DRY 13

[lilybetsy]

This is the thread for all those who are living, or committed to living, life free from alcohol.

I will quote a sober poster "I'm fitter, slimmer, richer, happier & healthier"

Go sober warriors !

[HowBadIsThisPlease]

Hi all.
I think Lily you are right about planning something nice; I feel like you have to have a reason to keep moving, a pull or a draw. It can be so easy to get bogged down in being so busy that you forget to set things up to move you on from thing to thing. Good reminder.

I have a friend date in for next week - she's an old friend and was a big drinking buddy. I'm going to have to let her know before I meet her that I'm not drinking, or it's going to be all over. I really want to see her so I'll just have to face up to it and tell her I really want to meet for dinner and won't be drinking.

I've got to more than drift about. I found myself thinking today, while I was hanging out washing, "I need some success!" It's like a thirst. I feel like I need to work at something that then turns out to be good.

[Lucy2610]

Watch short presentation outlining some excellent new research exploring the success of online mutual aid in recovery + link to take part anonymously in research about recovery for University of Southern California here :)

[FuzzyWhiteLegs]

Arghh 20 weeks Cooee, I can do elementary math honestly

HowBad sounds like you need A Project...

[MaryMarigold]

Thank you for the warm welcome

I really enjoyed my ginger beer but it buuurrrnnned. So spicy!

So tonight, instead of collapsing into a little sozzled heap and falling asleep, I have had a fun evening playing monopoly with my kids and watching them dance like loons to gangnam style. Definitely more enjoyable.

Don't know what it is about Fridays and booze. I realised today that it is literally just another day of the week. I guess Fridays have just become another excuse to "celebrate" by getting drunk.

I poured all the alcohol in the house away this evening apart from the things I know I would never touch even if I was in a desert island situation (port and rum, bleurgh). I feel like I've drawn a line in the sand.

Sorry, I'm rambling on now...

[HowBadIsThisPlease]

please ramble! yay for sober fun times with dcs!

[finnishbiscuiteater]

Can I join in too? Day 5 for me, and admitted to friend on. Weds that I need to go AF, as my drinking is problematic. Strange how scary it is to say that out loud!

[finnishbiscuiteater]

But it is strange to ' celebrate Friday' with a herbal tea and a choc biscuit!

[MaryMarigold]

I'm having an Assam tea and a slice of lemon and poppy seed cake, Finnish... Very rock and roll!

[vxa2]

Welcome finnish

[AbsoluteBeginner]

Welcome Mary and Finnish great to have you on board. I have started doing exercise on Friday evenings now which is great. It's something I would never have planned before, because it was unthinkable to me to NOT be drinking wine from 5.30. But getting out in fresh air is so much better

[finnishbiscuiteater]

Thanks vxa2 and AB,


Your friday night treat sounds lovely Mary. Are the books good? I daren't read any, because I'm embarrassed. I don't have a kindle or anything... not sure i want the kids to find that kind of book (but then ot sure I want them to see me pissed all the time either!)

was awake and stressing 3:30 - 5:00 this morning - not sure if that's a 'things in my life are difficult' thing or a alcohol withdrawal thing! I smoked a lot last weekend too (cos I was drinking a lot) - so maybe it's nicotene withdrawal too.

howbad - I can't wait to find out what project you take on!

[Rosewinehunt71]

Morning Everyone! Welcome all newbies after a struggling week I am here on Day 19 feeling happy blessed and grateful xxx my 'grief' has lifted slightly and realise how can you grieve for something that wasn't good for you, is poison, makes you look and do stupid things and makes you forget important things? Hence i am grateful for you guys for support, simply just being here and making me realise that I'm not the only one going through this

I am glad to be clear and able to work out my triggers and thinking ahead to avoid them xx got home from work last night and relaxed with a couple of glasses of Shloer and ice (normally it would have been 2 bottles of Rose with ice) what an amazing difference!! Everyone is amazing on here what we are doing deserves huge praise as there are others in life who are worsely addicted or don't want to be cured xxx Love to you all and thank you

[FuzzyWhiteLegs]

Morning all

Welcome finnish Sober books and blogs are great - I binge read them for a good couple of months when I first quit. Do you have an iPhone? You can get a kindle app for that - maybe for android also but I'm not sure. Yes your waking could be a bit of both - it will settle down. You could try a nice calming tea - pukka night time is good, if a bit peculiar smelling!

Rose well done! Great to hear you describe your relaxing evening with a glass of shloer. Often people worry they will never be able to relax again, but it is not only possible, but so much better without the fakery of the booze.

[lilybetsy]

Hi finnish and mary - great start ! It gets easier with sleep after a couple of weeks , and it gets easier with evenings as you start to lay down new 'habits' ... The reward comes the next morning when you feel great !

(Although I woke up with a headache again which is very unfair !)

Planning a quiet day today with DP - I went to Pilates whilst he nursed his hangover - now going to cook something nice and watch GoT

Happy Saturday all X

Lily 🌷

[CooeeOnlyMe]

Hi everyone, welcome Mary and Finnish. Went to a friends for dinner last night, took some Schloer Rose with me (and wine for the hosts!) which was great but sweet, a whole bottle was too much really! Had a great time and drive home. The only problem was I am not used to driving around the city centre at midnight on s Friday, for obvious reasons, and I nearly ran someone over as he staggered off the pavement in front if my car . Missed him fortunately but it did make me think of all the times I've nearly got myself run over. Ridiculous that I used to get so drunk I put myself in such danger.

