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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Springing Into Some Warmer Weather, Staying Sober Togeher

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Mouseface · 30/03/2016 00:05

Hi, tis me, Mouse

Welcome to the Bus. We're delighted to have you here :) Not because if you're new to the Babes you are here for help, but because we welcome every kind of drinker. And for all of the reasons life throws at you.

Those that do drink, those that don't drink and of course those who do but don't want to say just how much..............

We've all had our own personal Groundhog Day , some still are and don't want to remain trapped in the same cycle day in, day out, and some still are and want to be which is fine and why we're here.

To talk, to listen, to just be us, like you are YOU. You never know, one day you might just want to wake up on a different day? :) There's no judging here, no 'sides.

After all, something made you click on and read this :)

Come say hi! We even do Brew & Cake if you're super quick!!

And if you want to see what we got up to in the last thread, have a look RIGHT HERE

And this is where our adventure began, almost six years ago now!!

ALMOST SIX YEARS AGO...........

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laladidah · 22/04/2016 17:22

Well done claret! You are amazing, keep up the great work! will, not sure what to say. Hang on in there, and I am positive that you have lots of friends... And if you are feeling down or whatever, then do something that makes you feel happy... Bath? Reading? Good tv programme? Keep me company on here and cheer people on with their amazingness? When is DH back?

Weather here is shit too, raining and miserable, perfect to spend an evening in... I am quite proud that I turned down the usual after work friday drink this afternoon, and didn't buy wine on the way home.

I am feeling a bit lonely too, so trying my hardest not to think about going to the shop, I've got this far to get home without any alcohol. But then the stupid 'it's the weekend, go on go on go on go on go on' type thoughts keep going round my head. I also need cigarettes (yes, I am also a filthy smoker type person - it's almost like I want to put myself in an early grave Sad)

Elba84 · 22/04/2016 17:55

Sorry your feeling low will. When is DH back? Come and chat here if it helps x (and please be carful with the antibiotics...are you still taking them?)

I'm just starting nights, so obviously no drinking tonight (but will do in the morning so it doesn't really count!) but my AF 'night' will be Sunday morning. That will mean two this week. Going for three next week. I'm still a bit hungover from last night Blush and have just done a clear out of cans etc into the recycling bin which always makes me cringe.

Hope everyone has a good weekend. Xxx

laladidah · 22/04/2016 18:13

elba I get the same cringeworthy feeling when I am surrounded by empty bottles. Today was recycling day and normally I sneak them in, but obv was past the point of no return last night, so the error of my ways are staring me in the face Sad

I have the utmost respect for people working nights, I know I couldn't do it. So you should be very proud of that. Must be weird getting home and going to sleep in the morning though, no?

Feeling down in the dumps, going to go for a wander in the pouring rain with the puppy. Proper Victorian heroine I am, except with worse hair and an even worse figure. Feeling a bit sicky, so am going to try and eat something.

Meh. Just meh.

Ps sorry if I am posting too much on this thread. It's just nice to know that there are others going through the same shit. And you lot are so supportive... Thanks Thanks

WillAndDisgrace · 22/04/2016 18:51

Done one bottle, and just bought two more. I don't deserve a place OMG the bus

WillAndDisgrace · 22/04/2016 18:51

On

Fairenuff · 22/04/2016 18:53

Claret I'm really willing you through this evening as I know you'll feel great about it tomorrow. Hope you're doing ok so far. Remember , it's only a few hours and you will have done it! Smile

WillAndDisgrace · 22/04/2016 18:56

Just spoke to my dad for an hour and a half, he's the best. He's also an alcoholic but has been soba for 25 years. He doesn't know about my drinking. Between him and my mother I'm doomed. Just opened the second bottle. I'm trying to get my family to accept my DH after a DV incident:( it's all shit

laladidah · 22/04/2016 19:02

will I am in the same position. My dad was a raging alcoholic (God bless him), best man in the world, lawyer etc. But he ended up dying far too young of liver failure (among other things). He would hate for me to go down the same route, and he was aware of my drinking and tried to stop. Not that it did him any good. Sorry that was quite morbid!

