Jump right in! It's Dating Thread 102

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

And I didn't call him Bacon!

Freaky am doing a little dance in my living room!

Yay! Freaky

What's wrong Fox?

I an dancing too! Such a gentleman but in a really lovely way and I think the excessive talk about himself was due to nerves and he loved how sweary I am and there were no awkward moments and it was just perfect! I am giddy.

Freaky OMG!! Now I have another Swoon Friend !!

That's blimming wonderful!!!

for Foxtrot.

Shame callow re Amdram and can totally see why that would send you heading back to the ex.

And I guess the non date was what it said on the tin. Any friend potential?

for Freaky

So exciting freaky can't wait to see how this pans out, all these lovely dates and swooning!! Hooray

Fuck, add me to the swooning bench.

KarmicIron is away at a friend's birthday in the same town Popcorn and I had our mammoth-disaster date. And he just randomly sent me a lovely pic THAT WAS TAKEN FROM THE VERY SPOT WHERE POPCORN BINNED ME. How random is that?!

I am very down to earth and not one to believe in this Universe thing but.. add the pic thing to us matching on Tinder months after I ghosted him on OKC...and I feel like a higher spirit has just slapped me.

And am swooning. Hard.

Thanks everyone just a dry spell on tinder but I'm laughing with my friend about it!!! I'm still positive! It's dire because the right man isn't there!

I'm doing a happy dance here for Freaky too! Fingers crossed for more good dates with Bacon and more swooning!

JollyX that's excellent - just go with the flow with Karmiciron. I think he sounds absolutely lovely .

I would like a space on the swooning bench but only for the right man!

Freaky brilliant news

Froxtrot
It's dire because the right man isn't there!
^ this in spades.
I'm glad I wasn't on a date tonight.
I didn't think it was a bad date while I was there but as I walked away I took a huge sigh of relief. I started out thinking he was nice but as the evening went on he got frothy about some television shows and politics so the last hour was hard work.

So pleased for you Freaky

Had a couple of interesting chats at the party but the lack of irons/prospect of really getting me down... Actually that would just be a useful distraction...

Freaky that's great. You got a kiss!
(A peck or a kiss)

Jolly that is weird....!

Loads of smitten posters at the moment!

freaky expecting lots of lovely updates on the next episode of your bacon fest!
foxtrot I know what you mean with scraping the bottom of the barrel, having had no irons for a good week and feeling ever more desperate I started swiping right to less and less my type guys just to get more matches. When one popped up and I looked at his photo, I didn't even recognise him let alone fancy his picture! I need to stop this and go back to being more selective or I'll end up with a date out of desperation that is totally unsuitable..
jollyxmas your thing with karmic seems to be going along nicely! What number date are you up to and when is the next one?
anna have you contacted him since? If it's hard work on the first date and you felt like that on leaving then "that" text is definitely due!

Proper kiss 314! Peck on the cheek when we met, proper kiss to say goodnight...perfect! And he texted when he got in to say what a nice time he'd had Just need to secure a 2nd date now...

for freaky. Your date sounds AMAZING! Re the talking about himself. Quite a few men do that through nerves. Right, now we all wait for date no. 2!!!! Question, you sound smitten. Are you going to keep other irons in play?

ocelot pining is entirely normal. It will pass you know. How was your party?

gold I laughed out loud at the vision of you both carrying twixes! Very good!

mrsl I always tell the truth, that I am having a well deserved night in. I'm busy enough so love my nights in!

shame noooooo re the exes. That is weird!

anna oh well re the non date, friends out of it or not really?

callow no questions? How tiresome. I would have left the date of longer than an hour under those circumstances! Next!

fox if you decide you are taking a break from OLD come and join me on my opting out bench! . It's actually rather nice I'm not going to lie. I am totally focussed on ME and it's quite lovely really.

jollyx wow!!! The universe heard you loud and clear!!! (I totally believe in this stuff btw)

I'm looking forward to having a fab evening tmrw with tree2 friends only although I think a snog may occur. Not sure what game realthing is playing, I replied to his text yesterday morning asking how I was and he hasn't replied. I'm not one of his irons so he's going to receive short shrift from me here on in. I expect better manners from friends. I shall either train him into my bench or kick him out the stadium.

Happy Sunday everyone! waving where are you????

Oh swoonsville, Freaky that's perfect.

Jolly you've been slapped by the universe. Time to submit to a higher power and get with the swooners....

Foxtrot I really admire you for not getting hung up on Crumpet during your dry spell. More power to your elbow. Also last for not dropping your standards.

No friend potential then, Anna?

Eek for 314's date tonight! Another one I've got a good feeling about!

Been watching the Anna Young YouTube videos. She basically says the same as Mattgew Hussey I think? Which is great. Reinforces The Rules.

Had a text from Twix last night saying he would like to go to London galleries but hasn't had anyone to go with and isn't brave enough to go alone. You know what? I think because I'm swooning so much over the guy, I might have missed until now that actually he's SHY. Four days left til I can see him....

Enjoy 314 ....no labradors!
I'm sure it will be a fun evening...but if it isn't I hope you'll have forgotten I suggested you message him again! :)

Oh it's all so exciting, everyone seems to be pairing off! Congrats ladies, what a feeling it is.

I feel daft posting my questions about OD and what I should do now so many of you ladies are kind of taken, but you must have done something right so who better to ask, right?

MrComputer has played a bit of a blinder on tinder and after I said I was going to bed last night when we were messaging he sent me his mobile number to 'send me a text'

So now I have to work out when I should text... How long should I leave it? We have been messaging fairly consistently the last few days always instigated by him do I'm clueless

I'd text him now!

Ooh really jolly? Not too keen?

You like him, MrsL? Then text him now, or perhaps later today.

Also, not many of us here are 'taken' - I'm in a 'thing' with Twix - a 'dating' thing but don't feel like it's particularly serious. I would very much like it to be but I'm not there yet.

MrsL don't overthink it - just be yourself... Just not too too eager eg at this stage don't send another message if you haven't had a reply

I haven't read up properly but last I'd sent 'that' text when I got in last night. It wasn't quite the usual 'no spark' text, I was friendly and breezy but clear because he does live very locally and I will probably see him around again.

How about a breezy - thanks for your number and now you have mine! Look forward to hearing from you xx

I'm off for lunch date with iron I'm calling Chippy, he's been a slow burner with nice messages so fingers crossed. My daughter was in hospital last week and he sent sweet messages with just the right amount of contact - hope he's not a dud. I normally always speak on the phone first and haven't with this one so a bit apprehensive - im a bit of a snob and do like a nice voice. Eeek the nerves are kicking in!!