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Q - If you & your DH go out in the car together, who drives?

181 replies

SuperMumNot · 30/04/2016 15:37

a) DH
b) you
c) depends whose car you're in
d) DH, unless he's had a drink or two
e) varies - you alternate/whoever feels like it etc

Please just indulge me with an answer - I'll explain why a bit later Smile

OP posts:
MsMermaid · 30/04/2016 17:35

Me. Dh can drive but prefers not to, so I do it all.

It would definitely annoy me if anybody assumed they were driving my car, dh or not. And insuring both cars with him as main driver would have had me livid.

BombadierFritz · 30/04/2016 17:39

Me. I'm the better and more experienced driver. Dh hates it. Sometimes he drives. Both ncd are in his name though as it was a bit cheaper that way (multicar policy)

BombadierFritz · 30/04/2016 17:41

(Should point out i am the main driver on the policy though - i know someone will mention it :) )

winchester1 · 30/04/2016 17:45

Dh as we I have to sit between the kids seats in the back and he doesn't fit. We normally have mil in the front. Also he is much more experienced at driving on ice, and spotting signs that wildlife are around - before you hit them, which is important where we drive. We have two cars but share both and would always take the better car if going out as a family.

Sgtmajormummy · 30/04/2016 17:48

C- it depends whose car it is.

I'm a terrible door-handle clutcher with DH. Grin
I also fiddle with his radio and satnav.
Once in his new car I pressed a mysterious button with "P" on it. The car ground to a halt. Yes, it was the electronic handbrake...

He's a great passenger with me. He also taught me to drive.

Joysmum · 30/04/2016 17:49

I tend to drive.

DH travels a lot through work and I can get car sick. Plus he likes to go to sleep on long journeys.

If he wants to drive he'll just say 'I'm driving', otherwise it's assumed I'm the driver.

AintNobodyHereButUsKittens · 30/04/2016 17:51

DH - we fancy getting to our destination alive and with DH's nerves intact. DH hates driving but I'm pretty much the worst legal driver alive so he has no choice.

Muskateersmummy · 30/04/2016 17:59

DH, use his company car, I'm not insured to drive it.

0hCrepe · 30/04/2016 18:03

Me. On the odd occasion when he picks me up he'll move straight into the passenger seat as well. I've driven over 20 years; he passed about 7 years ago and has caused every bump and scrape on the car!

pinkmagic1 · 30/04/2016 18:09

E for us.

Lolimax · 30/04/2016 18:16

I'll drive if someone has to stay sober. He prefers my car so he'll volunteer to drive otherwise. He accuses me of being a 'driving Miss Daisy' but one of us has never had a speeding ticket...I wonder who???

Karanka · 30/04/2016 18:19

If we're going anywhere together I usually drive. DW has an amazing capacity to fall asleep at the drop of a hat, so she gets to nap on a long drive.

I also operate by the maxim that the driver gets to choose what we listen to...

LikeASoulWithoutAMind · 30/04/2016 18:27

E for us, although dh does more at the moment as I haven't been well.

At the moment we have one car, but when we have two we share them. No my car/your car - there's a bigger car and a smaller car and whoever needs the space takes the bigger one.

Dh used to be a bit patronising about my driving - think he forgot I was no longer a learner - I kept calling him out on it til he STFU Grin

Tequilamockinbird · 30/04/2016 18:34

E.

7to25 · 30/04/2016 18:41

b

FuckoffJournoScum · 30/04/2016 18:58

Usually DH unless he isn't fit to do so or it's a long journey with swapping. Reason being that DH is a pain in the ass passenger and Prefers to drive. I don't care so I let him.

P1nkP0ppy · 30/04/2016 19:06

a) purely because he can't keep his mouth shut he's a driving instructor and I have never had an accident etc in 45 years of driving.

He's a lousy passenger and he hates my little car!

eurochick · 30/04/2016 19:11

Always me. My husband doesn't drive.

You H's behaviour would massively piss me off.

PoundingTheStreets · 30/04/2016 19:39

It's exceptionally rude to provide a running commentary on someone else's driving. If you feel their driving is that bad, don't get in a car with them, surely!

I had an ex who did this. I made him get out of the car and told him that seeing as he thought my driving was so unsafe, and yet he couldn't drive because he had had too much to drink, he'd better get out and walk (3 miles away from home).

He never commentated again!

BTW I've been driving 20+ years and never had any points or made any claims, etc.

Balletgirlmum · 30/04/2016 19:42

Usually me unless he has had a drink for two reasons.

I don't like driving his car

He loves driving my new snazzy company car & takes every opportunity he can to have a go.

EustachianTube · 30/04/2016 19:44

B) about 90% of the time.

BikeRunSki · 30/04/2016 19:44

Usually you unless he's had a drink Balletgirlmum? So he drives your snazzy new car when he's been drinking?

Arfarfanarf · 30/04/2016 19:46

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BennyTheBall · 30/04/2016 19:46

Mostly depends on whose car we're in, or whose turn it is to drink.

I hate the way he drives mine, and vice versa.

flanjabelle · 30/04/2016 19:46

Dp. I'm a perfectly good driver, but he enjoys it more than I do and honestly I really like being a passenger and having a look at what we are passing. I find it really relaxing to be driven around. Happy all round.