Can I help in anyway? Probably not... Keep posting... Hugs xxx

laladidah · 22/04/2016 19:03

Ps oh god will I didn't see the DV part... Hope you are ok...

WillAndDisgrace · 22/04/2016 19:12

The DV isn't a big issue to me. It was a one off, he was punished and we moved on. That was last year. lala I'm sorry about your dad, it's horrible to see parent go like that, I did it with my mum. Sometimes I feel like it's my way of crying out...I do t know what for. I threw myself out of a window once (drunk) and broke my back in three places, it's a wonder I can walk.

dementedma · 22/04/2016 19:17

Gosh,some tough stories on here. Wish I could scoop you all up and make it better.

ClaretAndBlue30 · 22/04/2016 19:27

Big hugs to you all - lala post away, we are always here and I for one, even if not posting, am reading and encouraging and supporting from the sidelines.

will also a big hug to you, loneliness is a really really hard thing to deal with - I hope you feel a bit better after your phone conversation. Look after yourself, and keep posting if you can.

faire thank you Smile

WillAndDisgrace · 22/04/2016 19:38

Fuck it, I've got my finger ove the red button anyway. May as well press it

laladidah · 22/04/2016 19:51

Oh my god will!!!! I don't know what to say. Except keep talking. You are wonderful and don't let anyone make you feel like your not.
I am on glass one of bottle of two, so o guess I will be here posting tonight...

Going to take the puppy for a walk in the rain. Perhaps will listen to purple rain in honour of prince?! Is that weird?

WillAndDisgrace · 22/04/2016 20:15

Who do I talk to?

ClaretAndBlue30 · 22/04/2016 20:16

will are you ok?

ClaretAndBlue30 · 22/04/2016 20:18

Sorry pressed too soon. We're here for you if you are struggling, just keep posting. I think elba has called the Samaritans in the past - do you think just venting to them would help?

dementedma · 22/04/2016 20:19

will!! Snap out of it! Stick your head under a cold shower and get to bed. Ride it out. Cry. Bite the pillow. Stop drinking!!!
Keep safe. Tomorrow will be a better day.

Bloodybloodyhell · 22/04/2016 20:35

Will - are you Ok? Come and talk to us. You're not the only one drinking (I am) and you're not the only one beating yourself up about it.

Today is today. But tomorrow is always, always a new day. And if can be a new start. Don't despair.

Think of Baby and JWN - and all the Babes who have come before you - and who have done it. You can be one of them too.

Keep posting.

Xx

laladidah · 22/04/2016 20:52

will!!! Talk, dammit woman! I am also drinking. Would be nice to have some company...

On bottle of wine x 2. Going to have a bath now. Hopefully I won't drown...

dementedma · 22/04/2016 21:14

lala straight to bed after bath. Please

laladidah · 22/04/2016 21:23

Yes ma. Sorry salutes I would go to bed but there is a man here talking to my mother about her finances to help her do her tax return. Apparently she needs my help. I think she means don't let the puppy a) eat the paperwork or b) shit all over the paperwork... It is bad news that nearly two bottles of wine down I feel just slightly tipsy. I need some form of takeaway.... Sorry ma. I feel like I have been chastised. And rightly so.

babyjane1 · 22/04/2016 21:24

Hi guys,

I'm so sorry so many of you are struggling. lala and will your posts are sounding more self destructive the more you drink and I'm so worried for you so please be kind to yourselves and stop now, quick shower and get into bed with a big glass of water...

It's tough but ma's right, dig deep and stop hurting yourselves xxx

dementedma · 22/04/2016 21:32

Not chastised lala. Not at all. But tough love. Stop hurting yourself. Your mother can sort herself out tonight. Tell her you feel unwell and are going to bed. Please look after yourself.

laladidah · 22/04/2016 21:35

Ok. Sorry. Going to finish this glass of wine and go to bed.

Sorry again.

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