Spring has sprung and the sap is rising! It's Dating Thread 104

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP

Its not that her life was all that fab at all - She was busy but didn't think how saying that would come across when he asked her out - which was just the way you read it 314 ! so this lovely RL man did f/off :(

I don't know whether I'll be busy for two days or two months. It's not even that I'm that busy, it's the real life stuff taking up my brain space. I think I'd be a crap date at the moment. Mind you he didn't think that on Friday night.

When there is lots of stuff going on I like to have something to look forward to... !ike a gig or a nice date :)

Anna that's brilliant! Going against advice I'd say go for it! RL irons are few and far between, you can skip about half a dozen crap zeroith OLD and actually have a decent date with someone you KNOW you fancy, and have a connection with! Don't let it be a "what if"!! You go girl!

Off on my official first, the one after the zeroith date Thursday! I'm way too excited to see him again!

Enjoy it last I hope he's fantastic.

That's a shame ocelot I'd have tried to squeeze him in somewhere I think.
I should be swatting interview questions but I have something prepared on the computer at work and I'll get it tomorrow. And add to it /tweak it, seeing as how I didn't get the last job I interviewed for. BUT I didn't want that one. I want this one. OMG it would be just beautiful if I got this job. I don't want to say too much but it would be like all the stars aligning. The only downside would be that in this environment there ratio of women to men is very, very, very high. But fekk it. I used to work in the square fuckin gmile and never got a date.

Last, enjoy! I cant imagine the excitement!

Evening daters!

last have a FAB date.

314 keeping everything crossed for you re tmrw's interview.

anna my advice? Make the time, find just a little space. I was slammed last week for my RL non date date and could have easily bailed truth be told. Am beyond glad I didn't. so far (in terms of early doors communication) it is so very different to messaging when meeting via OLD. You'll never know unless you make a little space

freaky it's soooo good to have the fabulous freaky back. What happened to you was shit, but you sound good. Onwards!

jollyx at karmic. Another one? Jeez. Love your stance, let us know when he emerges

po welcome. Again, have no idea what to say.

Welcome also considerably

waving hope you and MTG are cruising along fabulously. Please update!

reddish what have you decided?

bant how goes your dating? Are you meeting someone this week?

Hope everyone enjoyed the sun today. Wasn't it heavenly?

Anna I agree with ocelot and sassy, make some time for a date! He's popped up now seemingly out of nowhere, it would be rude not to take the chance . I just can't imagine a RL iron happening for me although it nearly did with Fence. He is named Fence because of something related to our very first meeting. But I agree the name is apt. And I don't want to be involved in any half hearted indecisive crap.

314 I hope the interview goes well and you get the job!

last I need a loo update!!!

Sassy the weather was gorgeous today, even though I prefer Autumn/ winter and coats, boots and scarves, I can't deny that the sun on your face lifts your spirits.

ashmts I have the MH book and I like it but you can get a lot of the info from the blog and YouTube videos.

petitepo did you get any messages from him?

Interview is Tuesday!

Foxtrot Yes I did, turns out I wasn't clutching at straws, he really was sleeping off a major hangover, and his phone was dead all day Saturday. We have spoken on the phone a lot today and he's back to his normal lovely self. I haven't scolded him for his behaviour over the last few days yet, was planning on doing it face to face this evening but due to an emergency on my end we couldn't meet.

Is it bad that the second I heard his voice I went from to ? I've got it bad

petitepo I think I'd be the same however I do think this needs bringing up. You had arranged to meet up and he's not contactable all the day before and the morning of the date? Did he apologise at all? I would try to ease back slightly and let him do some running to you. Your time is precious and he needs to know it's not acceptable to waste it when you've made plans (even if they weren't concrete).

I would also add, it's good that he's back in contact and all seems ok, but I would let this incident rub a bit of the rose tinted sheen off him. So you're not getting blindly emotionally invested too early.

Morning daters! Blue sky again! (Where I am anyway).

petitepo hello and welcome!! Yey!! I'm undecided whether you should let this slide or not. Did I read it right that 1) he didn't respond to your 'happy birthday' message and 2) you had arranged to meet yesterday? I think you should pull back a little and not let the loveliness cloud that.

bubbling 'I don't know why my wife left' has got to be the biggest red glad ever. It's a loud and clear message - run for the hills every time!!

considerable what a couple of years you've had. What an amazing lady you are. Enjoy dipping your toe in OLD. Welcome!! Yey again!!

Freaky I love your bounce-back. You are one awesome woman. Glad you ditched the Youngster. Youngster by name....

Sassy I think there's another rule here: if you feel you are being ghosted - get turned off

Foxtrot ooh interesting re the return of Apple.... Do you think he's just a plodder?? Or is there a flakiness about this?

ashmts deffo don't need to buy the MH book. The vids are enough.

Ana we only ever regret the stuff we didnt do. You won't be a crap date. You'll be a real person - I would make a teeny bit of space. Coffee date or similar. Exciting!

Am seeing Twix tomorrow. Am finding the once a week thing just a tiny bit hard. He continues to be lovely. But today I have a mammogram/ultrasound/biopsy to get through. Similar to an experience in 2009. Feels very very similar. And smaller. So trying to keep it together. Mum died of breast cancer ages 54 so it's a bit meh.

Foxtrot is dating today - WOOP!

Where is last?

Beautiful day again. Enjoy everyone!

Ooh Handy thinking of you going through all that today - will you have someone with you?

Yes, where is last?

Bad Timing Man has asked me out. I'm holding off on a reply until this evening, not because of my fabulous life but because I know he's in London Tuesday-Friday so I have some time to get this week over with before I make a decision and maybe go on a date.

As above Anna don't leave it too long (& certainly not for effect?) Are you really undecided whether you want to go on a date with him?

ocelot no am going on my own. Only told one person and that's a colleague at work. And only cos she invited me round for coffee this morning. Done it before but back then i wasn't approaching the age my mum was when she was diagnosed. Anyhoo... The procedures are all simple enough... I just wanna go and hide in a bed with Twix!

Agree with ocelot Ana in these circs I would just reply?? This is RL dating. A bit different. What's stopping you?

Handy I do hope it goes well today ((())) ... Bit sorry you won't have someone with you... & that you haven't been able to tell friends or Twix :(

Hi everyone :)

I so want to join in this thread, but just catching up with what everyone has going on... It is going to take some reading!

Oh god, Handy, I am sorry you are going through this. Hugs and virtual handholding, will be thinking of you. Xx

Waves! Ummmm last got in at 2.40am and had a most fun evening!
Being honest, I don't think this will be a long term thing, or even become a thing but have had such a fun week with it and happy to go with the flow. This time last week, I'd never heard of the guy, and I still don't really know him even though it's been a very intense and interesting 6 days! Am feeling more chilled today, I think I've told myself he may disappear now we've errmm DTD so I've got my "whatever" mindset firmly on!