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I've met someone and want to ask him out

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ProfessorPickles · 25/04/2016 22:30

I've recently met someone who has really taken me by surprise. I've been single for around 3 years now, apart from a short relationship, and I'd had very little interest in men for a long time until I met him.

He's good looking but what got me by surprise is his personality, he's very smiley and has a great sense of humour. He makes me laugh and is a genuinely nice person. I haven't met someone who's even caught my eye for a long, long time so it's a little bit exciting! Smile

The problem however, is that he's a teacher at my university. Not my teacher, but I have contact with him occasionally.
We are a similar age (I'm a slightly older student) and I will be leaving in 2 months so would wait until then.

I have no idea if he is interested in me too, but I can't believe I've had my head turned after so long of being adamant I was going to be happily alone forever so I feel it would be foolish to just ignore it.

My idea was to give him a 'thank you' card/gift as I am leaving (for helping with my work, I'll be giving them to two other members of staff) and put my number inside. I thought this would be good so he can choose to take it or leave it, as it's potentially a little bit inappropriate?
If he isn't interested he can simply ignore it to spare me the embarrassment of asking to his face! Although, I've known several teachers to get together with students once they've left so I suppose it isn't that radical of an idea.

Best case scenario: We go on a date, fall in love, get married, have children and tour the country with our family band.

Worst case scenario: He never contacts me and life goes on.

It's worth a try surely? Grin

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ProfessorPickles · 03/06/2016 22:24

You're right PG, a slight alteration only so it's easy to find! Maybe "I've met someone and I'm GOING to ask him out"? As I'm definitely up for it now and hopefully This is too Wink

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ProfessorPickles · 03/06/2016 22:25

Let's all swamp Sweeney with questions, a man has entered the thread room and now we are excited!

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ThisIsTheRightTime · 03/06/2016 22:26

The most important question is, Prof, will you be wearing a red dress too when you do?

ThisIsTheRightTime · 03/06/2016 22:26

I cannot believe how silly this is making us all!

SweeneyToddFlyingSquad · 03/06/2016 22:27

Car mechanic man could prove to be a bit difficult as I'm not au fait with the French culture...funnily enough I should have been there this month but couldn't make it...unfortunately This...it's not as easy as profs tutor...not sure about the party thing unless he also knows a lot of people...can you not ask him for a drink as a thank you for looking after your car and doing a good job

SweeneyToddFlyingSquad · 03/06/2016 22:28

Damn...my cheese on toast has burnt

SweeneyToddFlyingSquad · 03/06/2016 22:29

I love it...I don't think it's silly...too much serious stuff on here

ThisIsTheRightTime · 03/06/2016 22:30

Forget your cheese on toast, Sweeney, the burning question (excuse the pun) is do you think he fancies me?

Lilacpink40 · 03/06/2016 22:31

I'm really hoping for a happy ending for this thread writing to try to keep a link to see whst happens!

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 03/06/2016 22:31

Prof start the new thread now and link to it here - please! That way it will be easy for folks me to find!

I'm over-invested in your love life, I do realise that Grin

SweeneyToddFlyingSquad · 03/06/2016 22:31

From what I have read it is a resounding yes but he will never ask you as I think he is too shy

SweeneyToddFlyingSquad · 03/06/2016 22:35

I'm sorry if my messages don't look right ..I don't know how to highlight names of people in talking too...be gentle with me...am still a softy inside

ThisIsTheRightTime · 03/06/2016 22:36

Thank GOD for Sweeney. My instinct has been telling me this all along but my brain has been playing games. Thank you for putting me out of my misery.

Let's not forget my bloke is fabulous fling potential only, unlike Prof's. Disclaimer: I have the most enormous amount of respect for him but I am lucid about the age difference.

No, the party doesn't do it for me either, Sweeney mostly because my children will be here and it could be uncomfortable for B to be surrounded by lots of equally bonkers people he doesn't know.

I think I asked him to the party to prove to myself I was brave enough to do it iyswim.

How's the cheese on toast?

SweeneyToddFlyingSquad · 03/06/2016 22:39

First time I've had burnt cheese on burnt toast....at least the smoke alarm has stopped lol...if you don't mind me asking THIS ...what is the age difference...

ThisIsTheRightTime · 03/06/2016 22:39

Sweeney as far as I'm concerned you are an angel sent from Heaven. I'm pretty sure Prof might be feeling the same.

Thank you.

SweeneyToddFlyingSquad · 03/06/2016 22:41

THIS....I really feel like going to Profs place and take the blinkers off the pair of them...I'm sure I can manoeuvre them together lol...if you came over and with the help of Pg tips...we can come up with a plan I'm sure

ThisIsTheRightTime · 03/06/2016 22:42

I'm not sure; anything from 15 to 18 is, Sweeney.

Never gone for such a youngster before but I've never been smitten by someone so manly and respectful. Also, I think maturity and age don't necessarily go hand in hand. He's old enough to work bloody long hours and to envisage buying the business in three years. My eldest daughter's dad, who was sixteen years old than me, left without a trace eighteen years ago. Very mature behaviour.

ProfessorPickles · 03/06/2016 22:43

I am definitely feeling the same! Grin Sweeney has come to save the day!

I love how people have been following this load of babble we've been posting.

Sweeney, how do you feel about tutor man? If you'd like me to recap I can as I know this thread is rather overwhelming in size Grin

I hope the toast wasn't too burnt, some people love it burnt haha

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ThisIsTheRightTime · 03/06/2016 22:43

I'd love to help them, Sweeney! It's so much easier helping others than helping oneself.

Where in France were you supposed to be?

ProfessorPickles · 03/06/2016 22:44

I also don't know how to highlight the names, I'm never sure if it's just something that automatically highlights them when on the pc or if I should stop being lazy and put people's names in bold? Blush

New thread and link coming up!

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ThisIsTheRightTime · 03/06/2016 22:46

Do you think it would be wrong of me to ask him for a coffee or drink Sweeney? Please block your ears as PGtips screams in frustration at me! I honestly just want to make that man happy.

SweeneyToddFlyingSquad · 03/06/2016 22:46

Can't abide behaviour like that...I left when my son was 1 but 27 years later we are best mates and work at the same place...have always had time for him ...my last 2 relationships both were 10 yrs older than me...it can work THIS...but I do think you will have to call the shots as much as I think he wants to

SweeneyToddFlyingSquad · 03/06/2016 22:47

My honest opinion THIS is you should have done it weeks ago....

SweeneyToddFlyingSquad · 03/06/2016 22:48

But yes ask him ...and I'll bet he says yes...

SweeneyToddFlyingSquad · 03/06/2016 22:49

Think we were supposed to be in Paris...friends birthday...but am too busy at work,,,.and also decorating

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