DRY 12

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The thread for people who want to kick the booze

Boodles don't take it home ever. Gifts of alcohol just feel like a big GO sign when what they really are is a test of sobriety. A sneaky mundane test. Well done for not caving.

vax2 are you out of the hospital yet? Nothing broken I hope?

boodles leaving it at work is a good idea. I wouldn't want it at home either. If push comes to shove and you don't have anyone to give it to, I would throw it away. I hate wasting things but if that's what has to happen then so be it.

You are going great - are you just coming up to 6 weeks ?

Ankle is sprained but not broken. It is in a splint and I can't drive for a few days which might be a good thing because I won't be able to go to work. I am finding it very hard to cope at work at the moment and I was thinking about asking my GP to sign me off but I felt I was being a bit pathetic. This stopping drinking is so tough. I have been on the verge of tears for days and days and it just all comes to the surface out of the blue.

Enough of me.

journey what have you got planned for your one m

Oops - your one month celebration.

lily how are you today ?

vxa2 that's horrible not coping at work. Other than the stress of stopping drinking is there anything else that is bothering you there?

Thanks ladies it is safely at work and I will leave it there until I find a summer fete or a raffle to give it to.
That was really quite tough and i didn't anticipate how hard that would be.
vxa I'm sorry about your ankle
Hope your not in too much pain. I think if your 42 days then I'm 44? I need to keep a closer track of it really.
I also know what you mean about the crying, I've done more crying the last few weeks than in my entire life!
Thanks all for seeing me through my slightly hysterical reaction.

Vxa2 oh thankyou pet for remembering, going to treat myself to a bundle of quilting fabric (have started sewing again) and nice bubble bath, odd day today my bf suddenly realised I was not just doing a dry month and got all worried it would go wrong again, I was so upset last time went into a downward spiral. But tried to explain this time is different and felt better but felt all day am I kidding myself. But determined to maintain my positive outlook. Vxa2 maybe go to doc for a week sick note, will give you time to have to yourself, thank you all you fab sober lol, feel privileged to be amongst you all , slightly gushy sorry 😊

Boodles not hysterical reaction at all!
vxa when I stopped it was like someone turned the taps on. For someone who previously rarely cried it was a complete shocker. Thirty years worth of stored up tears, grief and emotions sprang forth and as Mrs D would say 'water fell from my eyes'. A few days off with a sprained ankle will do you the world of good

x-post Journey fake it till you make it as they say and soon positive will be your normal outlook :)

vxa2 well done on 42 days :) that is rough about your ankle - but maybe a tiny positive if staying home lets you regroup.

slim so sorry about your news, and boodles very impressed. I can't have alcohol in the house - luckily dp is being really supportive.

matron what you say is so, so familiar. I had a lightbulb moment today as I've been stressing a bit. Partly because "chatting" with you lovely people has been focusing my mind on the never again stuff. But actually that's irrelevant. Just like on day 1, I'm not drinking today and that's all. And it really truly is fine and manageable. Reading that back I hope it doesn't sound smug - it's really not meant to - am trying to say that one of my problems has always been borrowing trouble ahead of time and there's no need. Just focus on today and it'll be fine.

solidarity! tea! cake! Thinking of you all this evening.

Oh I am so slow typing on my phone missed out journeyon :)

Sybil and all thank you. Love the fake it til you make it😏 perfect! Good mind you having two boys and a partner rarely get out to pubs etc (one of boys has complex medical needs) so can string out a range of excuses over the next months.

lucy was it you who wrote about glutamine for sugar cravings ? I really do need to get my eating under control and was wondering whether it might help. Has anyone else used it ?

Hi everyone. I tried to post a long post earlier but lost it. Not much time to chat as life has been intense today (!), but wanted to drop in and say thanks so much Sober Warriors for holding my hand yesterday. Now the axe has fallen we are both calmer and DH actually slept quite well last night.

You were all right about saying maybe things are not as bad as I feared. :) We are going forth strongly. Talking about the future etc and actually things are all right. We will be fine.

Not caught up on thread, just wanted to say thanks everyone. Sorry to be again me me me. I will revert to normal posting tomorrow.

Oh- and I am not drinking my feelings away. And that feels good. :)

vxa twas me :) L-glutamine indeed for any cravings - booze, sugar or otherwise. Available from any other good health food shop in tablet form or you can buy the powder online from Amazon. It helped me no end.
slim happy to hear that you are taking the news in your stride

Slim I'm glad you posted, I've been thinking of you today. You sound strong and determined, I'm sure you will both get through this.

The seed lip I ordered arrived today. DH and I have had to seedlip and tonics, delicious. Good tip thank you Lucy!

Love to all

Good to hear from you sounding strong, Slim. Sometimes the best outcomes come out of upheavals like this. I'm impressed that you can see that so soon.

