Jump right in! It's Dating Thread 102

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

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That reminds me, Dr Creepy whatsapped me last night to ask how I was and I just said fine. I didn't say, recovering from one of the creepiest dates I've ever been on. We had a quick chat and he told me my expectations were too high. He tried to kiss me. I was only expecting him to behave. Or did he mean something else. Not sure now and I won't be back looking for clarification. I said to him that it was a shame that our on line rapport didn't walk off the screen and he said yeh, ah well, and we just wished each other well. So, phew. Kind of.

Jollyx I agree we should deal with our inner doormat but surely its the decent men who won't take advantage anyway? Good for sending the bad ones on their way though!

I can't get with the great them mean/inner bitch thing though - unless I'm genuinely not interested - it just smacks of manipulation & I just want to be myself (though less labrador would be good!)

I can see the thread has mostly divided between here & the fb group - mainly because its so difficult to keep up with one never mind 2! It today's quiet could be due to work (in my case) no sunshine here just April showers :(

Expectations too high? To meet someone with social skills?

Er okay. Righto...

Sounds like he lives in a parallel dimension - next!!!

I was describing his cottage modernised with glass out the back and its panoramic view of the city, and its address to my friend this morning! and she said ''are you sure?, are you sure that you couldn't............." I'M SURE I said.

Hahahaha 314 that's really funny. He sure sounds creepy. ewwwww...

Handy I know! to risk a kiss when there was nothing but tension and awkwardness there, that was a risky move on his part. to be fair, H kissed me on our second date. But he kissed my cheek first, guaged my reaction and then kissed me on the lips. Bit of edging forward. Not a lunge. Combination of intelligence + social skills. God, I miss social skills.

I know what you mean 314 handsome, intelligent, communicative, interesting men with social skills hardly seem to exist!

But they MUST be out there, some evidence on this thread alone that there are.

We shall just have to don our deerstalker hats and twirl our moustaches harder

Quick update...not read last couple of pages but will do later. I have a date tonight with Apple, setting off shortly.

Regarding slow fader, I did reply just a chatty message. Super he was genuinely busy at that point in his life but it's no excuse for ghosting!! I think he was just being nice with his out of the blue message, I think he would ask if he wanted to see me again. Maybe?! I'm not actually sure haha. We will have to see what happens.

Have a great date Foxtrot and well played re Slow Fader.

Ooh Yey - two updates for later am living vicariously now, such is my drought

I'm so sorry, I've been spending far too much time in the FB group and not enough on here.

I am in shock but pretty happy about it I have swapped numbers with someone 3 years younger than me and i never thought that would happen. I also am conversing with someone 9 years older than me but i am sure its a fake picture but the conversations are sooo good im scared of what he looks like

Sounds good muddlingalong I'm 31 and my dates have ranged in age from 25 to 43 (am meeting the 43 year old guy tonight) so I'd go for it. Have you tried putting the pictures in to google images if you're worried they're fake?

How do you do check photos on google? Didnt know you could do that at all lol.

If you go to images.google.com/ and cut and paste the photo or URL in to the box it should show you if the photo is publicly online anywhere else...

Good luck all on dates tonight, looking forward to the updates in the absence of anything even close myself

I'm early and my chosen first date bar seems to have moved to table service so there may be an awkward bill splitting discussion later!

Good luck Princess JollyX and Foxtrot happy dating!

It's so quiet on here!

MrComputer has gone off to work offshore for 17 days. He suggested I got whatsapp as its the only way he can keep in touch while he's away. He sent a message telling me he was there safe. He then messaged later to say he was working 7pm-7am. I'm not sure whether to just reply as normal or just to shoot off a breezy message saying 'well shoot me a message when you are free' sounds a bit needy to me

This is so difficult

So my being all bitchy to the hottie has escalated and I've quite enjoyed my few found thinking! He's bloody gorgeous and has a fit body, obviously a gym freak but typically vain and shallow with it I expect. He asked me was I slim and fit! So I told him I have the perfect suggestion for him, due to his love of blondes with the perfect/unrealistic figure I'd send him a barbie doll! I then said i wasn't here to sell myself, if he wasn't into cute, sassy and frankly very funny brunettes the that was ok because I think I'm pretty cool anyway!! (Get me, fake it till you make it and all that) cue him coming back asking to take me out for drinks one evening! im not even sure I want to now, i want someone who's into me and likes my type not who makes me feel he's doing me a favour? I don't think I'd ever feel good enough with my big butt and thighs! But I may just go anyway as I have absolutely NO expectations and may continue to use him as practice! He thinks he's gods gift, I think it's a challenge!

Haha last it may prove excellent practice. It seems to be working via messaging. Maybe you could take one for the team and discover whether men like bitches in person

MrsL it is frustrating.

Send him something breezy - but do it tomorrow?

Good bitching last

He's obviously not used to anyone saying no to him, and not fawning all over him. I said no to him coming here, no to an extended all night date but kindly offered to go there for one, possibly 2 drinks if I didn't find him too annoying!!
Mean while I have a new tinder match messaging me and another guy from POF who I had lovely chats on over the weekend has popped back up again. I seem to have some irons AT LAST!!!!