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FreeMo - Part 3

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AngryMo · 29/03/2016 13:54

New Fred Grin

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mix56 · 31/03/2016 17:11

"kisses and shit at the end". Fwaaaaa hahahaha
For Gods sake, He has NO idea !

LIST OF FOLLOWING EMAILS TO BE EXPECTED:
Incessant emails, Ignore
accusations of boyfriend who's he been shagging on his 4 holidays?
sob story, while he has been slogging his guts out, err, like he was when you lived there too ?
gas lighting already started re budget, tick
promises to change, remorse, offer for counselling yawn, counselling with EA partner non starter
Anger & threats, SHL will take care of it
"You won't get a penny" ditto
You are unhinged, unstable, bad mother, need to see psych. yawn
I will take the children you & who else's army?

FreeMO !!

AngryMo · 31/03/2016 17:26

I am loving all your warnings, thank you for those, because I am sure I will continue to tick them off.

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PhoenixReisling · 31/03/2016 17:34

mix that list is brilliant (another poster also listed a few...sorry l couldn't remember your name) Smile

Mo if it helps print them off and pin them somewhere....then give yourself a treat with each one Grin

AngryMo · 31/03/2016 17:45

The brilliant thing is with all these last minute panic strategies - is every time he comes out with something ludicrous/threatening/untrue - it just reinforces why the hell I need to get out asap. So bring 'em on.

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Joysmum · 31/03/2016 18:03

Exactly!

When was it he said he'd be back for a visit?

AngryMo · 31/03/2016 18:12

I don't want to say exactly, but soon.
But a lot of stuff could change and happen between now and then.

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Akire · 31/03/2016 18:17

Can we come up with some exciting suggestions to do with the pre paid card that he makes you live off???

I would suggest super gluing it to the middle of his windscreen but that's probable actual criminal damage!

Akire · 31/03/2016 18:19

I volunteer to do it while you have clear alibi sonewhere

AngryMo · 31/03/2016 18:34

Akire, never knew you had such a cheeky vandalistic side! But yes please...if only for some light relief!

The solicitor was actually shaking her head when I told her about that card.

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PhoenixReisling · 31/03/2016 18:41

I suggest it be used to scrap poop off a shoe, wipe clean and then post it to him...well it is his property. Grin

clam · 31/03/2016 19:08

he's happy to "explain this concept further to me when he's home"

Shock Was he always such a patronising shit?

AngryMo · 31/03/2016 19:10

The worst bit is Clam, a line or two after that he signed off with "Lots of love"

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Akire · 31/03/2016 19:10

Pay for one of those advertising vans use for elections. Mock up a large card on side. Pay someone to drive around after him /park outside his work for at least a week

AngryMo · 31/03/2016 19:14

I've left him, I have all the shit to come, but just the fact I have left him (contrary to what he might have you believe) FEELS so bloody good
I thought this high of mine might have come down by now but I'm still moonwalking all over my house

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Akire · 31/03/2016 19:15

Oh and not be suprised on bingo square if he tries to pay you maintence on the pre paid card. Because he's still "paid you" just in a controlling annoying way

AngryMo · 31/03/2016 19:15

Oh fuck, I hadn't thought of that!!!! He would try it too!

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clam · 31/03/2016 19:32

Oh, bless him, he honestly thinks that, when you say you're separated, you're confusing the geographical separation with the relationship separation. He wants to mansplain to poor, thick little you, that you're mistaken; just because you live so far away from him, shouldn't mean you think that means you're separated in your relationship.

Jesus, how did you put up with him for so long?

AngryMo · 31/03/2016 19:37

I can't explain that, Clam, I really can't. I'm just obviously too forgiving. And he would charm his way out of his nastiness. Scarily conniving really. He was forever telling me how intelligent I am too (I'm not that intelligent, but did better academically than him - maybe chip on the shoulder about that, I don't know) yet treating me like an idiot.

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PhoenixReisling · 31/03/2016 20:01

If he tries the maintenance on a pre-paid card, I would go straight to your SHL.....and then onto the police as financial abuse is actually a crime.

Tosser.

it doesn't surprise me that you did better than him academically and most probably in your chosen career before all this.

kittybiscuits · 31/03/2016 20:09

You don't need a lawyer re the pre paid cuntcard. If he doesn't pay maintenance to you into your bank account CMS will chase him for it and they do not do pre paid cuntcard as a payment method. Hopefully you are managing to step back. There doesn't seem to be much more to say. You will fly without him.

I love Akire's idea....

CrikeyPeg · 31/03/2016 20:12

So proud of you Mo Any chance he can bring his trip home forward and just turn up on the doorstep?

AngryMo · 31/03/2016 20:13

Oh god, I really do have a horrible feeling he will do just that now. But it's OK, I'll be on the phone in the morning to the right people.

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PhoenixReisling · 31/03/2016 20:14

Good for you Mo Wink

AngryMo · 31/03/2016 20:15

Cuntcard Grin

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PhoenixReisling · 31/03/2016 20:17

kitty that's inspired....as is Akire's advertising van...Grin

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