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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher

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Mouseface · 30/03/2016 00:05

Hi, tis me, Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. We're delighted to have you here :) Not because if you're new to the Babes you are here for help, but because we welcome every kind of drinker. And for all of the reasons life throws at you.

Those that do drink, those that don't drink and of course those who do but don't want to say just how much..............

We've all had our own personal Groundhog Day , some still are and don't want to remain trapped in the same cycle day in, day out, and some still are and want to be which is fine and why we're here.

To talk, to listen, to just be us, like you are YOU. You never know, one day you might just want to wake up on a different day? :) There's no judging here, no 'sides.

After all, something made you click on and read this :)

Come say hi! We even do Brew & Cake if you're super quick!!

And if you want to see what we got up to in the last thread, have a look RIGHT HERE

And this is where our adventure began, almost six years ago now!!

ALMOST SIX YEARS AGO...........

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babyjane1 · 23/04/2016 13:32

Hi babes,

will crikey no need to apologise, i think you can have posts deleted, if you feel there's anything you don't want to have on record, only a few of us will have read the thread so far today. I think it's safe to presume none of us live like the Waltons or have a little house on the prairie, there's nothing on here but warmth and compassion, you iz family Sista xxx

lala hope your ok babe and the weather is nice enough for a lovely hack, best tonic for the body and mind, well jell xxx

dementedma · 23/04/2016 13:54

willglad to see you are OK and well done for coming back. No apologies needed on this thread.

I have taken Venus advice and so far have walked to the hairdresser ( a whole 5 minutes away), bought myself a couple of cheap and cheerful tops from Matalan, made a pot of soup and eaten avocado on toast for lunch. ( and taken mother shopping and put two loads of washing out).
Am now off to tidy the bedroom. Living on the edge.

laladidah · 23/04/2016 13:58

Afternoon Blush just about feeling human now. Usual regrets, hating self, feel like I have wasted my day, blah blah blah. What a ridiculous and preventable cycle to get caught up in, Eh?

As always, thanks for the support (and sensible, much needed and no nonsense orders from ma etc) last night. elba I could have literally written your post to made word for word. Hope night shift went well and you are having a well deserved snooze.

will how are you doing?

baby - thanks. Weather here is alternating between sunny and cloudy, might go for a ride later if I feel up to it. Or might go and get my nails done #firstworlddecisions.

Had a wobble thinking about money earlier this morning, wondering if i am ever going to be able to afford my own house... Plus have been spending far too much money on the animals lately. Then I realised that when it comes to alcohol, I think nothing of spending up to £20 - £40 a night when drinking - on wine, cigarettes and takeaway... Imagine what I could do with that money if I stopped? Could probably save £100 a week... Ridiculous how my priorities lie...

Anyway, hope you are all having a lovely day Thanks

WillAndDisgrace · 23/04/2016 16:48

Thanks for all your kind words. I actually don't feel really hung over, I'm running behind the bus and determined to jump on

dementedma · 23/04/2016 17:08

Am on a roll. Dressing table top cleaned and tidied( OK, chest of drawers top), and have finally sorted out all the paperwork- insurances ,pensions, documents etc- and put in poly pockets and filed! Two bags of shredding to do though. Am feeling very productive. Went to see dad too and walked there and back - again, not far but usually I would jump in the car.

soberisthenewblack168 · 23/04/2016 18:07

Evening allSmile
Sorry to see that some of us are really struggling at the moment with life. It's tough enough deciding to try and kick an addiction when life is good but when life is throwing up all kinds of problems then it's really tough.
Still if there is one lesson I am.learning the hard way it's that alcohol makes my problems seem much bigger than they really are. Alcohol really messes with my emotions . DH remarked the other day when I had managed 3 AF days how he thought I was really on form. I definitely over think when I am hungover
So tonight I am aiming for another AF day which will make it 4 so far thus week Smile
Sending positive vibes and lots ofChocolate and Cake to anyone struggling tonight

laladidah · 23/04/2016 18:48

Well done sober, that's good innings. I am about to go for a walk with the puppy - irks it classed as puppy abuse if I stick her in my (clean) bag and give her something to munch on while I am walking?? She had her very own letter addressed to her, inviting her to a puppy party. She has a better social life than me.

