Spring has sprung and the sap is rising! It's Dating Thread 104

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Well surprisingly plane man is back. Sent me a message asking if I'd binned him off as if not replied to any of his texts yesterday. I've had no texts since the suggestive one ! Told him this and he screenshot me a page of messages from yesterday all normal and a bit apologetic ..

Strawberry - I would only respond to those who have made an effort. I ignore all messages which just say 'hi', or 'hi sexy'. And anything 50 shades style too (I had one ask me to be his submissive in the very first message he ever sent!). I find POF is more likely to attract these messages than Tinder, but Tinder still does throw out some clangers sometimes!

What - how do you feel about planeman now he is back in touch with an explanation?

314 - do stay in the loop and keep us updated on life post dating!

I am feeling pretty mixed today. I am exchanging for my new house, which was bought from my share of the equity of the house I previously owned with my ex (we were together 6 years, lived together for 3). He bought me out and is still in 'our' home.

Jeez does it make this all feel so final, because now absolutely every connection to him is severed. It needed to end, we werent right for each other and I feel like 'me' again, but this all feels so bitter sweet :(

In other news - no contact from YPT, big fat boo. Consistent contact from Dom. And ongoing friendly chat from Cherry (still debating a FWB situation with him). This whole house thing today though is making me evaluate my irons and what I want. Gah emotions.

No idea strawberry just gonna play it by ear. I've tentatively downloaded tinder but don't understand how it works anyone give me any tips haven't pressed anything as wasn't sure what i was doing.

Sorry it wasn't strawberry who asked it was miss

Gosh it's gone so quiet on here again this week! I'll totally do a me me post just to fill some space
Still being slow faded by vampire which is so weird after 3 really good dates, and I mean they really were great! But who knows what that's about its just the way of things with OLD, frustrating and can easily be taken to heart so I've been totally distracting myself by swiping madly on tinder yesterday and I have myself a new iron who I'm calling disneydad we've been chatting all day and what started off as a simple time filler and distraction from me being pissed off and disappointed about the seeming disappearance of vampire has actually turned out to be some nice chats with a seemingly sweet guy. May get interesting! Who knows but for sure the best way to get over wondering about what's happened to someone or what went wrong with an iron you liked is certainly to get on and find another ASAP!!

Excellent work last! I've said it often that getting distracted by fresh irons is the best way to move on and it gives you a boost

Not much happening here as I have only one iron Leicester but I'm smitten. He seems to prefer phoning to texting and I'm very happy with the steady way things are heading at the moment.

misszp I hope you're feeling ok, it definitely causes mixed emotions . The move, a fresh start, but I think that's good. You are looking again at your situation (and irons) and you can work out what you want.

Evening all

been chatting to another guy, started at the same time as the other lost cause - but going quite well. Lives not far, works in a similar environment, seems nice... who knows!

Great work last

Foxtrot glad you are smitten and happy

Good luck with the move misszp

Oh dear I think I may have acted a bit hastily and possibly created a bit of complication in my habit of fearing the worst instantly. vamp just turned up saying he'd had the busiest day ever etc and asking if I were ok so maybe he's not going to disappear after all! The new iron disney dad seems nice so far and is very funny but after 3 lovely dates and the best snogging ever I'm instantly drawn back to vampire hmmm will just have to play it by ear and maybe keep my options open until date 4 is either firmed up or written off.
foxtrot so love reading your leicester updates especially as you are on the same timeline as me and date number etc. Exciting stuff! When and where is your date 4?

Where's bant was looking forward to hearing his updates from the weekend back with his gf. And reddish too..

anyone dating this weekend?

Anyone around to explain tinder to me?? If I say yes what does that mean. How do I find out anything about them?

I can't explain tinder to you - I also had to learn by doing...ie swiping & find where the messages were. I had a couple of promising conversations that fizzled out & met one guy but we were not suited so hasn't been much use to me - I'm 50s in Yorkshire which may be relevant - it is quite fun swiping with friends though!

I'm dating this weekend Last Cinema date with Doofus. We had a little chat last night, all fine. It's actually bloody lovely being so not bothered about a date. I have no high hopes, he seems sweet and funny and I'm sure we'll have a laugh but can't really see it going anywhere.
No other irons. Penpal has gone (predictably) quiet and other matches aren't going anywhere. Tis all good though.

I agree...keep your options open with Vamp/Disney Dad. Chat to them both and see what happens..

what If you right swipe and they do too, you'll match and then you can chat....and that's when you find out more about them! Some people put nothing on their profile, which is irritating.

Foxtrot Things sound good with Leicester. Must be nice to have a phoner!

314 Please don't completely go! We neeeeeed you! But it all sounds very healthy for you to take a break and focus on your Amazing Life, so I wish you well xx

Oh, and I told my mum I had a date on Sat night and the first thing she said was "he's not Irish, is he?"

freaky yay for dating again! and the ones where you have literally no expectations are often the best! I know mine was I'm looking forward to hearing your loo update! You deserve a bit of fun if nothing else! Go girl!

whatamI it's pretty easy, you just swipe away, left for no, right for yes please and carry on. Sometimes it will be an instant match and it feels like snap! Other times you'll get a notification saying you've got a new match. Also if they send you a message you will get notified too. But be warned so many match and don't talk it's weird! I've not had a tinder date, all mine have been from POF or OKC but have chatted to a few and come close. The majority seem to ignore though it's quite frustrating

We'll see...I am just hoping for a fun night of drink, film and maybe a snog! I kind of hope that I don't like him too much as he lives too far away to make anything possible. Or at least easy...

Oh if it's complicated in any way freaky and he lives far away you just know it's going to be a good date! The law of sod will see you that

Ah bollocks. Indie boy just texted saying we couldn't get to see each other enough and he was just going to make me sad, so ended it
I knew it was coming as he'd backed right off, but just fricking annoying.
Got no other irons in the fire either godammit!

Oh buggar skyrabbit hope you're ok. Onwards and upwards tomorrow with some new irons

Ok so tinder is ....different! Put profile up last night and within mins of swiping a few had 2 matches. Have woken up to 5 more and messages.

And lift man sent a text saying "sorry I didn't impress you enough for you to text back!.' Confused as I've not heard from him since we left the cafe. Anyway he didn't so ignoring that.

last thanks - I think I am actually. We've carried on chatting and I think we'll keep on touch - he's a nice bloke, just didn't want to lead me on I think - struggling prioritising. I have a new iron, but I don't think it'll go anywhere, but nice for the ego! I shall call him Flyboy.

So Tinder - is it a bit scary??

sky tinder is different to what I've used before match or pof am surprised at the number of matches and contacts so quickly ..pity many of them have no info on their profile so you can't get a measure of them...well we will see and it keeps my mind off car man who is gonna be my one who got away for a while....I need to get him out of my head so more irons are a good distraction. Onwards to the weekend

what so is it relationship territory or hook up? I'm finding PoF increasingly full of sex mad blokes in their 50s

sky no idea so far....I've replied to 3 messages but am assuming people in work today no idea what they want but hey we'll find out. I want a relationship eventually but really want someone to call a friend first and foremost and hopefully we have that spark... Not sure about hook ups not my scene too old for that palavar!