DRY 12

[HowBadIsThisPlease]

Old thread
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2584735-DRY-11?

The thread for people who want to kick the booze

I never said with pride "I can take 100mg and my husband doesn't even notice". There was no pride felt with that. I was simply stating that is how high my tolerance level has become. I stated in the beginning I wasn't ready for abstinence etc etc but after a few days reading this thread I thought maybe something would click with me. I will see my gp. Im just not ready at the moment. It was a big step for me just posting here about my problem. I can't battle everything at once. I assure you I have no pride in any of my actions. Im ashamed of myself and who ive become and im ashamed of the mother I am and I hate myself every day. Xx

HowBad please don't leave i like the positive sober vibe you support and that's what I need. I am hating all this anger/negativity and the thread does state its for people who want to kick the booze! There of course is room for disagreement and honesty without the kindergarten anger.

Im
Not angry and im sorry if ive angered people. I really wanted to feel inspired to kick this habit x the positive vibes made me feel
Better about imagining a life AF. That's why I stuck around xx

Confrentation is emotional. Take time to plan a defence against slipping.

I'm charged and need to stick that energy somewhere other than the bottom of a wine glass. My bike is at the ready.

It would be so easy to use this morning's thread as an excuse to drink (for so many many different reasons, my excuse inventor is off the scale right now) but I am choosing not to.

howbad marry lily this morning's other posters and lurkers do some planning for protecting your sobriety this evening.

Then Halle, if you are ashamed of yourself and genuinely want to change, engage with your GP. Discuss honestly the extent of your addiction. Ask for a referral to a drug and alcohol team. Commit to a reduction and cessation of your valium use. Access counselling / CBT support and work to reduce your dependence. Its NOT easy. That's why this and countless other sober communities exist. because is NOT easy, and getting clean will be very hard. But you COULD do it IF you really want to.

I am, along with others on the thread, in a place where we are DOING something about an addictive behavior that makes us physically and psychologically unwell. The thread was set up for people who are actively DOING what has to be done. Babes is for folk in the contemplation stage to discuss the 'maybes' and receive support anyway. for people who wish to moderate and to support them.

howbad if you fancy a chat to decompress a bit I will be back from cycling in an hour or so. I hope things are not too bad at home and you have some good plans in the sun this weekend X

Halle, no, you do not sound angry and I am not angry either. Don't worry.

Matron - you are so right about confrontation and emotion.

It's often the aftermath. One of my big drinking patterns is to get through something challenging, store up tension and emotion, collapse into a bottle afterwards when I "should" be fine. I saw this really clearly for the first time when I watched a Louis Theroux programme and he interviewed someone who had lost his father, travelled to his funeral, stayed sober for that, and then afterwards fell dramatically off the wagon. that is the kind of thing I do. DID! DID!

Matron - sorry about challenging posts and bringing confrontation into your life. Thank you for the reminder and please be ok . xx

Oh crikey!

howbad I am strong today we are going to get challenged that's a fact but I'm flexing my tiny sober muscles. Nothing to apologise for x

Hi jojo don't worry you have posted just at the right time! We are making protection plans for tonight, what's yours?

Mine is a big seedlip and tonic, and I am going to buy myself a pink grapefruit so that I can have a slice in my drink.

and MAYBE ..... I will go for a run... (first outside run since the last time I was sober...)

Just to change get off the subject of me and I promise not to post anything but positve things from
Now on, but you should try knitting. I know that sounds a bit old
Fashioned but a while back I was trying to be good and couldn't think what to do to take up my time so o knitted a scarf. It was so nice and cosy in my living room with a cuppa tea, film on and knitting away xx

lily I really like fruit in my drink. I tried non alcoholic wine last night I can't make my mind up but it is better with ice in it. Go for the run, look at me I'm cycling away (on sofa on thread!). Right I'm doing it now or I never will.

Love knitting. I am new to it too.

I am going to order some Seedlip.

My protection plan is a good dinner with snacks and some Sprite (love fizzy pop lol) and possibly some ice cream, even though I'm eating more I'm glad i'm not pouring senseless alcohol down my throat!! these things along with a good psychological thriller on Netflix will have me calm and positive. I'm sure I will get to the 'healthy' part soon at the moment just making the most of my 4th Day AF

I find it so relaxing and also it may not seem like it but it really does make you think less. You're to engrossed in knitting and your fav film to think about much else. Artistic things are always good for helping people stay sober. I bought a bunch of card and beads etc so I can start making my own birthday carda for people. Starting with tonight. Im going to actually make my own daughters 1st birthday card. It's a big one and I need to draw elsa and Olaf on it so that will take up my whole night lol xx

Been at a funeral this morning so am feeling a bit up and down (thankfully it wasn't a close friend so am not feeling emotional in that way). Am trying not to let my mind run away with the inevitable mortality thoughts that funerals bring up and am very grateful that at present my little family are all ok. Was impressed by the tributes I heard - clearly he did a lot with his life and didn't spend it nursing a hangover. I've also been thinking that I'd like to try and do something positive for the bereaved lady, who doesn't know people very well locally (her youngest ds and mine are school friends) - perhaps invite them to the park for coffee and play etc one nice weekend.

Am going to go and get on my exercise bike for a bit - I hear you on the weight thing vxa. I keep replacing drinking with food and am a stubborn 12st 3lbs at 5"6'. I'm pretty fit, walk miles every day and swim once a week. Can't decide whether to just accept that I'll be a very a pear shaped size 16 forever or really make an effort with food. But I love food!! Making curry tonight, yum.

You's should also try some of the series on Netflix. Ive watched loads so I can recommend some xx

marry "Vxa2 not that this should be a competition but your drinking isn't quite in the same bloody league as the issues facing Halle"

Thanks for that. Wise words indeed. The only difference is that I managed to get help before I got to the point Halle is at. I fought hard for support and engaged with my GP and alcohol and addiction service - Halle won't do that. So what if my drinking isn't as bad as Halle's, in your view anyway.

And this thread seems to be for people whose drinking is out of hand, not piss-the-bed benzo dependent people who don't know where to start.

I'm not sure what you mean ?

I am not going to get into an exchange about this. I don't agree with you and that is not going to change.

Now I'll bugger off and thank my lucky stars that my problem is relatively trivial - what a relief !!!

Copying posts from other threads? Nice.

She's addicted. And your bullying won't be helping.

Enough.

Seriously. Enough now.

Please.

jojo I think an invitation out would be a lovely thing to do.

Been on my bike was fab! It's all clawed back hangover time getting put to good use.

Hi Slim everyone is wibbly from reading the conflict. There is tension and apprehension from waiting for the next trigger, because there will be one.

I think we have to give it our best shot at flooding the thread with positivity. A Friday afternoon is not optimum timing for anything other than peace and stolic sobriety.

vxa2 don't be derailed from taking care of yourself. Do not allow it. Xx

Happy to flood the thread with positivity.

Here is what I love about sobriety (real life examples from my life);

1. Hosting a dinner party and being able to drive my friends home so they did not have to get a taxi.

1. Not waking up and having to check my FB and email to see if I said something stupid last night.

1. Being patient enough to be able to help my DS with his homework without resenting it.

1. Those little overwhelming moments of joy that just seemingly come out of nowhere.

Next.

VXA2 you have no idea what I will do when I finally wrap my head round all of this. You cannot state that "Halle WONT do that" when you have no idea. I could wake up Monday morning beaming with confidence and get to my gp. I don't know what's going to happen. I know I need help and I will get it when I feel 100% ready. I tried to change the subject there and talk about other stuff but it's like you want to keep arguing with me and j really don't want that xx