's work/gym. Maybe try linked in.

Mostly just speak to your DH.

Is the card in date? It's not a toy one is it? From elc or something or nursery? I give the dc old loyalty cards for their play shop.

I was hyperventilating once recently because I found a receipt for clothes paid for when dp was supposed to be seeing family. It took me ages to calm down and realise it had fallen out of my work bag and was a receipt from one of my staff for something she was claiming on expenses. I felt like a twat because I jumped to judge dp so fast!

Expecting a good outcome here as I can't imagine a scenario whereby cheating DH's bit on the side would have got her debit card out on your sofa.
Let us know what he says!

I'm waiting for the update too.

I'm certain it's all fine.

I hope you find out where it came from. This would drive me insane wondering!

This doesn't sound dodgy to me OP, try not to worry. Weird shit happens all the time in a house with young kids and adults coming and going.

I recently found an adult sized Batman onesie in my laundry basket. I have no idea how it got there. My teenagers are denying all knowledge and my H is emphatically not The Batman. It was like something from The X-Files.

I can see why you are curious, who wouldn't be?

If I were you I would try and call his work place and ask for the name on the card, or, I would ask him what he knows...

My vote is for the Nanny having had someone round.

What's dodgy is that the card isn't signed.