Just broke a wine glass that was languishing in my room. It's a sign, clearly, isn't it? Just been on hands and knees picking up every single tiny speck of glass in case puppy comes upstairs. Speaking of which, she is so funny, she can get up them, but can't get down, so sits crying until someone picks her up and takes her to the bottom.

Didn't ride today baby, going tomorrow instead. Silly horse ate half a pack of polos and about three stud muffins (weird horse treat mostly composed of molasses and oats, actually quite tasty, not that I have tried one or anything Blush)on thurs when I left my grooming bag unattended for two minutes.

Nice evening here, not going to promise not to drink, but feel a bit happier. Met friends for coffee, got nails done. A productive day. In comparison with spending it all under the duvet crying like a loser....

Are you all having a nice evening?

babyjane1 · 23/04/2016 21:02

ma I'm super impressed, I spend much more time worrying about the big but mundane stuff than it would ever take me to do it, crazy but true so I love it when I do!!!

Same goes for the gym
Same goes for the diet
Same goes for getting sober

Is there a pattern emerging here, I think so.

I'm seeing my pychiatrist on Monday (now there's words I never thought I'd say) we will have to change over my bipolar medication, the weight gain is not helping my health and is really starting to get me down, plus the constant sugar craving and binges that follow make my me feel like shit. I know my mental wellbeing is paramount but looking and feeling so bloated is bringing me down and there is no cut off point, most people taking this medication keep getting bigger. I know your all probably thinking just don't eat the crap but it's as real to me as having a horrendous thirst and needing a glass of water (crikey been there too with the booze). Even if I diet and excercise the way the chemicals in the tablet work alters the way my pancreas deals with insulin so screws my metabolism up.

Anyway they used this particular one because it was fast acting and i was in a bad way and drinking myself to death so it seemed like the lesser evil. So now I can switch to a similar drug but it takes much longer to kick in so there will be a overlap of the 2 meds.

Sorry I'm waffling, I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm terrified there will be a danger point where I'm vulnerable and have a manic episode and drink and drink and drink. I've come so far and worked so hard at rebuilding my life but I'm at the mercy of my bipolar and it's always there in the shadows with the wine witch by its side.

So I'm going to use the beginning of the changeover as an opportunity to make positive changes, rejoining slimming world swim, gym or walk every day, cleanse tone and moisturise, takes appropriate vitamins, drink 2 ltrs of water per day.

This is my "boost button" to help me rage against the machine and I was thinking that maybe some of you could join me in creating your own "boost button" in fighting the wine witch, fortifying my strengths, optimising my chances and disabling my demons.

It's gonna be a challenge instead of sacrifice, I will use the weight of my fear as positive force and I'm going to be kind to my body and my mind and hope you lovely, courageous people will be kind to yourselves and press that boost button.

Love to all xxx

madein1995 · 23/04/2016 21:20

Today's been a good lesson in why I shouldn't drink so much. I've been irritable and felt a bit rough all day, and the vodka kept repeating on me. I'm drinking tonight but only a few cider and blacks, just to relax a bit, so I shouldn't get pissed and upset like last night. I think part of it was knowing people would worry if they knew I was drinking alone. I'm going to try and view last night as a little blip and watch a bit of bad girls before bed. I've got a few jobs to apply for tomorrow and I'm starting healthy eating too. I don't feel alone now now me and my friend are getting on a lot better. I enjoy the drunk feeling but not the hangover. I think yesterday I got a bit emotional for no real reason.

dementedma · 23/04/2016 21:34

Had a couple of glasses of wine.off to bed now
Achieved everything except being AF.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 23/04/2016 21:48

Same ma I was full of resolve this morning but darn it - the witch got me. However, I have had one of the best days i've had in a long time - went to a birthday party for a friend with my DD who was just brilliant and so much fun. She can be such a handful it was so nice for everything to go smoothly for once!

