Jump right in! It's Dating Thread 102

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

Just looking at the time table of classes for the leisure centre nearest me. I'd rather join the posh gym that all my friends rave about, but that's a bit expensive. Anyway, I think ''strong man'' class on Sunday morning is my best bet, wdyt?
loads of spinning classes too. Men like spinning I believe. :-P

314 that video may be true to life(!) But not helpful for practicing visualisation in case/for when it happens...

Good luck to all of you on dates tonight :)
Hope they all happen after a few anticlimaxes last night :( I've not heard more from Scot so will just have to wait & see

Yes 314 strongman it is! I'll be lying in bed with my coffee tmrw morning waiting for updates! Spinning looks pretty naff to me... Unless the type involving wool...

I usen't to want my x (kids' dad) to see me looking rough, but now I think I nearly glory in it! When he returns the children I have florid skin, no make up at all, unwashed hair dragged back off my face, sweat pants, and a baggy hoodie. I really GLORY in looking shit now. But I know he knows that I know I'll be seeing him. So he knows that that's for him ;-)
I know I will run in to H at some point looking like a dog's dinner!

Actually, there's a body pump class right before the strong man class. Is that for women or men or mixed? I could go to that and meet them arriving! I could be stepping out of the shower looking gorgeous ok, let's settle for clean when they finish their class!

I guess body pump is kinda circuits - there should be women there too.

But you may yet have too much fun at the party to get up for it... :)

It's Bacon day! Feeling a bit wobbly to be honest. Had to text him this morning to make plans as I hadn't heard from him since yesterday afternoon, which pissed me off a bit. But he was sweet about everything, said he didn't care where we went, he just wanted to see me.
I have still got this niggling feeling that he's talking to/seeing someone else (well within his rights, I know, I just don't like it...) and also feel a bit like things are cooling. But that could be down to my usual over thinking/analysing of messages...
Plus, I have a wine hangover which is feeding the paranoia/general low mood. Lesson learnt...don't get pissed the day before a date!
I am still looking forward to seeing him later, just hope it's as good as last week!

Good luck Tanya and freaky on your dates! And anyone else out this evening. I know there is another but can't think who?

"Never having an iron would be worse than having to wade through frogs"

:o

314 I get you men can grow on you. So far I've had a text from Irish today but ignored it partly as super busy at home then out with friend.

iTold is this date number 2 with Bacon? Hope it goes well. I hate the hangover mood too but sometimes it can work to your advantage - if you're not on your A game you don't read too much into it, try too hard etc? How does the niggling and cooling work? I swear Mr Journo had used another condom inbetween seeing me (he'd swear blind otherwise) I just checked in his bedside cabinet after he'd gone to work and seemed like there were more there the previous time... but then again though I was wondering if it would go anywhere I guessed it was all about the sex though he claimed otherwise and "really liked me". It wouldn't have lasted though. The sex wasn't even that good but the passion was there!

314 men do indeed like spinning! The one decent man I know who likes spinning is actually a real catch, early 50s but single, no kids, welder, own flat, loves rock and rock dancing (and a good dancer) and can cook a mean roast. He goes on country bike rides. His friend who also spins and is single is on and off from his ex wife about to get into a messy divorce. Is a lovely man the latter but always drama.

Good luck to all on dates. I'm off out at bar for friends birthday drinks, not going to meet anyone at all.

itoldyou you need another iron quick. you need to come towards bacon from a place of abundance.

Freaky, in the absence of more irons before tonight, I suggest you send yourself some scheduled texts. send one for 9 pm. Glance at your phone the first time, and then really quickly put it back in your bag with a calm half smile. more scheduled texts for 9.05 and 9.06. Just look like you didn't even hear them!!!!! like''I'm so polite, even though other men are texting me, you have my full attention''. And channel a ''I'll reply to them later''' face.

If he says ''everything ok???' say 'oh yes, that can wait"

How do you send yourself scheduled texts?

Scheduled texts - I never knew such a thing existed - genius!!

Good luck tonight Tanya and Freaky. Looking forward to your updates.

I had my first (zero?) date with Pingu this afternoon. I think it went quite well. He's clever, interesting, and we had a lot to talk about. Would I see him again? Yes. Was there any attraction/chemistry? That's much harder. I just don't know. But as it's not a definite "no", I'll meet him again - if he asks...

Sounds ok goldfish interesting and clever is always nice! Shame about the lack of fireworks though, hopefully you'll get a chance to test them out again on date 2. Any other irons still in the running?

Hello all, I haven't been around for a bit but I REALLY need your wise words!
Started talking to a guy on POF and within a few minutes we exchanged numbers to use whatsapp instead.
We've been chatting on there for at least a couple of weeks, and on Wednesday just gone I was going to be brave and ask him out for coffee. He must have read my mind as he messaged asking the exact same and asked when I was free. I replied saying "I'm free this weekend?" He read the message almost immediately and then..... Nothing. No reply. I use whatsapp a lot and have been checking him and he's online a LOT so what excuse is there for not replying? I was a bit peeved as I then didn't make any firm plans for this weekend in case he messaged apologetically at the last minute.
Should I just leave it? If he gets back in touch should I try to re-arrange or has he already shown his flakey-ness? I don't want to be messed around.

WeSWell, i go to new message and type in the recipient (i have me in under 'ME' , who could crack that code.
Now up at the top right on my phone there are three dots and if I click on them it comes down with a list of options like discard, add subject scehdule message

my phone only a samsung. i'm sure iphones have this option.
right taxi here soon.
bye!

315 who was that message for, I'm a bit lost but that's nothing new
honey how annoying why do they do this! Chatting for weeks with no mention of meeting up (who wants a penpal) and then the minute you reply to HIS question with a time for coffee he disappears! I mean I'm scratching my head for you, but I've seen it before and never do get this! Definately don't message him he knows where you are! Just carry on with some different irons and he'll come back if he wants you xx

"Only a Samsung" is not necessary - iPhones are not first for all functionality by a very long shot! :o

It looks like I'd have to download an app to allow this, but I'll keep it in mind if I ever feel like playing text games :)

And Honey pls don't leave yr weekend empty on that off chance again! He will have to see you when you have time :)

Goldfish sound's promising...

Wonder how all the dates are going! There was lots out tonight

Not posted for a little while but have been following (as best as possible as things on this thread move fast). Hope everyone with dates are having lovely nights! After a week of putting in a lot of effort with searching on pof and match I can only report that those who I've messaged haven't responded and those who have messaged me I've not responded (lots of strange ones out there) so it's just me, my cat and a glass of wine tonight (sigh) although I have a date at the zoo with my little boy tomorrow which we're both excited about!