DRY 12

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Old thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2584735-DRY-11?

The thread for people who want to kick the booze

Happy Birthday boodles

I saw People Places and Things yesterday it was excellent!

This piece was published in the programme - interesting about the 13th AA step!

www.theguardian.com/society/2015/nov/29/alcoholics-anonymous-saved-my-life-but-i-lost-my-faith

Morning all. Happy birthday Boodles

Lots of lovely things to read this morning. waves to happy hello!

Well, had an interesting evening... We've friends staying and went to a bbq. Beer and pro secco all round and I drove and stuck to schloer in a champagne glass (tastes nice, looks like a real drink). And it was all absolutely fine. But really struggled later. Live in a tiny cottage and guests get the bedroom and we go on the sofa bed and they stayed up and up and I was so so desperate to give up and go to sleep.

But mysteriously this morning I am the only one up, bright eyed and bushy tailed - and have put a casserole in the slow cooker, tidied up and am now settled with a cup of tea ... And no one else is up :)

Happy sober Sunday. Aha! Noises off. Must go and make them some tea too :)

Morning everyone Day 6 feeling sleepy! Happy Birthday Boodles 💐🎂🍰 struggled a bit yesterday but just settled with a film and snacks and Diet Coke and before I knew it Day 5 complete lol well done all on another Sober fantastic day xxx

I just want to apologise to everyone for putting you all at risk. Im not a bad person. And I really am sorry if I put your sobriety in jeopardy. Ive joined the bus now and that's the right place for me just now, although I do have an ultimate goal of hopefully being able to one day say "No thanks, I don't drink" and feel comfortable saying it. You're all amazing women and should be so proud whether your 1 day AF or 100 days AF. I don't want to start any animosity. This is a genuine apology, Halle xxx

misscookie I'm off to see that in a few weeks :)

Boodles - happy birthday!

Lucy - thanks for bringing me back to the fold, so to speak and hellooo to Haggis, who'd have thought back then we'd get to be something like two years' sobriety? I certainly wouldn't have. When I first decided to stop I thought people like that must have some magic willpower that I'd probably never be able to find.

Absolute - I love being able to drive home with the kids after socialising at the weekend. Shudder to think the things I used to put us through all in the name of me being able to "relax". The number of times we'd have an unplanned sleepover, having taken nothing with us, all having to sleep in makeshift places "oh what fun!", then wake up with a hangover and overtired children the next day and have to go back home for a day of feeling worse than wear. SO much better just to leave when it's the er, right time to leave, never outstay your welcome, and be able to have a proper day the next day. Who'd have thought it?

teapot bring the tissues!!

Happy birthday to you,
Happy birthday to you!
Happy birthday dear Boodles
Happy birthday to yooouuuuuuuu!!

💐🌞🎂🍹🎼🎉🎈

I hope the sun shines on you today 😀 I will be around all day, if you need company, and will have a birthday mocktail in your honour this evening!

Good luck Halleberry.

Thankyou haggis xxx

Halle I'm going to stick my neck out and say ""good luck"" on behalf of everyone on the thread.

It's probably best that you pop back to the bus now.....

Truly, I wish you all the very best from the bottom of my heart. Goodbye for now xx

I hope everyone is OK with that and I haven't crossed a line with any Sober Warriors...... if you're not OK then PMing is probably best.....better to keep any criticism off the thread and the peace in place

What LikeaHurricane said. Good luck Halle

Aww thanks Ladies, I really do appreciate the birthday wishes 🎂☺ .
The sun definitely has shone today. It's been a pretty ordinary day but I'm ok with that I am just over the bloody moon im sober!! Woo. I've forgotten how many days it is -something like 38/39? Anyway it's on the calendar!!
Has everyone had a good day?

So glad you've had such a beautiful day Boodles what amazing weather you've had as well and congratulations for such an amazing AF time long may it continue! Muffin and cup of tea time for me along with box sets on Netflix xx happy days 😁😁

Well, not such a super Sunday. A bit annoyed with myself really - best weather of the year so far and should be appreciating it more.

This next bit is entirely first world problems so feel free to skip past :) am working on big project at the moment so sent dp and guests off for a walk this morning while put in a couple of hours on it. Agreed they'd be back at 1 for lunch, got everything ready for them and then dp texted to say they were at the pub. Rolled in just after 2. Made light of it at the time (yes. I know. Could have gone too and chose to stay in!) but was miffed. Had words with DP later and there is a mild chill here despite the heatwave....

But in the past that chill could have deepened into a real row. Have just spent half an hour tidying in the garden ( I love my garden!) and am settled outside with a ginger beer enjoying a truly beautiful May evening. And because am af I know that they were a bit thoughtless but the real problem is that I am overtired and there's nothing an early night won't fix. Other people have commented on having more clarity about their thinking/emotions as a result of giving up alcohol and it's a true benefit.

Am going to hold that thought! Hope the sober warriors have enjoyed their Sunday!

Actually Sybil I do think that was really inconsiderate. Depending on how far away they'd gone they should at leave have texted to say "in the pub for a quick one, what's yours?" working / staying in / cooking and then having people dick you about isn't nice, whether you chose to do that or not.

This weather is fantastic. I enjoyed it much more than I sometimes do (almost like I used to when I was young!) probably because I haven't got a hangover, and wasn't trying to find an excuse for a drink. Still fat though, which is not great for heat, but a big floaty dress and a don't-care attitude are helpful with that.

