Spring has sprung and the sap is rising! It's Dating Thread 104

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

The reason why the Bear rejection could have damaged my confidence if I hadn't nipped that in the bud is because I actually thought he got that I was witty and kind and warm and clever.......... and he still thinks he can do better. He probably will too. It's a man's world

lastnickname it's so true about freedom levels. I need to find somebody with similarly limited freedom but ........... there are few men on earth with as little freedom. Rave46 might have been a contender but he's stopped messaging.

Loo update!!! If it will load!

Leicester is lovely

last I'm wearing my work clothes met straight after work!

Wouldn't you need someone with more freedom 314? If you are both limited, you might never see each other...
Are you going to give Ravey a nudge? I haven't got a Mad Tinder Guy yet...we only exchanged a few messages last night. He's just a bit random and made me chuckle. Hope he comes back...

last don't write it off yet. I do think that if two people like each other enough then the practical stuff can be overcome But I do think that you are doing the right thing and taking it one date

Handy That sounds positive, I think, but must be very scary for you. How are you doing tonight? Are you seeing Twix tomorrow?

314 you're funny.

Sounds good so far Fox

I've messaged Bad Timing Man to say yes to a coffee.
I'll keep you updated. Until then I plan to go back to the shadows to lurk.
My work situation is truly dire so that's requires my energy now.

Oooh, Foxtrot good news!

foxtrot ooh more updates needed later!! on the snogging factor

freaky you are right of course. When 2 people meet and fall absolutely in love, any obstacles can be got around if both want it enough. And things you thought were really important to you and were must haves can change in a instant.
So I'll keep an open mind but usually I can't help but daydream and look ahead when I meet someone new, especially when it has an amazing start off like this,
a fellow hopeless romantic but I just feel so much more guarded these days which is a shame but necessary for guarding my heart!

Is he local to you last? I think that'll really help if you both have limited time...easier to meet up for a quick coffee etc rather than doing proper "dates" all the time.

fREAKY, I will give him a nudge but not til tomorrow evening after my interview is ticked off.

I also need to spend a few hours practising excel super user before the test. so i've time for NOTHING. kids can forage in the cupboards, men can do with out me fuck yeh, men having been doing well without me :-/ :-( so I need to tick off these things first. I actually managed to fit in a yoga meltdown (power yoga) today. Minus the gregorian chants in the background to counter jillian michaels yelling at you! but that's it now. I've time for everything except men and my own children. wow. that's quite an admission when I see it typed there. who typed that :-p

Kids are alright. one is watching transformers and the other is studying. they have eaten. I'm not that bad.

i feel a bit manic though. like tomorrow is a marathon. But then it's not over because i have a test on wednesday.

Way!!! good news fox

Yes, very! We live a 15/20 minute drive away so half hour coffee etc is always possible. I just hate suggesting things incase they say no!

Oops above answer was for freaky 😉

... Loving the Foxtrot loo update Will now lurk with last for the snogging update if there is one...

Ana great that you've said yes to a coffee date. Sorry to hear about your work situation.

314 you need a MTG I think - good luck for tomorrow.

Thanks for your thoughts everyone. It means loads. Absolutely loads. Felt a lot more relaxed this afternoon but feel a bit delicate too. All I want in the world is to see Twix and have a hug and a kiss and hold hands. He was lovely today. Seeing him tomorrow, thank me goodness. I also told my bestie this pm.

Sensible 314 Excel now, men later.

That's good last, makes everything a bit easier. One of the tricky things with Bacon (apart from him being a massive, massive twunt of course) is that he was over an hour's drive away which meant weekends only. But maybe that was a blessing in disguise, at least I'm not going to bump into him in Tescos!

Evening everyone!

Anna yay to coffee date, he better be worth your time! Good luck with work!

Fox loving the update! Hopefully Leicester will deliver! Apple on the other hand sounds like he could be made to work for it.

Looking forward to more of these positive loo updates with Tanya and last and obv handy! I am sorry you had a horrible day

Hello newbies!

314 your analysis of Karmic and his low-self esteem is spot on! I can't stand arrogant men but I am never ever dating one with low self esteem ever again. It is too much work to be walking on eggshells and in the end it does not work out anyways.

Sassy I may end up traveling to London quite a bit for work, I will take you up on your offer!

Petitepo glad your guy came out of the shadows but if my experience is anything to go by, you need to tell him it is not on. And watch out. See below..

Ok, so I owe y'all the summary of this season's Karmic Freak Show Finale. Enjoy because the show has been canceled by the Jolly network and will not be back for another season . After three days of complete silence (and after I had already had the chat with him regarding communication), Karmic finally got in touch on Sunday night. I resisted biting his head off and calmly called him out on his silence. His reply was basically a version of "I don't know what I am doing, I am not sure I am ready/available for a relationship at the moment". But longer and more twisted. So I delivered the MH text, telling him to go away, to not come back before he'd fixed himself up and that I may not be there when he does because I have better stuff to do, like finding a guy who does 100% want to be with me. I was not expecting him to reply but he did, whining about not knowing what he wants, but that "he does like me" and "he feels sad" and that "it is a complete shame" but it is the "wrong timing for him." Boo fucking Hoo, dude. I am ignoring the text until I am bored enough to give my reply some headspace which at this rate is going to be never.

In other, more exciting, news: my new office is packed with hotties! Not that I spent my first day there evaluating the dating pool, oh no. I will be walking around borrowing staplers next week I think. MrOrganizedYogi has also texted , like clockwork, three days after I sent the last message. Which is kind of cute and completely ridiculous. The convo is not exactly fun but it is nice and sweet. Bad news is that he actually got an offer to go to SE Asia and is seriously considering it. He still have a couple interviews so fingers crossed he may stay here. I will probably jump his bones either way.

Ugh. Need to brush up on my English grammar. Sorry.

last up thread you said something about the guy being free to go to festivals but don't to know festivals are FULL of small kids? Not Leeds & Reading but all the others so you can go with :)

ocelot really?? Well there's an interesting thought! Thank you 😊

waving yes I'll defiantly see him again, nothing firmed up for date 3 yet but his messages have been very nice today so I'm sure we'll sort it ASAP

Hope foxtrot is having an awesome time!

jolly you just rock, and he's a prize fool. He'll realise soon but it'll be too late by then as someone else who is worthy of you will have stepped up to the plate!

ocelot no idea why I did strike through, it as a genuine question sorry. I'm so tired from my very late night!

I used to go to Reading Festival as a small child! Never camped though, probably quite a different experience.

waving i was going to go a bit dewey decimal, and say the combine the first three letters of their screen name with the first letter of their name followed by their age.

so fat sex guy would have been ECH (for echelon) and then T for well, it's not a cool name, trust me, and 43 for his age. ie, ECHT43. But nobody could remember that. Anyway, after reading the questions he'd answered on OKCupid, I was a bit scared. So even though we had a good banter going I really didn't push it. I let it slide.

Btw, I only called him fat cos he told me he needed to lose a few pounds.

No other decent irons on the go. I thought Rave was working up to asking me out but he hasn't responded to my last message. Oh well. maybe we wouldn't be suited. Kind of sensed I was a bit 'bolder'

Well played JollyX
Did he want you to try and change his mind. That would have inflated his ego (which people with a low self-esteem need of course! The fake buddist had a low self esteem, geez, it was tiring, you're well off out of it).