Welcome to the House of Fun (and positivity!) - It's dating thread 100

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

Oh , no not Hilary! She'll be indicted by the DOJ come election time Hilary will probably be the Democrat candidate the Clinton's are completely corrupt as is the whole US voting system. Ah, don't get me started it'll become the state of the world thread

No idea Waving I don't tend to watch anything live on TV these days.

Just watched that CioaVerona, thanks, it looks good. I will look forward to nine more episodes. I hope it's nine more anyway. ONly one is on the iplayer. It took my mind off men for an hour :-p

MrCanceller and I are going out Friday, for a non alcoholic date . That's a bit of a test I think. But babysitter book. It's all in place.

No! wait, found the second episode! Take my mind off men for another hour then :-p

You're watching Danish TV from BBC Iplayer?!?!?

Yes, BBC 4 is the home for Scan TV its always on catch up or I player, why is that surprising.

Will just update my news and then skim read others...

Basically Mr Journo texted me about 4pm yesterday when I was out with a friend saying that I could come over to his (the other side of town) after the rugby (England game) luckily I was out but even if I wasn't... I mentioned it to my friend and she immediately commented "booty call".

I was in his vicinity this afternoon but out for lunch. I then heard from my brother where I was that SIL was having drinks on Tuesday for her birthday near their flat I was invited... So I texted Journo and said I'd be around and could meet for a drink afterwards (and sex) to be honest I think that's all it would be... He's not turning me off per se but the sex first time round wasn't earth moving on my part!

Freaky sadly no if fish in sight, I just got a whole new bunch of matches to play with. Let's hope some of them lead to interesting convos!

MrOrganizedYogi has gone a bit quiet over the weekend and I believe that is because he does not want to put in any effort when I have said I would not be available for the next week and a half. Fair enough but at the same time I am sniffing a red flag there. Oh well, turned out today that I will actually be free tomorrow night but if he has not texted by then I will treat myself to a Lush bath and catch up on my shows hehe

Ciao I honestly didn't know what was BBC four I only use BBC for sport occasionally, the apprentice and GBBO, the occasional don't tell the bride, also with BBC 3 going online as well. You learn something new everyday

Ah, I see Vom badly worded on my behalf no offence intended, the apprentice you say!! I've had a few laughs watching that over the years:)

Ciao it's fine, was a little surprised that's all. I'm learning German (slowly) and a German TV channel would be awesome now Netflix blocks VPNs!

And yes some of the mistakes on the apprentice are hilarious and an small, deep down part of me relishes the annihilation some of the interviews just before the final.

Waving I've heard that a campaign is starting to get men to grow mutton chops for March for a cause , but he's in good stead for Movember!

It's strange how people get so attached and used to contact and communication, as you've known MTG about 2-3 weeks? And will miss him, but yes it's surprising that so quickly that connection can be made! It's awesome but when you have to take a break it's really sad.

Oh you can still watch Netflix with a VPN it could be as simple as your browser leaking your ip via location services or they could have the ip range blocked you can buy VPNS that work around it.

Yes, Yes too The apprentice do you remember Neill Themanwithnoplan that was awesome. This is a fucking classic Jim in the boardroom .....Watch the faces.

Hmm I'll have to have more of a Google! I've found alternate ways but they aren't as good!

And haha this is one of my favourite moments "you're not even a fish!" But I think he's died now

Or the one who said they owned the domains for their business and the interviewer found they hadn't and bought them!

Or even this year, using his state of the art never seen before method, that totally hadn't been posted on the media from his current business

Ah, Stuart sadly you're right he died last year a great shame, he was a very talented young man who had a really decent business. Mind you they edited him into comedy gold!

Filling I think it is mainly because when you have been ghosted/kept guessing a few times normal communication skills suddenly become a very valuable and attractive trait in the person you are dating. And it also reinforces and allows for the connection to develop. All in all, the more I date, the more I believe a lack of communication is becoming at least a turn off and maybe even a dealbreaker.

And it is kind of funny to have that conversation tonight as Maple has just texted me an innocuous question once again, completely ignoring the fact that my last text (sent Wednesday I think) was me suggesting that we see each other again. Why the fuck does he do that?! Does he want to keep it light and I am freaking him out suggesting meeting up? Or is he just looking for a bit of texting banter without actually wanting to date me? (But surely if he is not into me he would be better off looking someone he wants to date?)
I am not even sure I would date him again TBH but I kind of want my answer..

Women of the thread, please stop me texting MrM. We had said we would chat on the phone on Saturday night. I texted on Saturday to say shall we chat. He replied that his plans had changed and he was going out, we could chat on Sunday. I was out on Sunday and told him that, apart from first thing. He said ok, he'd call in the morning. But he just texted so I asked why he didn't just phone me (which I'd said the night before). He said he knew I was going out and he didn't want to interrupt, and that he felt like he couldn't do anything right (!). I breezily said it was fine, I'd not answer if I was busy. And he didn't reply. He's overseas for work for a week, leaving today. Am tempted (but resisting!) a 'have a good trip' message. But should I send that?

Gah!! Hate this, I get the feeling he's doing MH for Men

So, would that text be breezy, not needy? Or shall I not bother?

Will read the rest of the thread on the train ...

The comment "i cant do anything right" would worry me batshit.
like he can say not tonight im going out but you can't???

He'd be the martyred type whose feelings were hurt whenever attempted to meet yiur own needs.

My x (kids dad) used to make this exact comment early on.

Morning!

You know I think tinder gets a hard time. A gf of mine met her now bf on there. I'm thinking about coming off the apps I'm on as it is, without adding another one in the mix.

super I'm dead shallow. If sex was not out of this world amazing with Scot he would have been long gone. The chemistry is making me persevere. I wouldn't bother otherwise.

jolly fingers crossed on yogi. What is maple playing at? (I'd just ask him)

filling i'm not so surprised about attachment after 2-3 weeks. 21 is the magic number to make/break habits. It's been proven that humans can undo conditioning if they stick to change over 21 days.

waving when does MTG go off grid?

batshit how many times has he called you and vice versa?

Right have fab Monday's all! Happy iron fishing. I shall report back tmrw on progress with Scot.

Bat I think if you want to text him, text him. There's nothing to lose and 'have a good trio' is breezy.

314 that isn't the impression I get from him, that he's a martyr :-/ His not being able to get anything right comment was referring to a comment he made that was either a lovely compliment or a bit rude. As I have zero self esteem I took it the negative way. Sassy it's pretty much equal with who is first to message the other. I've called him a couple of times, he's called me once, I think. I have weird living arrangements, though, that he's aware of, which makes it more tricky to call me.

Then text him or just pick up the phone and call him. If if goes to voicemail then just leave a message saying have a good trip. If you have trickier circumstances then it's understandable IMO.
I'd actually just call given some of my convo's over the weekend.