Hello everyone.
The days are exhausting with him around, as a result I am literally out all day, flitting from one place to the other until I can't avoid it any longer because any second I am at home is an opportunity for him to have a go at me and I just can't take it any longer.
So I've got the police telling me this is a non-crime, and I've got the NCDV telling me it's a "grey area". Thanks for that doc Melty, think I've read it before, but WHY is no one referring to it when it's there in back and white 1. The offence carries a maximum sentence of 5 years’ imprisonment, a fine or both. 

Types of behaviour: financial abuse including control of finances, such as only allowing a 
person a punitive allowance; 

I am frustrated and exasperated. I feel like every road I go down is a dead end.
I spoke to the NCDV following my referral, and they can't do a thing until he's physically back in the country permanently. What they can do though when he is back, is take out an emergency injunction, they say within 48 hours of my application, in the form of an occupation order or non-molestation order, which can last between 6-12 months.
I need to speak to them again about what I can do in the next few months, and see if they can properly assess my case before then. When they rang I wasn't in the best place to take the call so I can call back with a list of questions and make an action plan of sorts.