Welcome to the House of Fun (and positivity!) - It's dating thread 100

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

Yes, I think I might send the "have a good trip" text.

Am cultivating another iron at the moment,too, which sshould stop me angsting ....

I sent the text. I'm on a packed commuter train, not the best place to call from!

Waving MTG sounds lovely, I love that you're feeling irrationally exuberant!

Steady he's only blocked you because he knows he's been a twat. He's probably scared you'll have a go at him.

Good morning all! The sun is shining, and my positivity has returned. I'll text Bacon later. Think I'll try and engineer a chat, into which I'll drop a "any plans for the weekend?" type thing and if that doesn't work, just flat out ask him! I don't think I can send something like Sassy suggested as it keeps coming out as needy..."I'll understand if you don't want to see me...."
Anyway, things feel like they are fading off and I'd like to know whether that's because he has other things going on or is just not interested. If it's the latter, then that's fine but I'd like to know sooner rather than later.

Batshit I think that's fine re MrM. Sounds like you've just had a bit of breakdown in communication and a breezy "have a good trip" leaves the door open and you can just focus on other irons while he's away.

Waving I totally get why you are going to miss MTG. You've had some pretty intense communication over the past couple of weeks. I think he's going to miss you too...

Jolly Do you think Maple is just stringing you along? Minium level of contact to keep you interested without actually committing? I am not sure why people do that...piss or get off the pot man!

Yes, Waving, when MTG goes off grid that'll be hard. Hard for him too!

if soho had gone off grid maybe it'd ahve been a relief because you wouldn't have been waiting for contact?

sorry batshit, seemed a bit of a red flag to me but perhaps i'm too vigilant for red flags.

Jolly hate to say it but I think Maple is simmering you.
MH says to text back something like 'yawn'
or 'you reeeeeallly like texting'.

But I'm not sure you two have texted enough to send that.

Yes. Maple is simmering Jolly. I think 314 has hit on a new term for the thread.

Yes Steady I think WTF is not single.

'Have a good trip' text sounds good to me from Batshit

I think we need a glossary to add to the rules....

Morning all. Nothing to add here. Managing to keep myself in check re Twix. No date arranged but he was travelling and out v late last night (he texted me at midnight) so that's unsurprising.

Am keen to know if/when we'll see each other. But also know that going with the flow is still the mantra. He's been in touch this morning. I'm out tonight and tomorrow night, with my busy amazing life......

Who's dating this week?

Yeah simmering as in - kept on gas mark 0.5 or back burner or whatever.

Simmering haha... Yup I believe that is spot on (and needs to be added to the glossary). Why can't we ever see the obvious?! Thank you thread once again for the eye opener. I am tempted to confront Maple but I think I am done investing in something that is not going to happen. Not engaging seems like the better option unless I step in a dark hole and cave in. WWYD?

You know I had a hard look at what I have been doing with TinyGrey... Turns out I am guilty as charged of simmering him too. I mean I enjoy the attention but he also freaks me out a bit and I do not really consider him dating material...

...there I have it I guess. Karma is a bitch!

Don't confront Maple, it won't change a thing. Simply simmer him back!!!!

I think it's enough just to know you're being simmered.

Some irons are smouldering hot. Some are not. That's just how it goes (cf. TinyGrey) - all's fair in OLD. Just gotta have those eyes open.

Oh I'm so philosophical today.....

Can I join this wise n wonderful thread that's made such good reading!

I'm going on date 2 tomorrow with MrBeard...we connected on the first date although as we left each other he just kissed my cheek so I was left wondering but then he reassured me he was eager to meet again... Guess I'm not used to gentlemen

He been online a lot too, does that annoy only me? I have but it's mainly to see if he there n is most of the time even though he at work. He still texts me lots tho so think I'm just being angsty...

Hi all I had a guy message for a while yesterday then all of a sudden decided because I'm talking to other men I'm wasting his time then blocks me. Inblocked me this morning apologising then says was I using him as a back up. So I blocked him the fuckwit

*unblocked

Waving I cannot find the MH's operating manual for going nuclear on Maple.. Where is it?

I think I am going to go with Handy's suggestion of giving him a taste of his own medicine though.

That and mend my karma by scheduling that date with TinyGrey. I owe him as much. -- Will be fine as long as we steer clear of the bedroom--

Have you dtd with TinyGrey Jolly? I've lost track there....

Jolly have you replied yet? Would you ever get a bus home? How about replying breezily to his text at about midnight, ''hi, just on the bus on my way home now meant to reply earlier, yeh good thanks etc.

In other words, I'm out and about going OUT. Other men ask me OUT

Is that MH compliant. ISO MH9000

waving Hahahaha!!!!

Haha no Handy I have not even MET TinyGrey yet. Have been simmering him since November.. His suspected Christian Grey tendencies freak me out too much

Definitely ISO MH9000 314!! (You need to write that glossary haha) You are right, when I do text I need to send something along those lines. Maybe ask him an even more innocuous question too.

ISO MH9000 has made me laugh like a drain! So much so I didn't realise it was another term coined by 314

314 you are our go-to glossary woman.

Right now I am walking the emotional tightrope of 'what will be will be' whilst slipping off occasionally into 'please send me a text telling me you're still keen now that we got naked'

Which is not ISO MH9000 compliant.

Calming words needed.....

Handy yes I too get like that when I've DTD that's why I hold off as long as my body will allow me

I'm guilty of simmering too, but have also being on the receiving end of simmering.

Supposed to have a date tonight. I'd totally forgotten and deleted his texts and hadn't saved his number so when he texted earlier I was like "who is this" anyway rescheduled as I've worked all night and I'm knackered.

Handy I hope twix texts this evening and arranges date 4. I know the feeling you are talking about, I often go from the what will be will be to oh god just please text and ask me out again now we've dtd.

Waves to everyone else.

Handy I may be reading this totally wrong but it seems to be that Twix is a bit more sure of this relationship and so more comfortable than you are. So in Twixland, it's all lovely and he's looking forward to seeing you again soon...not sure when, but it'll be soon cos you like him and he likes you.
Meanwhile you want to get something in the diary so that you know he still likes you.

Has he been texting though?