Alone again in my house....P locked away in another room. I watched it get dark with the french windows open and finally shut them when an unknown cat got a bit too curious :)

I feel so light and happy, although I have to face up to resolving this ridiculous impasse somehow sometime, right now it is so easy to just live my life and not see him. It's like the notice period of an irksome job that you have resigned from. A mini holiday from responsibility. I actually feel.... guilty, that I am enjoying having the run of the house every evening, and he is so kindly getting so completely out of my way. What is he doing? Is he plotting? Getting legal advice? looking at properties? I have absolutely no idea what is in his mind. I should pull myself together and talk to people about practical boring things.

Hi all some great posts in the last couple of days, really enjoying reading it all, too many to name check. Just wanted to say Louis Theroux documentary is still available on I player, flipping heck just watched it, worth a look if you haven't seen, it's a good one for the sober toolkit I'd say - that man having his stomach fluid drained

Hey everyone! Sorry I introduced myself then disappeared, I've been detaching a little and avoided all sober blogs, books etc.

I'm still going though, day 18 but I'm finding it a slog. I think it's because I've got a big birthday to go to on Saturday so there's a little voice telling me to stop and go back to sobriety after that.

Fuck off you insidious ear worm!

Sorry. slim I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through, you sound really strong though and well done on doing it dry.

vxa2 42 days is immense and while I'm not doing this a day at a time, marking the time that's passed is a great marker of how far you've come.

Boodles well done on leaving the wine at work. I know what you mean about being thrown, I gave up smoking and then found a cigarette in my bag the next day and I felt powerless (I smoked it to get rid of it...fucked up logic...so you were far more sensible!)

Everyone else...koko and I promise to stay with you this time instead of retreating into a corner if I get uncomfortable feelings

I just got an award and there will be a big award ceremony held. Full of champagne. The last significant similar thing I did had me toddling on the stage bit pissed. How do I do this incredibly nerve wracking thing sober.

its these kind of things that make me think what's the point I will crack then so why keep up the pretence.

matron, you CAN do this sober, but you may need to think it through before hand. What do you like to drink that is AF. What will happen if you drink, do you have a list of reasons you want to be AF ? Can you remind yourself ? Arrive fashionably late, drive if you possibly can, I use Kalms tablets for occasions such as this - I'm sure it's a placebo effect - but it seems to work for me. Have an excuse to leave - and make your excuses as soon as you can - go home sober and treat yourself for an occasion managed

slim hope you and your dh are ok, you do sound strong and in control.

howbad you sound much more in control !!! It seems though your h / exh doesn't really know what to do, so he shuffles off to his man cave and ignores you - but this time it's backfired a bit , as you prefer it that way ! Have the DC's noticed his silence ?

vxa again, you sound more upbeat the last few days , do you think the meds are helping you ? You have had such a difficult time physically, I really hope the worst is over. And you can start to feel the benefits of 40 + days sober !!!

Thank you for all your good wishes. My bug and my PAWS seems to have resolved and I'm feeling more stable again. Have a few events coming up, but feel confident that I can manage sober. Had a nice evening with DP last night, he cooked, didn't drink and we had a chat. Feel better about that too. I've been going to yoga and Pilates for about 6 weeks now and I am starting to notice a difference in my balance, core strength, and flexibility. This makes me happy.

Big hugs to all, will be back later X

Lily 🌷

Matron that sounds terrifying to me but the thing with drinking is it makes you think you're speaking with confidence but all it really does is slow your thinking down.
Lily gave you great advice (scribbles it all down for Saturday) but I bet you'll be amazing, you seem so no nonsense here and I bet you're the same at work. You'll kill it.

Lily good to hear you're feeling better, physician heal thyself and all that. Are you enjoying the yoga and Pilate's? I love a bit of yoga but went to a Pilate's class by accident once, we barely moved yet it killed me. It's so hard!

lily and Happy thanks for the support. I am excited to receive the award. It is a pompous day long event with rituals and extremely formal. No slipping away. I need to dig deep to overcome this.

And I thought half term holiday was going to be the pressure point!

Waves to happysober, you've done the hardest bit happy, it doesn't turn into a breeze overnight, but it definitely starts to get easier after the first two weeks - well done, give yourself some lovely sober treats and a big pat on the back...

boodles well done indeed for leaving the booze at work ... :-)

Hi to code, journey on, Sybil and beginner.

vxa somehow missed your last post - hope you are at home resting and with foot up, being waited on. I'm sure a few days off will do you good ..

Thank you happy. I am the second most senior GP at my practice now, and I've been there almost 18 years, one of my jobs is supporting my younger colleagues - I enjoy this and they seem to value it. I think they would all be surprised if they could see what a complex mess of addiction, poor self control, low self esteem and generalised anxiety / neurosis is going on inside my head.

I love the yoga and Pilates. I find them both hard ! I'm stiff and inflexible, esp hip and lower spine, but I can see that I am improving ... It feels good to concentrate on my physical health - I used to run, especially the last time I was sober and I may get back to it. For now I am cycling around instead of driving and Focussing on yoga. I like that I am not drunk at 5.30 on Sunday - before, I would never have committed to anything at that time... :-)

Lily 🌷