FreeMo - Part 3

[AngryMo]

New Fred

Ex.haust.ed
But just checking in before I go to bed.
Blimey. What a day.
Thank you thank you everyone for your reactions, messages and support. You are all fantastic for keeping me going

Dolly, I don't think there's any collusion, nothing as sinister with that. And even if there were, it's meaningless to me.

Thanks for the tip about distancing behaviour Orlanda.

Haven't got the Easter or uniform money out of him though - he still wants to see receipts. Whatever. I don't have them so bite me.

Congratulations on KOKO, Mo.

Another voice joining the chorus of appreciation for what you are doing for you children. That was no way for them to grow up. Hope you get some sleep and wake refreshed today. Thinking of you and your children, I imagine what you are going through is akin to a bereavement, as you come to terms with the loss of something you thought you had.

All the very best [i picked all my favourite things, would love to give them in RL]

Re; the money for the uniform. can you send him the web site, or telephone for the shop where you need to purchase, & tell him to confirm for himself if he is afraid this is embezzlement of his precious money., (like for the DS's club). To this end if the money isn't paid by the end of the day you are making an aptmt. with the Head & that you will be explaining you are being financially controlled & you will be informing them of your separation.
& tell him, that DS will have to keep wearing winter uniform, and you will not have them being ridiculed friends & staff alike due to his avarice
& his mother paying is a joke.

You don't get a receipt for unpurchased items.

I'm sure that yesterday was fruitful, even though emotionally depleting. it's good that you are telling your friends. They will support you & make it real. not some scenario in your mind.

You do know that finding things hard, having down days and not feeling very stable is perfectly normal and doesn't mean you aren't strong?

I say this because I get the feeling that you think that the fact that we all admire and respect you isn't warranted and that you don't think you're doing that well in yourself to deserve it.

It will take a lot of time to get to the stage where you feel inconctr again and not overwhelmed by him. He's conditioned you for so long to be the little woman at home who he can Lord and have full control over that it's going to take time for you to find your own inner strength and who you are again, rather than just being his accessory.

You are strong, you will have wobbles, but you will win this and be master of your own destiny again

So please, make sure you use this thread without worry if you doubt yourself. We are all here for you, especially when you most need support.

Thanks for those words Joy. I know I will come out the other side, just as I'm having an "up" day today following my shaky one yesterday.

I've now completely cleared "our" bedroom of my stuff which was incredibly therapeutic.

I'm nearly ready.

Are you letting him have the "Lord & Master" bedroom?

Yes. He can have it.

BUT: he's just asked me if I want to pick him up from the airport

Have some fun with this people, please.

This one warrants a response. A really fucking great one.

TBH I wouldn't respond to that one at all. Just ignore it like he has ignored you requests for help.

Alternatively tell him it will cost x in petrol and your time?

Regarding the master bedroom - at least you won't have to clean the en-suite! I would leave an unflushed turd if possible as a welcome gift for him...

Christ. The man's a miserable, despicable git. But he's also an IDIOT.

He really does think that everything's going to be just fine and dandy as soon as he gets to talk to you out of those silly ideas of yours, doesn't he?

This is your chance to start your approach of straight and clear communication with no edge or hidden meanings:

No. I do not want to pick you up from the airport. You need to make your own arrangements.

What about sending this

Mwahhhaaaaaaa

Then followed by this

oh you are funny. Is this a joke? In case it is not to anwser your request in one word. No!

Then I would ignore anything else he sends to you

not helpful but I couldn't help it

he's hilarious

You could itemise costs including hourly rate and profit margin... and then send a follow up text saying this is how the taxi company justify their prices. Hope this helps you in your decision whether to pay their rates to get a taxi or to walk!

May I ask....does he have a car to use when he is here?

Only asking, because if he dies not then he may expect to either use your car or ask that you ferry him around.

I would think of a plan in case he doesn't.

Ok, he gave me a time limit so I've replied.

5 WORD PHRASE MODE:
"Airport pick-up doesn't work for me".
if he asks why, just say "I am not available".
if he asks why. you say. "it is not what I want".

altho tempting to say, "no money for petrol Tosser".

What did you say?

yes what did you say ?

You pretending you don't understand what is happening will not make it go away.

No, I do not want to pick you up.

And then a paragraph about what to expect when he arrives home: sleeping arrangements etc.

Well done for setting out terms so clearly!

Is today the day he's back?

Yes! Well done Mo!

How dare he give you a deadline for a reply? It's not even urgent, is it?

I would have given him a cost based on a quote from a taxi company. (Well, actually I wouldn't have replied at all).

Trib, a deadline in the sense that if I didn't reply he'd make alternative arrangements so I got in there quickly to make sure there were no excuses for not seeing my message. He was expecting a reply and got one.