Feeling good today, kids have got a birthday party to go to this afternoon which I'm actually looking forward to as I'll be able to catch up with done if the other parents.

What's everyone else up to this weekend?

[CooeeOnlyMe]

Sorry for typos posting on my phone

[MaryMarigold]

Gosh it's quiet on this thread today!

Cooee Shloer is way too sweet for me. I had Fentimans rose lemonade today which tasted amazing and is all pink and sparkly. I would recommend!

Finnish I have The Sober Revolution on the Kindle app on my phone. The Andrew Johnson thing is an app called Quit Drinking, it's like meditation/hypnotism. I don't think of myself as being particularly suggestible but it really seems to be working. I would normally be having stupidly strong cravings from day 3 onwards but nothing so far. DD saw the app on my phone and read out the title but didn't query it at all, so I wouldn't worry about DC seeing book titles etc.

Day 4 in the bag. Wasn't very productive today but I'm just trying to be gentle with myself at the moment. Getting sober is more important than the housework right now!!

Hope everyone's ok...

[HowBadIsThisPlease]

Hi Mary!
Hi Finnish!
Hi everyone!

Just off to bed. It's been a mixed day, there was a time around 7pm when I suddenly thought "oh yes this is why I used to like alcohol oblivion" but it wasn't a real pang, just a sort of memory of a thing I can't do any more.

Loving being with the dcs today, and hating thinking about tearing their world apart. thinking about them being expected to live part time somewhere they have never seen, worrying about what it will be like, thinking about them being sad and disrupted and confused and hurt. I do not honestly trust P to do a great job of finding a place and sorting it out well for them. I also don't trust him with financial stability. And I'm worrying about all that.

Ugh just deleted a load of crap about this stupid ex relationship. Onwards and upwards. there is no point in worrying.

The last time I ended a relationship, I was sober for about 6 weeks. the day he left the house for the last time, I was distraught, and went to the kitchen and saw an open bottle of wine with the cork in it, right there. I reached for it and then had a moment of clarity where a voice in my head said "if you have a drink now, you will be shitfaced within an hour and then you will probably not be properly sober again for months". I stayed away from drinking and it was one of the best times of my life. Not at once! but soon.

Mary - you are so right about the housework - it can go whistle

Have a good evening all and see you tomorrow

(are you there matron?)

[finnishbiscuiteater]

Woo! Another day done...

High-fives mary I've not been very productive at all. But I did do day one of yogacamp. Must try to find something wholesome to represent me time, to replace the wine/hangovers.

Am drinking stupid amounts of water, is that a detox thing?

Will try to download the book, thanks both for the recommendation!

Night night all

[glad2016]

Hi all :)

I have moved from the AJ app every day now to Headspace - now done 60 days every day :) and really am feeling the benefit. If I get/got the urge to drink it really did help me to do the meditation tools I learned from Headspace and it really did help me to not drink . Actually it has really helped me in all aspects of life in general . I recommend it. Still love AJ and "Nowwwww" in a lovely accent :)

Sober since 16th Dec 2015 :)

Life is good here. business blooming, family life still shit but that I cannot control so I do my best to cope. Much better coping without alcohol poisoning it all!

KOKO Sober Warriors

[fireandicecubes]

Hi can I join you all please? I've woke up this morning & realised I need to be AF. I don't like myself when I'm drunk & it seems to be happening more these days, it takes less to get me very drunk & I hate feeling like crap the next day. I'm going to talk to DH later today & then I'll stock up on fruity AF drinks when I go shopping.

[SlimCheesy]

Morning all. Welcome everyone new, I will read and catch up on the thread today.

Day 1 for me. But I am BACK and stronger than ever. My little foray into moderation (2 days worth) SUCKED and was SO not worth it.

More later. I am counting days this time too.

[finnishbiscuiteater]

Morning all

howbad sorry I missed your post last night. Thinking of you.

Morning fireandice and welcome to the club!

glad am in awe. Such a good long time of being sober!, its inspiring.

Wb slim

[fireandicecubes]

I've tried moderation - it just doesn't work cos I get carried away. I've also got Crohn's disease & although I'm in remission the alcohol plays havoc with my stomach & I feel dreadful for days. I don't drink daily, just weekends but I know I'll feel better for stopping completely.

[MatronLittle]

Morning all

Day 2 for me. I didn't even attempt moderation I had no intention of drinking. Unexpected visitors popped by on Thursday evening. The champagne in my fridge was a huge mistake.

Why oh why did I read all the advice about alcohol in the shed, out of the home, give it away and then ignore it because I had no intention of drinking it so I was complacent, cocky even, and left it in my fridge.

I stopped drinking 11pm Friday after a car crash of a night. High drama, chaos, paranoia, danger etc.

Thankfully I made it home.

On the upside this is a relatively quick turn around for me. I can lose myself for weeks. I am grateful that it has been short.

slim I agree it is so not worth it X

jojo I hope you had a fab birthday X

Hello to all the new posters great that you are here