I took the dcs to the splash park with a picnic lunch. I packed myself an ice cold Becks Blue but when it came to it, I didn't fancy it, as it felt so wrong to be "drinking" during the day, when responsible for children around water, and in charge of a car! I'm having it now though, which feels just right.

Dc1 went to a ridiculously late party this evening and when I picked her up she was talking constantly about dc2 and was gutted to find her fast asleep when she got home - really touchingly disappointed not to be able to "see" her. They really are best friends and I thank my lucky stars for that every day.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BOODLES! So sober, you're beyond the numbers. You're killing it, lady!

Rosewine - what's good on netflix?

jojo - hope the walk plan happened and the gadgets got ditched. We're all fighting the gadget fight.

P hilariously still sort of not speaking to me. He has not replied to my email about separation. He is still locking himself in a separate room in the evenings (which is rather nice actually). He has exchanged occasional practically orientated sentences. He has offered me a download of a programme we were watching together but I watched it without him. Which is perhaps a big relationship "fuck you"? Well so did he (watch it without me), so I guess we're on the same page. I am, bizarrely, finding this incredibly restful. You would think it was a recipe for angst - living in the same house as someone not speaking to you - but it's actually living in the same house as someone getting out of my way and ignoring me in a different room (rather than in the same room, which is stressful)

HowBad wow I wish I was a brave as you hid away indoors (I don't do heat very well lol) hence the Netflix marathon of Scream plus many a psychological thriller or any kind of horror film crazy I know but I love them and they keep me fixated!! Back to the brave I'm fat still can't make it out of jeans though if I wear a dress it has to be ankle length with something large and baggy over the top!! I will get there! day 6 complete so proud of you all regardless of what any of us are going through personally we are totally rocking Sobriety !!! 👏👏👏👏😇😇😇😇

Boodles Happy Birthday!! And congrats on all those days sober xx

Anyone tried Kombacha? I tried the Equinox brand today - tastes a bit like cider but really good for you.

Hello to all

Agree with hurricane. Wishing you strength and positivity on your journey Halle.

Well another sober social done for me today. All good and while I'd normally have been waiting with bated breath for the offer of a choice between beer and wine, I enjoyed tea and Pepsi Max

Question for you all: what did you say to people when they first found out you were going sober?

There is a 'recovering alcoholic' in the family and a couple of problem drinkers, and I wonder what their take on me is. Maybe the 'recoverer' is a cynic who wonders when I will fall off the 'wagon' because they have been 'battling' to be sober for decades and it's been really hard for them.

The problem drinkers are supportive but baffled as I think they don't realise that the amount they drink is a problem (familiar much?)

I want to scream 'I've done it already, don't now feel you have to ask me 'how it's going' each future time I see you!' But instead just said 'there is no wagon for me, I'm just done '.

Does that sound naive and smug though?

Evening all 😎

Once it doesn't sound naive or smug to me - in fact, I think your attitude is refreshingly positive (for 'out there' beyond the thread I mean - this thread is an oasis of sober positivity I find!).

HowBad you sound very strong and positive too . I am finding relationship woes taking up far too much of my headspace at the moment, and it's pissing me off. I could do with taking a leaf out of your book!

Hi to all thread-goers - sorry for not name checking everyone - find it tricky on my phone hope all are going strong.

I'm missing Lily, Matron et al 🙁 Hope they are OK out there.

Yes, we did the walk - absolutely stunning views, boys moaned a fair bit (understatement!) but when I said that if they couldn't manage this on a regular basis then we will never get the dog we have been discussing, they decided to perk up a bit! Finished up with sausage sarnies in the garden. Really nice day actually, one I couldn't possibly have done with a hangover. I am not a fan of the sun but am finding it much easier to cope with heat without alcohol.

Did think wistfully about wine when sat in the garden (again! Does it ever stop?!) but no real angst. Really must get a stock in of non alcoholic drinks though, even just lime and soda would be a start.

Major challenge beginning to loom large on the horizon, my birthday in a couple of weeks. Have to start giving it some thought this week.

Night all.

once i am/have been ducking the discussion of me going sober with people but can't avoid it on my birthday as am away for the weekend with my two oldest girlfriends. Honestly not sure how to tackle it so will be coming back to this subject!

I'm here. Lurking to see what would happen. I hope the incident is now behind us all. I have been reflecting a lot on why it bothered me so much - perhaps I will post on that at some later date.

I've had a quite difficult weekend. It was DS2 birthday yesterday and he wanted to go out, en famille to TGI Fridays. I have away beg ore - when the kids have asked to go there, go rat arsed on huge brightly coloured cocktails. I find the restaurant loud and annoying, the service slow and the whole thing def not my choice ... BUT as it was DS2's choice, I agreed. I looked up the list ok mocktails before we went so that I would know what to order, bit when I asked for a virgin mohito, they didn't do them anymore. Few very sticky moments when I struggled not to ask for a big alcoholic bowl of anything ... Ended up with some revolting sweet thing which was horrid... Any way, managed that and came home to a seedlip - much better. But I've been edgy and twitchy ever since ...

Today I have been on the move non stop.this is literally the first time I have sat down. That's stressful, and I actually needed to have some space ... Still feeling edgy and unsettled tonight ...

Day 58 almost completed, I won't drink. I can't and I don't want to, but I dislike this edgy feeling ...