I've just abandoned my very drunk/high dh in central London in favour of getting ds home

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Namechanged yet again as all this is so, so identifying. Dh has struggled with addictions and after a peaceful few months it came to a head today when we saw his family.

He was being aggressive to everyone and when our bus arrived he wouldn't get on so I've just taken myself and ds home. Now he won't answer his phone and I feel awful I've abandoned him but our son is only 3 and I've got to get him home. I can't help feeling so guilty and bad and am both dreading and wishing him home. What do I do?

There it is. You are in sole charge of a toddler and you're going to smoke just a bit and it's ok because no nicotine?

For your boy's sake, just flush it.

I'm not going to. Just saying what I want to. I've come this far.

I'm struggling to even believe this thread is real

GF or plain deluded.

Yep SS are not at all worried about you, care team meetings mean your child is on the CP register so I think they are a bit bothered about you.

People aren't turning...The priority of concern for me is DC.. H is out the house and out the way for now... You are recovering from addiction ( the fact you don't like the term is irrelevant ).. So people are trying to protect you and DC.

When you are separated from from an addict with a child it is easy to feel the relief, but soon you come down and realise the dreams you had are gone..That is a tough time.. People will happily support you through that but while you keep drugs and possibly other things you haven't yet admitted on here.. I for one am concerned about your DC.

This thread has gone really nasty. Haranguing the op for a) not wanting to antagonise an abusive man by flushing his drugs and b) being tempted to smoke a substance that she has already said she has a problem with is going to achieve the sum total of fuck all.
One pipe isn't going to make her incapacitated and as long as the child is asleep it's no worse than having 2 glasses of wine in terms of immediate harm to the child
Recovery from substance addiction is a journey, and haranguing and berating her won't help. It's also not heroin, please keep it in perspective.

Huh?!

Jesus. I m going to. I might just have one tiny smoke (through a pipe so no nicotine)to say goodbye. I'm really hurting right now. It won't mean anything as havn't for weeks.

You are going to smoke skunk with your DC there and you reckon SS won't be interested?

Hes never seen or experienced violence.

He was punching walls on the train

I am not going to touch the weed.. I might smoke a little..

Well that's a couple of hours I won't get back....ugh

I might just have one tiny smoke (through a pipe so no nicotine)to say goodbye.

You're on a fucking wind up now, aren't you.

You haven't protected your son at all. Your DS plays with drug paraphernalia that he finds lying round the house.

He was present when his dad had a violent drug-fuelled outburst on a train and was walking round starting on strangers trying to pick fights.

And now you're thinking of getting high while he's in your sole care?

Yeah, lucky kid eh.

God help him.

You are going to smoke skunk with your DC there and you reckon SS won't be interested?

Do you really think that is a child protection concern?
The rest of the shit, the violence, the abusive behaviour are all child protection concerns. The skunk is not.

No I'm really not going to. I'm just being a dick because people are challenging me. I'm sorry.

lemonade you can think what you want but if you are t's from previous threads Thankyou for your help.

FFS OP. Come on. You can't say in one breath that you're protecting your DS, and then say you're just going to get high once more as a 'goodbye'. I really hope that was attention seeking and you actually have no intention of smoking it.

You say your child is your priority, but currently he seems very low down on your list: 1) drugs, 2) Husband 3) husband staying happy 4) husband having access to drugs when he wants them 5) keeping all of this a secret 6) making sure you have drugs when it suits.... I doubt your son is even in your top ten priorities, even if you want to think it is.

Come on.

And yes, you're now going to get tough love style posts from people because many people have tried to help you repeatedly, and you follow that up with "it's a lot of money to throw away" and "one more smoke".

you could be busy flushing it...instead of sat on here...but you are not going to do that are you?

Actually I think skunk is a child protection issue but then my 14 year old had psychosis induced by it and attacked me when a carving knife.....

I get it op. Addiction is easy to judge from the outside.

Don't feed.

I will bite though.

My kids have NEVER seen me high. I have never been high, except in childbirth. They have seen me drink alcohol on a rare occasion, but they have NEVER seen me drunk. Not even tipsy FFS. I can handle my drink and I stop once I feel it affecting me. I agree with PP who said they feel the same about people who drink loads around their kids. It is just unnecessary.

I had SS involvement before. Years ago. Because of my ex. He made us into one of those families, and I got away from him and away from that. Having SS involvement isn't normal or OK. You are one of those families. You are a mother that puts DRUGS before her CHILD.

Ouch. Troll hunting hurts more than I'd have thought.

I'm not touching anything. I really was just saying what I'd like to do.