Hugs for you matron , your mum sounds great - I was going to post a but to you to ask why you think you relapse - but I see you have answered the question yourself. It may not need to be goodbye forever ( though it may) but at the moment it seems you can't be AF and keep on with the same lifestyle .... Don't beat yourself up in a critical way matron, every challenge you have overcome, every day you have chosen to be AF, all the anguish when you have drunk, all of that contributes to you, and to your eventual ability to choose to be AF ... You can do it - you just have to set yourself up for success and confiding in your DM sounds like a good start ....
fireandice you post as much as you like ! Welcome to the dry space :-) I'm glad you have support from your husband - I think it is much harder if you live with someone who is invested in you continuing to drink - for whatever reason ...
I'm having another quiet day - will go for a good walk with the dog and go to yoga. Catching up on paperwork and thankful to have no hangover /regrets /blackouts to contend with on this beautiful day .
I am making plans to go on holiday next Easter with the DC. Maybe to India or China, - somewhere exotic. By then I will have been AF for more than a year and I estimate I wil have saved in excess of £3500 ... The ability to plan ahead is new for me. At the moment there are no events that I can't imagine being dry at - I am sure this is partly because I have done dry Christmas/ birthdays / celebrations before - but then I didn't really allow myself to accept it was permenant. This time I am being more proactive about deciding that I am definitely done ... Am more worried about the unexpected catching me out ...
cooee your day sounds great
rose you are sounding calm and strong - hope all is good with you
fuzzy were you a runner before you were AF ?
Welcome back slim
Waves to vxa' finnish mary jojo and glad
howbad I know what you mean about not trusting your ex/P to take proper care of your DC ... Mine seems his sons on a Saturday, almost never has them to stay over ( and only one at a time) and is pretty useless... BUT the kids have worked it out, dad is there, they seem him for a movie, tap him for £10,but he has no authority, because he takes no responsibility - that falls to me and DP ...
Honestly what makers to the kids is seeing both parents and having a happy mum / home...
Happy sober Sunday
Lily 🌷 Xx
Ps hi to all the other not currently posting - Come back 🌺