Of course babies don't hate you! Babies are selfish wee buggers if you meet their needs they'll adore you! As for cuddles/holding its being relaxed that makes the difference and with her going on at you like that I'm not bloody surprised you weren't!
I can't remember who said what
Yes to the Loudly squeaking wheel - my own father has been 'dying immininently' for 20 years, in addition most of his medical issues are IMO self inflicted.
Like calling to like - I remember leaving my now ex in laws after a week there (I'd just met them ) and thinking wtaf! This was 20+ years ago and I had no idea of GC/sg, NC, toxic parenting etc I look back now and it was all there in that first week. Ex was GC, his brother was sg (and NC at that point, he got hoovered back in after we split so I've never met him, I'd like to actually I suspect he's a decent guy), he's now NC again. Both parents were different kinds of narcs, mil martyr, fil more classic grandiose/self important/arrogant/entitled and VERY controlling!
There was a timetable! Up at 7am (on holiday) no breakfast till you'd had a shower, how to leave the bathroom, when to eat/snack, what was eaten at those times etc. We had night early evening out while we were there with friends who lived nearby, but we had to be in before 11pm! - we were early 20's but couldn't be trusted to lock up and set the burglar alarm and they NEVER stayed up past 11! And I tolerated this for TEN YEARS!
Ex is definitely damaged as a result. Even though he was the GC, which is often seen as the 'better' position. He has very low self esteem, lacks confidence in many areas but conversely is very arrogant in others (mainly with women). Youth and looks is very much an issue in the family and now ex is losing his its affecting him really badly.
Money as a tool to control -
Omg yes! Both mine and ex's family. His are quite well off but mean with it. Mine - many sat/sun mornings father threw (literally threw scrunched up) a note at me with a sarcastic apology.
Sister has been so afraid of becoming my mother she's become my father. She was in an abusive relationship and got out but I think it did scare her that she ended up there. Now she uses people, I think there's an element of using/hurting people 'before they use/hurt me'. Explains but doesn't excuse her behaviour though. Very controlling and manipulative.
But back to the cruise