Jump right in! It's Dating Thread 102

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

Shameandregret ones a guy I've been chatting too for while. Not sure we're going to be compatible but he's very funny.
Other one is new, might meet him for a coffee next week.
On the up!

Hahaha so I rang him just now on my way up to the station. Went to voicemail!

I killed him with the cuteness of my message saying I just thought it would be nice to hear his voice, but I also MH'd him with my going-out-ness....

I will now be unavailable for phonecalls unless I'm a bit the worse for wear later, and do something silly haha

That's a crap update. Sorry....

Well at least you did it handy

STBXH is doing his usual Friday night trick of being late so I am going to be late for math and his cooking. I've sent him a text but hope he hasn't startted

I will PM you now MrsRolandRat tahnks

That's an excellent line to start the exclusivity talk JollyX, I've not heard it before. I think you are so right about the 'neediness' thing men are worried about. Crumpet did mention on our first date he was put off when women were needy. Well I'm so uneedy that if he ever decides he wants a third date I may have completely forgotten about him.

Princess it's a shame there was no spark but definitely worth finding out.

Shame and JollyP (I hope I'm right!) good luck on your dates.

Handy good work leaving a message, I usually get flustered and waffle and talk too fast!

I've no real irons going yet although I'm exchanging a couple of nice messages with two matches on tinder, I will try to warm them up later...

He no internet for a few days and I've missed loads
Bacon,waving, lovejoy and loads of others hi al you new guys
Off on a weekend away with the fuzz and I can't bloody wait he's lovely

My update is that Dr NN sent me a message to say he'd be out 'til 9 this evening. Very precise.

This worries me a tiny bit. Does he think I'm checking up on him, or that he owed it to me to tell me he was out/not able to message! we haven't met yet. Is HE investing too much ?? we haven't met yet. But hey, I did say he was very straight forward. I'm still looking forward to Sunday and at least unlike with mr canceller {groan} so over that long drawn out game, he just got on with making a date.

I had a bit of an epiphany earlier. With H watching me, ie, just in my life, I pushed myself. To organise driving, to get stuff done. Even knowing I'm going on a date with Dr NN has made me fire out a few CVs
Bear is the only man who I am happy to be mediocre in front of Is this bad or good?

Not that he's an option so I don't know why I said that. It's irrelevant.

Yes, Amy Young she's young but I love her. I've been finding her mantras very useful.

I rearrange my life for no man
Mixed messages aren't my thing

Not that he's an option so I don't know why I said that. It's irrelevant.

Yes, Amy Young she's young but I love her. I've been finding her mantras very useful.

I rearrange my life for no man
Mixed messages aren't my thing

Trying to be more confident sending messages to people tonight but after swiping on tinder for the last few nights ive had no matches. Messaged someone on match no response yet.
Had a message from someone on match complimented my shoes, 2nd message asked me if i had sexy underwear to match the shoes

314 I find that if I'm actively dating it spurs me into action in lots of ways (mainly housework ). I think it's a good thing, it's motivating.

I know your two posts are duplicates but actually I can't hear your two messages often enough! Mixed messages aren't my thing. And some men seem pros at sending mixed messages.

I'm getting a little excited by some of the matches on tinder tonight, I'm going to calm myself while trying to turn them into proper irons.

muddling keep swiping, there will probably be more matches over the weekend, I do find it differs at different times of the week. Stick with it . Well done on building your confidence, sending messages does get easier and you'll be less bothered if they don't respond.

Going to sit with a glass of something cold and do some swiping and ignoring underwear guy lol

Good idea! I'll be doing the same later but I don't have underwear guy to deal with

I think I might text that to somebody some time

"mixed messages aren't my thing"

It's a good one!

I am not an iron queen - rarely have more than one on the go because I am very busy and important

Or just lacking in enough bothered-ness.

Mixed messages not my thing is a very good one.

"Out til nine" seems unnecessarily specific.

Ooh I may have two tinder irons (at last!!)

MrComputer and MrWhiskey.

I will NOT become over invested and I refuse to meet until I have the bare bones of them (ooh er) and I have spoken to them on the phone. It's the least we deserve ladies

Well, we just chatted on whatsapp for two hours! Nothing deep, very easily. A couple of things, we said, chat more about that on sunday. So I don't fear we'll have nothing to say. I'm not building it up in my head. Zero-eth date regardless of the easy banter in the run up to meeting. I hope he realises this too. I get a tiny vibe that he hasn't fake-connected before a date like he has with me, not often anyway. I could be wrong. WE know it's all bullshit because we have each other and the thread, and MH. Hang on though, back up, deja vu If I remember rightly, to begin with, I thought H was a bit 'sweet' and then I totally amended that original assessment. How wrong I was. Sweet my ass. He was roooooooothless!

we know it's all bullshit til you meet them I mean.

Ooooh, I love the frantic swiping going on in here "keep calm kind of and keep swiping" is my mantra these days.

Also that zeroth date should be added to the Rules next thread!

I am gently warming MrMonkey up and couple more matches on Tinder in case things go sideways with KarmicIron. He is lovely and planning date 2 though, which should be Tuesday or Wednesday. Also watched Amy Young on "accepting the nice guys" and she has a point. I can't let niceness be a turn off. Plus I don't find him unattractive, just a bit meh. So, here we go, I will be going on date 2 with an open mind.

314 the easy messaging and banter is a good sign, and the fact you've got things to talk further about on Sunday will help everything to flow. But yes I always try to remember that it's all BS until it happens!

No irons here but I've enjoyed flirty messages with a tinder match that I will call Figment. Because he lives so far away, and he appears to be too good to be true. Gorgeous, intelligent but lives miles away. He travels with work though so could be possible. I can't get my hopes up too much as he's only in my local area on holiday and might just be after a flirty text boost. Which is ok because I've enjoyed it too

Cross posted JollyX! I think Karmiciron sounds lovely, definitely don't let his niceness be a turn off.

I so need Keep Calm And Keep Swiping on a mug.

314 I think its nice he told you he was out so you weren't left wondering :) & good to be able to chat 2_hrs on WhatsApp - it bodes well...

The gig was fab! Pretty sure M wasn't there - though the place was rammed - the music probably wasn't cool enough for him... But good looking husband of friend is coming with me again to the gig M will be at in 2_weeks :)

I have carried on chatting to teacher & its a bit more interesting but still slow... & a new potential iron of sorts contacted me on tinder - he's allegedly working for UN in Lebanon (well it did say he was 3300 miles away!) but coming back to next city in a couple of weeks so we shall see...

Am loving the sound of KarmicIron and DrNN.... BS til it happens, yes, but certainly reasons for optimism.

So while I was out living my amazing life this evening, Twix voicemailed me back. A lovely, enthusiastic, cheery message which I will definitely replay gratuitously once I've said goodbye to my friends, arrived home and got into bed and followed it up with a lovely text, wishing me a 'wonderful evening' and referring to me by name. Double doses of swoon. That'll do nicely. I'm just so irredeemably, hopelessly swoony. Hurry up Wednesday!

Ocelot that all sounds really positive. I love that you have good looking husband of friend to utilise! The irons sound promising too . I'm not sure if I'm going to achieve 10 irons by May but I'm having a good crack at it!

I love the sound of swoony Handy! Even though I'm practically iron-less, I'm really feeling the love on the thread tonight . You've all got me feeling positive with a warm glow and there's not a decent iron in sight over here!