Welcome to the House of Fun (and positivity!) - It's dating thread 100

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

This thread moves fast, as I said I have been lurking but I'm going to reread it in an attempt to get remember where everyone is at.

I haven't read WMLB but I'll get it on my Kindle now.

A date has been arranged between me and a man I'll call The Flash.
He's quite cheeky but that's ok but today he sent me a photo of his naked arse.
If it had been a cock shot I would have blocked and deleted immediately but I wasn't really sure whether the arse merited a blocking or just a warning.

OTOH it is a nice arse

waving that's amazing. Your gut reaction to Soho's post I mean.

ps, nothing's changed wrt Bear! We aren't gf & bf, but tbh after all the stress of figuring out H, and now wondering if Mrcanceller is even right for me, it will be a break from the whole dating tightrope. He's a really interesting, warm person, and very honest, and calm. And I'm attracted to him, but in a whole person way mostly. There's no confusion to anything. No analysing. I know he could never be 100% in on a relationship and I definitely don't want that. To be bullying somebody in to a relationship!!! The universe will send me somebody who wants me, in a more conventional relationshippy way. While the dc are away I must also listen to a few more Law of Attraction clips. Damn I am trying to fit so much in to one short week, argh!

waving I'm glad you've got to speak to him! I have high hopes for him having read the thread, sounds like you've found a good'un!

I think it's probably more my issue. My first boyfriend (the one I mentioned who did a disappearing act) called me a range of pet names for 6 months before he admitted he had no idea what my name was as he's got drunk the night he met me, put me in his phone as 'flower' and couldn't remember in the morning. He was a charmer. I deal fine with women saying babe or similar, a lot of the women I'm friends with do and I don't even notice it. I'm also a complete hypocrite because I call everyone at work pumpkin (which I realise is a little ). I think if I'd been with someone a while I probably wouldn't mind it. And I don't mind it in a jokey way at all. But with someone I barely know who's saying it seriously, it just makes my skin crawl! I know it's not entirely reasonable!!

Hahaha anna that made me laugh! I can't really offer any helpful advice - I'm with you in that a cock shot would have been an instant block but the arse reveal is a new one on me Have you met in RL before??

cakes your name makes me laugh.
No, I haven't met The Flash yet, I haven't had the pleasure. We have just spoken on the phone, he was very apologetic and quite sweet.
The more I look at the arse shot, the more conflicted I seem

I'm ok with 'pet' names, I don't mind that because I think it's what other people are used to. if their previous relationships were littered with 'babe' and 'hun' then that's just a term of endearment. But I don't like poor grammar.
Different strokes

Yeah I'm with you on the poor grammar Anna

As for being called babe, I like it if I like them but if I don't then I find it quite annoying...maybe that's your answer cakes?

314 M also experienced longterm rejection in his marriage & I have often thought I was almost being blamed for what other women had done to him or at !east be couldn't allow him self to trust me because of what bad happened to him before...

Thx for the support re the idea of ringing him :) and for the words from Nanny & MH insights from Waving...we used to talk by phone a lot & its the only way I can guave his reaction.

Sorry Sassy too late & too tipsy to recount the story (its written across previous threads) now... Just that I am convinced he's the love of my life - in our 50s - but he panicked about being in a relationship though had stated he was an IWAR not an IDWAR... Finished with me completely out of the blue 4 months ago sincewhich he has been totally silent :(

Will co tinue in morning.

That's not woo at all!
I want to do it too. I'm going to do that reverse list thing.

Genuine question Waving how can he be in love with you after what, a few short weeks. I think he's in love with the idea of being in love I don't believe you can love someone in that short time. Glad, you answered him honestly.

Sorry, I don't mean to piss all over how great you feel its not my intention at all.

You know, I may not love the dating guru you're all quoting, I do think on the whole in life if you're put out great vibes you tend to attract same in your life, if you think the universe sent MTG I can buy that:)

I guess, I don't know you can be in love that quickly.......

Sorry, I posted that before Id seen your reply.

Yea, I recall her I think they'd being dating a while before that happened,in your case you've seen him like 4 times.

Ahh, what do I know. Maybe I've being reading into the negatives on these threads I thought Huge early declarations could be red flaggy,

If you both feel similar, maybe its the rare connection and its all good work out I hope it does. Id love a waving & MTG wedding!

waving what's LOA ? I can't remember. I need some reverse listing in my life.

When i read your name I have this vision of someone in a pool and screaming ...you know I'm waving I am not drowning

I know I am losing the plot.

314 love that song

Its a great name:)