FreeMo - Part 3

[AngryMo]

New Fred

Agree that letting him know people know about it is vitally important (also to reinforce the fact this is not a little game I'm playing to simply get more money out of him, which is what he probably thinks).
Still silence, btw.
Hadn't thought of "random" drop in visits from various friends. Yes definitely doable.
Kitty, what photos do you mean? General ones? I have control over anything techy like that, he's not involved and that's my domain.
Akire, I had thought the same thing about just sitting in the car, now and then, just to get out. Even if I do have the option of having a safe room to myself. I don't want him to think I am sitting there with nothing better to do. I just don't want to give him too many opportunities. My friends will probably be seeing a lot of me during that time and will be sick of the sight of me!

Good point dolly , i was only thinking of once you are in the room.

Hi Mo - yes baby photos/family photos that he could take or destroy. But it sounds like you have that covered. Just KOKO x

You may just be sitting in your car Mo but he dosnt know that. You have things to do, people to see, coffee to drink etc etc you could be meeting your friends , lawyer, viewing a place to live. No harm getting him to wonder.

I bet he'll start talking about how you must have more than enough money to live on if you can afford all this socialising. Because he's like that.

Oh yes, sorka, good point. Of course, it could be socialising by going for a walk or meeting up in other people's houses, that would explain why the friends turn up at Mo's place out of the blue, so she can return the favour.

Not that this would change his mind, but good for Mo to have thought it all through and is prepared for what comes.

IME it's utterly soul destroying sitting a car hiding passing time. Time stands still. So please use the time to go to see friends, go for a swim, a proper walk across a park, cycle ride. go to the library, or as you have no money, see if you can find a college where they have hair dressing etc, & get a free cut/nails/skin treatment. try & use this time without the DCs to do something uplifting. or even just go & visit job centre look at jobs/training/ options .... Anything is better than sitting in the car waiting, analysing, double guessing.

Keep a good book in the car and, if you can, a fiver, so you can drive somewhere with a restful view, park up, buy yourself a cuppa, and take half an hour or so.

A whole fiver, Boaty! The DCs would have to go hungry for a week for Mo to save up that amount!!

No further advice from me, Mo, you're doing great without it. Though I agree "That's not what I want" covers all angles and is less inflammatory, I prefer Mix56's "the role model you provide is noxious". Oh how I would love to be a fly on the wall if ever Mo got to use that particular gem!

I know the car is boring but meant that or being in house 24/7 and atmosphere.

I know, cheapskatemum

Car isn't boring if you can find somewhere with a view and the radio and a book and a flask of tea. It becomes my refuge. View desirable not mandatory. Rug if necessary.

Orlanda I hope that's not something you do too regularly

Orlanda drive a little further and come to mine next time - great views here! Text first in case I've taken the car on a little outing of my own

YY to car and view being a refuge of peace.

Although I also used to find it conducive to having a think, and writing lists in my trusty notebook.

Thinking of you Mo and sending you strong supportive vibes to get through this. You can do it x

Morning hope your doing ok Mo we do get restless if we don't hear from you after day or so!

Thank you lovely people...we're fine. However there has been a tragedy on his side of the family. It's all a big sad and tragic mess. I'll be back when I get the chance.

Honestly my life feels like someone else's right now. Thanks for looking out for me

Oh that's awful. My sympathies.

Oh I am sorry to hear this for you.

Sorry to hear Mo hope it's not to draining for you what with everything else

So sorry Mo. I hope his sorrow doesn't hook you though...
I am sorry to be cold in view of the event, but it is his family & you will soon be an unwanted part of it.
Please protect yourself by not becoming too involved, nor allow P's eventual grief to lead you to want to comfort him.
Will he be returning sooner because of this ? noted that the tragedy of your family floundering didn't make him come home when both he & the kids were on holiday

mix exactly that. he may try and use this....how could you leave me at a time like this you horrible/heartless women.

Keep strong mo

Sorry to hear that too, Mo, of course.

However, is it possible it really didn't happen? That he's lying to you?

Even if not, as other have said, don't let it be your tragedy. This git had many MANY chances to officially make you family, and failed to do so, because he was being all Mr CleverBugger holding marriage over your head. I've no sympathy for him at all.

Take care of yourself.