Let's Get Ready! It's Dating Thread 103

[DrFoxtrot]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

Yes freaky you keep your side of the bargain with not going back on tinder until you know for sure. I guess then at least you can hold your head high knowing that you were the real deal.

I hope he does a compete u turn though and goes back to how he was pre last weekend. I've had this done to me in the past and it's pretty friggin awful and makes you feel shitty!

Well i had a couple of text from marvel iron no mention of the 2nd date tonight which tbh im glad because i feel like ive been hit by a flu/cold brick wall. Sitting on my hands not texting is easy cause i keep falling asleep. He did go out last night an said he was slightly hungover.

It really is. How annoying. We all feel your pain!

Still possible that Bacon is the one home alone bored & lonely while yr off having a carefree fab family weekend as far as he knows Freaky...

I think Bacon's ego has been dented because the sex didn't go well. Men can be really funny like that.

Not really! The message I sent last night was saying I was back and how was his weekend? So, he'd better bloody not be at home!

I am sure he is not at home, Freaky unless he's in some mighty, self-absorbed strop.

[swoon warning]

Ahhhhh, Twix..... is just being sweet, interested, keen, more communicative (by text only but who cares), has suggested an evening walk tomorrow (eh? hang on - that's almost romantic..??? - ok yeah actually more to do with the fact that he's a wildlife buff).

Sorry, but, erm, permission to (in a sort of moderated version of swooning).

After my massive wigout which lasted in fact for weeks, I feel secure, calm, and very much looking forward to tomorrow night. The dating rule book has to be severely re-written adjusted for Twix. I've adjusted.

Just thought I'd check in and share some good dating vibes. Hope that's not too slushy under thread circs. Who knows what the future holds, it's just so nice to be in this place.

Who the fuck knows, to be honest? Over 24 hours since I sent that message, he must know it's there and is choosing not to respond.
He has until tomorrow and then wrath of Freaky will be descending.

Please don't apologise for swooning! It's lovely to see, especially after all your angst. It's good to know that there are good men out there and that problems can be worked through.

We need more posts vibes on this thread!

*positive!

Just had a message from a 28 year old.

"hey crazy cat lady".

NOWHERE in my profile have I mentioned liking cats

That's just really disrespectful. Like single women who are older are all neck deep in cats. Wow. Well, I replied to say ''are you very confused?''.

314 that cat lady comment would result in an immediate rebuff-and-block manoeuvre. have you had any better luck with your inbox, 314?

'wrath of Freaky' I don't blame you. At all.

ok, ok, he's clawed it back. English is his second language. He meant I had beautiful eyes. Apparently. Hmmm.

I blocked a guy earlier today for coming straight in with ''hey, you got a big arse?''.
I blocked him, but I could still view his profile and he was 42 with kids so I would have thought 'ok, promising' if he hadn't come at me with a weird insult. What is that for! big arse

I messaged a man earlier, nice looking but older, 52. so 7 years older, upper end of who I'd normally message but really in to health and fitness. But I thought he would be a good match. No reply. Trying not to take it personally. he could be seeing somebody. Out all day. On a break.

I was going to message ten people in early May! I've message two. Gotta do 8 more now. If I were to wait for the suitable men to message me I'd turn to dust.

handy and freaky I do have about 15 ''suitable'' men in my favourites. ie, older but not by more than 7 years and with kids already......... so when I am in the mood and feeling more positive, I will message at least 8.

What's the best way to do it. to message so many at once that your self-esteem is battered by the deafening silence all at once, or to stagger the rejection!!!??

oh hang on. I misunderstood hollaback girl!!! I thought it mean like a man pleasing 'cool girl'

ignore me.

good song though. snappy toon

Stagger it. If you get no response at all, you'll be out of options! A carefully crafted message a day, I reckon.
Are you on Tinder yet? Doooooo it!

What does hollaback girl mean? I am so totally not down with the kids!

Me neither clearly!

Aw Waving that's lovely news!
I'm glad it went well with your daughters. They sound lovely.

You're our inspiration!

oooh the ver healthy 51 year old has replied to me!

gtg

Hollaback is a Gwen Stefani song from around the mid 2000s I think.

Wow, you're in love waving tis fantastic:)