What would you put in DATING THREAD 101....

[tanyadm]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

sassy and jollyx I hope your dates go well.

Foxtrot ghosting is crappy, have you got other irons?

Hello Tinkerbell

Paranoia is normal Harriet but you are the prize.

Waving just

Freaky I agree with Batshit it may be a good thing.

Which site are you on for profile revamp tips Brightmoon?

It's just a case of meeting as many as possible until one clicks Princess that's what I think anyway.

Doofus I never have sex on the first date or the second, third or fourth but that's just me. I like to know what a man is about before I sleep with him. And no, my Mum didn't tell me that! Do what's right for you.

314 I love the jacket.

314 and ocelot and me yes, it will happen. I think the MH advice about just putting yourself out there is good.

Harriet can you ask him to message you more? He may be a slow texter but again, you are the prize and if you need more communication say so. I'm busy but you can be sure that if I wanted to message someone I'd find the time.

He'll be dazzled by your brilliance on Saturday Freaky

Anna He never ignores me, he just takes a while. I don't think it is often ignorance, for example he doesn't read my whatsapps and then just ignore them. He is never online without reading them etc. I just need to stop looking too much into it! I haven't let him seen my mental, paranoid side though haha! I may casually mention another meet up and I am sure his repsonse will tell me all I need to know :)

Good luck to everyone else!

foxtrot that is shit about the ghosting! I thought crumpet was a better person.

anna what's happening with Russian woodcutter?

freaky I'm always deleting tinder in a fit of utter bewilderment at some of the dross people come out with in their. And the annoying notification sound!

harriet I just tell people if something they are doing is bugging me (ie lack of texts) I can't be arsed with fannying around. If it stops them seeing me, onwards and upwards.

My single dad (who I've been casually hooking up with for a couple of months on a sporadic basis) has texted today and asked to get together but it's clashed with math so I've had to say no. I feel like I've egg basketed Math because I like him so much. Annoyed with myself. Ho Hum.

I've got some irons.
Captain Jack Sparrow - he's still away with his son but we'll have a date next week.
Charidee - has been on touch a lot after our date on Saturday but we'll never be more than friends.
Village People - seems promising, lots of chatter would like a date also early next week but no firm plan as yet.
Starman - again, lots of chatter but as with Village People if he doesn't suggest a date soon I'll delete. I don't need a pen pal.
Citroen - suggested a date on Thursday which I can't do, hasn't come back with another but he's starting a business so I'm not sure he would have the time to date properly.
Not Banksy - a new one but intelligent and I love intelligence.

Was going to have a date with the snowman tonight but I blocked and deleted because we only matched on Tinder last night and he suggested a date for today almost immediately. I think that signifies he just wants a hook up and I don't. I prefer a bit more conversation before a date, just enough so I can get a better idea of who I'm meeting.

shame it wasn't me with the Russian woodcutter.

I was Captain Pugwash but as per my previous post he sleeps with the fishes
I could write a long explanation about it all but I'll save us all the bother.

Who was the russian walk in the wood guy then? Too many names! Captain Pugwash sounds interesting?! Give us a synopsis

Chatting with 6 irons deserves a pat on the back too!

AnnaChronism - it's pof I'm looking to go back on. Had no luck with any others in my area as live in the sticks!

Harriet - I get so paranoid when waiting for texts, sometimes the wait is worth it though when they respond off their own back.

Out of interest at what point would you ladies consider coming off dating websites if you find someone you really like? I'm so new to this and my ex h cheated on me which makes me paranoid if I see someone I've dated a couple of times online still.

Brightmoon I wouldn't come off dating sites until you've had a conversation about it and agreed.
I live in the sticks too and POF is the site with the most men on it locally.

I'm chatting with 9 irons, I just omitted the others shame until I am decided about the other 3.
You've got to keep your hand in, haven't you?

Think I would ditch a guy if I was sleeping with him and saw he was still online.

Not sure I would want to come offline though so it's double standards!

9 iron Anna oh my god, that made me laugh out loud (You do know I am going to call you 9 iron from now on haha!)

moon hmm. It is a hard one but I think you have to have the conversation tbh. I'm sleeping with math and arranging to see him pretty regularly but I haven't deleted my Tinder account (I can't, I love it so) because if he is happily swiping then I bloody am. I'm not talking to anyone on there on a regular basis though. Deleted the rest because they were a bag of shite.

laugh I am the same (double standards) . I would have to have a deleting ceremony where we both do it at the same time. Tinder should have a date rating thing too, where you give them a star rating out of 3. For future daters reference (I have thought too much about this ha!)

Hello everyone!

That's the spirit Bright, Princess and Anna! well done on the irons too!

Freaky I don't know, I think I'd file it under "things I find odd about you" and see where that leads. Don't go there with the "going to wow you" mindset, that's for him to do - your awesomeness is going to speak for itself anyways!

314 sorry about love bombing you haha (bourbon, again ). But I still stand by what I said, you are awesome.

