Jump right in! It's Dating Thread 102

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

Yay, it's happening! Good as I am out of Outlander episodes and I have a horrible cold so will hang around in my PJs too tonight.

Mrslannister I think that as long as you sound excited about whatever you are doing you can say pretty much everything!

MrsLannister, I have that problem too as most nights I'm in with my DS. He's with his dad at the moment, so am actually having a social life! I'm making sure my irons know about it, as for the next few weeks I'll have little to report except for sitting on the sofa watching First Dates (and mumsnetting, but would never mention that for fear of them finding this thread).

Enjoy your wine and takeaway!

Lannister often I just say "I'm in tonight as I have dd (she's 2.5) but I have a large glass of red wine often this is a fib and I'm sat drinking tea!

However I've been known on occasions to be a little economical with the truth if she's with her dad and I've no plans like tonight

I'd think nothing of embellishing the truth in that way, MrsL

Surprisingly I've heard from Friday's coffee guy saying he'd like to see me again when he moves to my city in two weeks so we'll see what happens...

I'm a fellow fan of The National, Richmond Fontaine, Richard Hawley et al Ocelot and Goldfish

Great news, Princess. Were you quite keen on him?

I have a new iron, Spock. He's become my second favourite. I also got a message from someone who lives in Israel - I mean, really, what's the point? And another message from someone who likes being tied up, which would be a real turn-off for me.

Ive had my first detailed pervy message about a dream this bloke from pof had about me apparently. I wanted to reply back with tracked changes on spelling and grammar.

Finally I'm out after a delay due to an allergic reaction my hair is glossy, makeup like RuPaul. What can possibly go wrong?
It's not a date.

I'm still with Math! It's going a bit too well

Small spoke in the wheel is that his recent ex has been seeing STBXH!!! Too weird.

I'll update tomorrow

He's a roide! We're having fun

Haha Anna have a good Non Date.

Hahahahahahahahahahahaha shame WTF re the exes?!!!

And Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeek Freaky

Good updating ladies!!!

OMG Shame that's going well!

I know! We went out for tapas lunch and to a David Hockney exhibition and are having drinks and a takeaway now!

We had the talk about dating others too!

Ok, he's talking about himself perhaps a smidge too much but listening too and we agree on lots and I so totally would!

Wow, great updates tonight! Shame, that sounds like a fab day. Freaky, I guess the talking about himself a bit too much could be down to nerves? But anyway, sounds like that's not bothering you too much...

Hope Anna's date is going well too.

freaky yeeeeeeeyyyyyy have you accidentally called him bacon yet? Haha!

It's not a date!

By which I mean it's definitely not a date. Nothing much wrong with him, he'd make a lovely date for someone but he doesn't have that edge not in the U2 way

Freaky sounds brilliant!! Haha have you called him Bacon yet Shame.

Oops, should have said non-date! But anyway ... that's a shame, Anna. Do you think he could become a friend?

It is nice to hear everyone's updates.

Well I met up with Mr Amdram, he was okay just like his photos, but there was no spark. Although he may have grown on me. However he didn't ask me a single question about myself so that put me off. I know a lot about him but he knows nothing about me. Neither of us has sent the other a message since this morning.

When I got home disillusioned I did a silly thing and sent a text to ex BF and we have met up for the afternoon. As usual we went around in circles discussing the two of us. We get on well, electric chemistry and enjoy being with each other but he doesn't want the type of relationship I do. He wants what is basically an exclusive FWB, while I want something more committed. Anyway we did a lot of snogging and then he left to go home. Last thing that was decided was that we would just be friends after a period of no contact.

My other iron Mr Puzzle has sent a message with his phone number, so I may speak to him tomorrow. I have to be careful with him as we have mutual friends.

So while he's in the loo I'm down to two 'friend' irons Charidee and SirVan.
And two date irons Captain Jack Sparrow and Bloodaxe.
I'm almost completely sure that I won't fancy Captain Jack and Bloodaxe is a possible but I'm not holding my breath.

Then I'll go back to the drawing board.

callow, if someone didn't ask me any questions about myself, it would really put me off. The only date I've ever made an excuse to leave early was someone who lied about his height and then talked about himself non-stop. I can totally understand you contacting your ex after a date like that. I guess the problem with being close to an ex, though, is that it can stop you moving on.

Anna, fingers crossed you fancy Bloodaxe. Have you got any plans to meet?

I don't have to disappoint you guys! Omg, he's lovely! We had drinks, dinner, he walked me to a taxi, said "I'm going to kiss you now" and did.. Reader, I swooned!

Trying to remain positive but really feel like I'm I'm scraping the tinder barrel here .

I might need an OLD break...

Freaky that's amazing I'm so happy for you! Looking forward to further updates and future dates!