Kik - what's it all about

[MilkshakeMonkey]

So, yesterday when needed a calculator quickly, I grabbed DH s iPhone and in my hurry swiped right and I saw on his recent used apps he had Kik.

I know nothing about Kik except it's some kind of message app, which I believe has had press for being used anonymously to flirt? (Please feel free to tell me I'm wrong)
We both use whatsapp to message (each other and friends) as phone reception is poor in our area and it uses wifi. So I'm a bit confused why he would have Kik as well? (And it's not been mentioned)

Anyway, I looked back later and it wasn't there (on recent or any icon). Does it have an icon normally?

So, does anyone know much about it?
(Before I get ear bashing about how I should just talk to him, I just need to get my head around it first if it is something I need to worry about)

I only ever use kik for online sexting

Is an easy app to delete and reinstall without loosing contacts.

It's pretty anonymous so perfect for that really.

But maybe it's innocent.

It could be innocent....but a lot of people on fabswingers use kik...

I was going to suggest what wherearemymarbles said but didn't know how to explain it
Gut instinct is rarely wrong but you do need evidence to confront, hopefully there is none.

Re downloading it isn't a good idea unless they've changed the way it works. It used to be that you had to sign in again with your username/email and password to access it.

Fabswingers?

I use it to talk to my mum!

Hook up site!

yep, a hookup site.

Couldn't you ask him, casual conversation style, 'oh, have you ever used Kik?' Just like you would if you'd just discovered jam doughnuts and wanted to tell him about them. You could say that a friend had mentioned that it's better than whatsapp or something like that. It would be interesting to see his reaction and you never know, he might say 'yeah, all the guys at work use it'.

I would try marbles suggestion and hope his password was stored automatically when you reload the app.
I hate all the sneaking around like that but experience has shown me it is necessary. There's nothing worse than confronting him with your suspicions only for him to deny and minimise, and you're left still wondering.

That's my fear luckiestgirl I don't want to play my hand too soon

Just wanted to add that I used to use kik to use to talk to friends who didn't want to pay to use whatsapp, so it could be innocent

Not looking good, that plus the fact that he's possessive over his phone would make me think the worst OP, I'd drop it in conversation and see if he admits to using it, if he says no, you have your answer.

What is your relationship like in general? If this was me then I'd just simply ask my husband.. what is the reason you're not? He's aware you pick up his phone from time to time so why not just simply say ' what's Kik by the way? I saw it the other day when I used your calculator.'

If you don't trust him then that's a different matter altogether

Do you think you'd be able to tell if he was lying? I think the best thing to do if it's really worrying you is to just ask. I don't know how you're going to get evidence if he's deleted it. Problem is, if he denies it, will you believe him?

I would do nothing. For now. Try and make like everything is normal. It may actually be. If there is something to find you will find it. Life has a way of speaking /showing you what is going on...

Unfortunately asking someone straight, doesn't mean you will get a straight answer! And then you have just shown someone you are onto them, which could just mean they hide it better.

But this is her husband. So, unless there is some backstory here or she's got reason to mistrust him, then surely just ask? Not accuse, just ask.

My husband would rather I spoke up so he could reassure me than have me worrying away over nothing.

If you now divulge that he has previous for this sort of thing then I take the above back. But assuming he hasn't, because you've not mentioned it, just so him the courtesy of asking

The occasions where a cheater admits when asked are very very few. They will deny unless you have irrefutable evidence. Even then they will only admit to what you know.

There is a website that cheaters used to use and the motto is "deny, deny, deny". You get a great insight into their minds.

When you ask if they are cheating you just give them forewarning that you're suspicious and they will spin you a warn and hide it even further.

Since he deleted the app has his behaviour towards you changed I. E. Is he being a lot nicer than usual?

Sometimes that's done to throw you off the scent. IF he's cheating, he knows what's at stake and it's in his best interest to keep it hidden.

You could always set up "family share" if you both have iPhones. That way you can look at which apps your OH has (on the premise that you don't want to pay twice) and could innocently ask him "oh, what's this Kik app?" Gauge his reaction and you'll know whether to worry.

I don't stalk my DH in this way but I do unashamedly stalk my kids!

It's a clothes shop in Germany.

How you doing OP?

Do people really believe asking is enough?

Wow naive.

No dear I'm not cheating on you ...
Of course I didn't take drugs when all my friends were..

People who do bad things don't then admit it for no good reason.

And I know even people in really good marriages cheat, flirt online and even hook up for one night stands.

People often hide parts of them even with those whom believe they know the most