Fox if Crumpet is a slow texter, I wouldn't say he is ghosting unless something like a week passes by. But you are right to move on!

Bat yikes, another frog bites the dust. You deserve someone who is 100% sure he wants to be with you!

Doofus my DM is adamant I will end up the spinster of the parish and fail to deliver grandkids for her to play with if I don't turn into a doormat. Let's just say I am ignoring the shitty advice, it is not 1950 anymore..

KarmicIron so far has been the perfect moose hunter. I am slightly turned off though by his fretting over everything including picking a bar but we shall see. So lovely to be chased down for once!

Following my text, MrOrganizedYogi has acknowledged that he has fucked up and agreed that he is currently not in a place where he can both find a job and date me at the same time. Said he will definitely come back when he is ready and convince me to give him a second chance. I think he is not that ok with me slipping through his fingers - I MH'd the crap out of that one haha.

Right, off to get First Date Dress from the dry cleaner (I need to land a decent man quickly as the poor thing is wearing off )!

Sorry, *jollyx, should have said "I will wow him" obvs, because I don't need to try...it'll just happen! Have fun on your date tonight!

Shame I've name changed just for you.

Anna

Thanks for the love-bombing Jolly I will lap it up! Mr Canceller has not only cancelled me on Saturday but he said that I hadn't replied to his most recent email. I was looking at the thread of emails and could clearly see my reply to him was the most recent communication. I think he is so severely unavailable that he can't stick to a date, he has to spread them out weeks apart to avoid any kind of intimacy building. I do believe he liked me. But he is so sensitive to any perceived rejection that he thinks ''right, that's it!'' and throws in the towel. I rescued it to first few times. Now I give up. So that iron has gone cold!

And I've a babysitter booked for Saturday! I'd love to get a date for Saturday. I will try my best.

Freaky to be really cynical I'd say that it means he fully intends to go on this date with you but that now he needs for you NOT to know if he's online etc... (???) Or am I misunderstanding how Tinder works.

Biker may have to go the messages are so dreary and are always ended with a todays offerening was how he had spent the day jet washing some stuff at work. I just feel lifes to short to be talking like this or am i being horrid?

No muddling you aren't being horrid, I've got an iron like that and I'm getting bored too. He may have to go.

Muddling the conversation doesn't exactly sound riverting but some guys are useless at texting and he might be different in real life. Have you met him yet?

Before I go, Sassy you can tell MrFrench he is not quite right, there is a French word for "a date" it's "rencard". Granted it is slang and a tad 1960-Grease-bad-boy, but still

Anna now 9irons I love that!!!!!!!!!!

A name change is needed for having NINE irons in the fire!!!

So much to catch up on today!
jollyx at least mr organised yogi did reply, if it's meant to be at another time I guess it will. Better luck with KarmicIron, good luck tonight on the date!
foxtrot I had such high hopes for Crumpet! Don't rule it out just yet, how long has it been since you've heard from him? Who sent the last text? Fingers crossed there is a genuine reason and date 3 will appear soon
anna do give us a rundown of what happened to pug wash! Loving the name change btw so many irons!! Whoop whoop
tinkerbell welcome to the thread! It's awesome
freaky have you heard from bacon yet to see why he's deleted or unmatched tinder?

I have 2 irons, one is an old POF messager slowburner who has suddenly started messaging more frequently and asking about seeing him at the weekend. This is the third time though and I can guarantee he'll fade off of something else pops up. I'm on his B list, possibly even C being simmered but that's ok, he's on mine too and I'm fine with that! If he wasn't local, had a child similarly ages and looked hot from his pics I'd have ignored of blocked by now. He's doing all the running so in asssuming whoever else he was chatting to/dating didn't work out. That's ok, it's allowed!
Second hopefully more promising iron doesn't have a name yet, I did some frantic tinder swiping before bed and woke up to several new matches. He was one of them and actually messaged me first! We exchanged quite a few nice ones this morning, he suggested meeting up but I've been out all day so hoping he gets back in touch. He's very nice so far but who knows...

Anna is now 9irons . Wow. reespek.

lol, Jolly, MrFrench2 will love that, men love being corrected!

I'm so impressed by the positivity on this thread. Twix sounds absolutely lovely, and it sounds as if things are going great with Waving and MTG.

I haven't posted for a while as I've been iron-less. I tried POF again recently and got only 4 messages in a whole week! One was from someone who'd contacted me before but obviously forgotten, and one stated in his profile that he didn't want to meet a vegetarian (I'm veggie!). One was actually quite attractive but his profile was one of those 'Just ask me whatever you want to know' ones and his entire message was "Hello". Then the fourth one was someone I knew I could never fancy in a million years. It was all a bit demoralising, and I'm starting to wonder if there's something off-putting in my profile. I seem to get quite a lot of views but almost no messages. Does anyone else get this?

But today I've got a message from someone who actually looks/sounds quite decent. Hooray, I may finally have an iron!