What would you put in DATING THREAD 101....

[tanyadm]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

Oh Lacoba I LOVE this message.

You are one awesome lady. You have channelled your own flavour of MH to a tee - I salute you!

You laid your cards on the table in a wonderful way. Now just wait.

What would you like him to say, in an ideal world?

Fab, measured message, Lacoba, good for you.

Last, I would have been livid too, glad you gave him a good tongue lashing.

I really did tanya I feel a little embarrassed now but thank you. I think I took the "no moose burgers" a little too far acting like I was the best thing he nearly had lol

Well done lacoba I'm glad you feel happy with the message, I hope he responds in a way that makes you feel better

I too didn't fancy Mrbeard foxtrot but it was when we met n his inner confidence and sexy Manchester accent just did it for me!

Cheers gals 😉. I'd never thought of it as a MH type of msg... It was an angst filled day, that resulted in a 'fuck it' moment 😄.

I don't expect a reply, as he's not a 'messenger' but that's fine by me.

Handy I'm loving following you & Twix, but he may well be a non 'sexting' type of guy (maybe respects you more- old fashioned guy?)

Aw, thanks Lacoba yes I'm wondering if he's really quite 'traditional'.

His background suggests that could be the case. But I don't know him well enough to gauge it all.

Just gotta wait and see.....

Date with Bacon in the bag! Saturday after next...blimey that's far away!

Thanks sparkles I'll see if there's any attraction when we meet - I do need to feel that spark!

I've not been ghosted by MrGify! He's sent me messages and we are arranging a date for Wed. I'm going to change his name to MrCrumpet. I'm quite excited now .

lacoba good message! And Handy I agree that Twix probably just isn't a sexy texter. He's consistently kept in contact which is very good.

Brilliant Freaky! It'll come quick!

Freaky that's a Woo, hoo for bacon Make sure he checks in *

Handy I'm not a 'sexter ' but for me it's the regular stuff that does it for me - shows thought I guess.

Handy your guy sounds like MrBeard he chats to me regularly and constantly but I sometimes want to ramp things up a bit but then I'm afraid he might think I'm too racy for him. we've only had 2 dates tho n not even close to having sex. Feel like he gone a bit quiet today and I'm not seeing him til next week as he has his kids for a week now

Re the first message ...I do send them if i really like them but it gives me more of a kick if they've messaged me first n they cute. I'm a bit insecure tho. 😀

Messaging 3 nights in a row => ask me what nights I'm free this week please.

Good message lacoba

Brilliant Freaky

Just back from 3rd date with Captain Pugwash. He's lovely. This seems just too good to be true or is it me? Gah.
4th date is up to me but I'm going round to his house for coffee, not moose burgers. Or any other kind of burgers.

Evening everyone!

Trying to catch up after a couple days of not being able to post on here..

Thanks for the new home Tanya!

Well done Lacoba, your message is great, assertive without being aggressive, I think MH would be proud.

Also nicely played last, I agree with the others, how would he be working all evening and being able to be OLD at the same time? I smell a rat too. One frog down..

Handy rare you saying you are worried you might be stepping in the friend zone with Twix?

Sassy yep I am starting to think a lot more like these irons do not "owe" me anything and vice versa and it does make life a whole lot easier. Incidentally it seems to make me more attractive in their eyes too.

How is the MTG withdrawal syndrome Waving?

Well done Freaky with Bacon! Did he get back to you on the date?

sorry we should put a glossary somewhere. Welcome to the dating sect!

After ignoring the lot of them over the past days, my irons seem to have all turned into moose hunters . I am seeing MrOrganizedYogi on Saturday (gallery opening and dinner - fancy pants) and KarmicIron on Sunday. Still need to schedule TinyGrey for next week. Maple is texting and being is funny self - date#2 may still be on the cards. And I have a new iron who is a bit of a smart Alec but damm hot.

Gallery opening and dinner - get you! wooooooooooooooooOOOOOOOOOOoooooooo

freaky'hooray! Seems ages away but can't wait to see how this one pans out! Well played you!

anna sounds like it's going brilliantly! Enjoy it, and remember YOU are the prize!

jolly now that's the way to do it! How exciting your weekend sounds!

JollyX I love the way you are working those irons!

I don't think I am in the friend zone. Not yet. I've done nothing to put myself there either. I'm just impatient and need a bit of passion in the proceedings - like if we have to go 10days without seeing each other it would be nice to pay the odd compliment by text in between. I fancy the pants off him to I feel like I'm holding back. A LOT...

Freaky brill news re date result!

Anna ....... re Pugwash - eek! hurray!!!!!!

Anyone seen 314 (hee hee!)??

One thing that I like about online dating (so far) is that I can be quite upfront about what I don't want. I find it much harder to do that in person with people I've met through other means, and always want to give people the benefit of the doubt. So this way, I can get some of the dealbreakers out of the way right up front. Whether it works or not remains to be seen...

Waving which app is it? I may be able to help..!

Trills yup, and yet I thought the next date would be McDonalds and bed, haha. Nicely upping his game.

Handy I mentioned the friend zone because I thought that was what I was heading to with Maple and it made me freak out. Glad it is not your case!

Yay Freaky on the Bacon date!! (Sorry xposted with you!)

I was posting as Reville on the last thread but the name looked like revile so thought I would name change and get into the positive spirit of the thread.

Has anyone here ever used Badoo or any opinions on it? There seems to be quite a few men on there that are reasonably close to me but I'm not sure if it's known as a hook-up site? Not heard much about it at all.

I'm so impressed with the iron rousing that has been going on on this thread. You are all giving me hope.

I hope 314 had a fab time with Bear and that she has been erm... too busy to update

Woke up early with a bit of a hangover from defiant and annoyed wine drinking
and went on POF to check the numerous messaged partyboy had left me at various stages last night. First one. " last. Stop this.I explained already"(Oh that's ok then!!). second message " I can see why you'd be annoyed, possibly having been let down before, but I'm really not like that" (well clearly you are though, but obviously not good at taking responsibility and like to think you're a proper catch!) third message "ok well it seems I didn't really mean that much to you then if you are already arranging another date! (Errm honey I was already arranging other dates while we were chatting never mind after we fell out because YOU blew me out!) I mean is this guy for real, what's with the "I didn't mean that much to you" crap? We whatsapp chatted for 3 days and never met? He comes across as someone very used to getting his own way and women who accept and roll over to his bollocks, and seemed rather shocked at my giving him a dressing down and refusing his offer to reschedule! I had a lucky escape... didn't I? pushes thoughts of caving in firmly to back of mind

Don't cave Last it sounds like him baling was a lucky escape for you. Lots of red flags with the messages he is sending. What an entitled prick. Can you block? Do you have any more irons to distract yourself with?