Hi everyone.
welcome to cheep, sybil, IAMS and miss cookie, lovely to have you here 
and well done on your sober days
cheep I sympathise. My DP drinks way too much and of course, now that I am dry I can see it much more clearly... I stopped drinking once before for 8 months, but this time I'm pretty sure he is drinking more heavily. I don't know the right way to handle this, i just know that I HAVE to be sober. I have told him this, and to be fair he was pretty supportive the first couple of weeks, - not drinking in the house etc.
I second Lucy that in fact liver function tests as performed are a pretty poor indicator of liver damage ie when they start to go off you are in quite serious trouble. and non alchoholic fatty liver disease ( NAFLD) is indistinguishable from alcoholic liver disease on scans or biopsy - the clue to what it is called is in what the patient tells you. If they say 'I drink 10 units a week' they are likely to get labelled as NAFLD... so it is likley that you husband drinking IS causing liver damage. certainly if you go back to the GP and say he is drinking 70 U a week i would expect a referral to a liver specialist, if the LFT are deranged.
Also agree re asking for referral to local drugs and alcohol team. They are hugely helpful in most places and can support you both to stop drinking - with advice, resources and if necessary medication to make managing the withdrawal easier.
Or you could source a local AA meeting and give it a try ?
sybil and matron I am sure we learn from every sober period and each one makes us more likely to succeed the next time...
cooee - enjoy the bounciness, you really descerve it
Thanks vxa, Lucy and FWL fro your support yesterday. I am feeling a bit more like myself today, I didn't go to work as I woke with a headache and have 4 trip to the loo in 1/2 hour ! sorry if TMI. However I have had a productive day in completing some work for a diploma I am doing, photographing my shoes (don't laugh) doing some washing and ironing, and being here for the DC when they got home. Had rather a viscous text row with DP re his compete lack of any input into household chores. Don't know why I bother to raise it as he just dismisses me and becomes defensive and aggressive, comparing his input with that of the children ? wtf ie he does more than them.
This is of course just code for all the things we NEED to discuss but can't - ie the fact that we have had sex once in the last year, the fact that we don't want the same things out of life, ( or rather we do, but I am the only one earning money to pay for them) the fact that he dislikes my son, the fact that we are not married which has bothered me hugely etc etc. We discuss nothing any longer and DP refuses to go for counseling. so stalemate. Until as I explained, my boredom will turn to active dislike and the it will all be over ...
Oh yes I have a lot going on in my head...
Being sober is essential so that i can sort my life out. I've buried all my frustration and unhappiness at the bottom of a wine glass for 30 years. And now, now I AM strong enough to deal with it. This is not all his fault. I hate confrontation and tent to stew rather than confront things , so they fester. But his defensive and then aggressive response to even the mildest criticism doesn't help.
Day 60.
love and hugs to you all, and everyone I haven't name checked This is rather long and dull and me me me again . so I will sign off
Lily x