I drove and had a glass of prosecco. Proof once again that i have my best times when drink is either non-existent or heavily moderated.

I've come home, exhausted, and had another glass of prosecco. Not going to beat myself up, its moderated so i'm ok with that.

ma glad you got lots done today - be pleased with yourself for that. baby the situation with your drugs sounds tough but hopefully they can transition you onto the new ones smoothly and you'll be reaping the health benefits of changing before you know it.

Hope all other babes are ok tonight.

babyjane1 · 23/04/2016 21:53

You did good ma real good!! Xx

Hugs to you 1995, you sound so lovely and so sensitive to the feelings of your friends. Remember that any criticism they may at times heap upon you us because you really matter to them, proper love so keep reminding yourself that your a good person and deserve that friendship because you do, you have a good soul xxx

laladidah · 23/04/2016 22:25

Just been told that my dad hated me and there is no way I will get any of his inheritance as it will all go to my sister...

I am all over this shit. As in, over this shit. Fuck it all.

madein1995 · 23/04/2016 22:46

Aww la, families can be shit sometimes and there's nothing you can do to change that. You can change your reaction though - don't let it upset you or set you back. I'm a fine one to talk, but you will be a lot prouder if you avoid drink during this stress. I managed to stop at one the other night and felt so proud, I've ruined that by drinking half a litre of vodka tonight but that doesn't change the fact that stopping yourself drinking is the best feeling ever!xx

laladidah · 23/04/2016 22:58

T
Seriously, who does that? Both my sister and my boyfriend.... My brother is calling me in a minute, and the puppy is going mental at me, chewing my hoody.

I can't believe I believed him. Seriously. And as for my sister: theret are no words. Getting it in the neck now from my mother. Apparently it's all my fault and I should be more sympathetic to my sister....?

madein1995 · 23/04/2016 23:03

And thanks to all you lovely ladies for wondering about me Smile I am ok (ish), and I'm sorry for going AWOL and worrying you, it's lovely to know some people who I've never met care about me

laladidah · 23/04/2016 23:13

Opps, my phone is screwed. Meant to say that my sister was sleeping with my boyfriend. But apparently that's my fault... Argh. It is all shit

madein1995 · 23/04/2016 23:35

Oh la, I dint know what to say because I'd be screaming, crying and drinking bit I'm weak and I'm sure you're stronger. I'd say channel your anger into telling family straight. And if your bro has a go tell him to fuck off

venusandmars · 23/04/2016 23:54

I've just noticed that we're racing towards a full thread so I've set up a new one.

HERE is the link

venusandmars · 23/04/2016 23:56

lala sorry to hear what is happening. Hope you can get a break from it all.

AND THERE IS A NEW THREAD to go to once this one is full (1000 posts).

YOU CAN FIND THE NEW THREAD HERE

ClaretAndBlue30 · 24/04/2016 08:46

Morning babes, hope everyone is ok this soggy Sunday.

bloody? rarity? Not heard from you in a while, hope you're ok.

Day 1 again for me!! If I can not drink today then that's better than last week so I'll be happy with that. My units for the week stand at about 16 so not too bad at all - I was clocking up 50 a week last year.

dementedma · 24/04/2016 09:00

Big improvement there claret well done. Sunny day here in Scotland. That makes two in a row. Must be summer....
Off to Costco today.....

venusandmars · 24/04/2016 09:43

ma if this is summer, it's still quite chilly! Still I'd settle for this with bright skies.

OK, everyone, I'm filling up this thread, so you can join us on the new one... "Brave Babes Battle Bus is Racing Along..."

You can find it by clicking on this link

venusandmars · 24/04/2016 09:44

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