Forgive me for diving in on a selfish basis with a question when I'm an old lurker and haven't actually been on here for a while, but know that if anyone can answer this for me, you wise ladies can!! I was on my own for over a year, well adjusted with it, I think, a few real life dating let downs and ready to admit that actually I did enjoy the dating and was ready to get back out there. So I decided to try online and met someone online just over a month ago, had been chatting to him for a month regularly before that. He's the only person I've talked to online. So here's the thing - and I feel quite shallow saying it.....
If I'd have met him in a bar, I wouldn't have given him a second glance. He's quite scruffy, not in shape at all either (god I feel shallow saying this!) However, we get on brilliantly and its all extremely passionate at the moment. Loads of funny messages, good banter, great sex, he seems a good decent man. But!! He lives further away than I'd like and due to our situations with our children not sure there could ever be a future in it. Am I wrong to carry it on? Is it really shallow to care about how he dresses? Or embrace the fact that online dating helps you connect with people in different ways? Am I making sense?!
Appreciate any thoughts, guess I'm confused as this is the first person I've really had anything meaningful with since my separation and I was married for a long time. He's so not what I had would have picked out for myself. But just re read this post, and realise how shallow it sounds. Maybe it's a form of self protection, convince myself that it's not good....
Apologies again for the self indulgent post. Have really enjoyed trying to catch up on the thread, there's some promising things developing.... Thanks all :)