How to come out of an emotional affair

[benal345]

He is my manager and I can't leave my job, don't flame me, just need practical advices and tips.

Lying - I don't wonder what might have been, as I was always clear that whatever happened I wasn't going to be leaving my H for him. It would never have developed into a LTR, as he had been single for too long - his long distance relationship suited him, as he had someone to go on holiday with, but didn't have someone around all the time. Do I regret that it didn't get physical? No, not really.

That's interesting, MrsS, I think you're managing to be good friends now because your friendship didn't develop into a physical one (thankfully). I always think it's sad when great friendships - not just with OW/OM, but generally - become physical to the detriment of a friendship.

It sounds like you did exactly the right thing and you don't have the annoying but wonderful 'spark' to keep igniting and confusing you.

My best friend is a man some years older than me. He's everything I would have wanted (I think), but we're both happily married to other people and I wouldn't take our friendship to anything beyond that - because I've had the experience and I have absolutely no intention of ever 'going there' again. So I just look at him and smile and think, "In a different lifetime...". :)

I meant to cross out but wonderful there but didn't. It obviously is an uplifting thing otherwise so many women would not be caught out in this potentially destructive behaviour.

Sorry to jump in - Lying you will never know how much your wise words have touched me today. Thank you for your non-judgmental and hopeful advice. I feel like you were talking directly to me as well as everyone else on this thread.

Bonnie, that's nice of you, I'm glad that it's helped you. It's a miserable place to be and I know what it feels like. I hope you are picking your way through so that you can get out the other side again. It won't hurt forever.