Welcome to the House of Fun (and positivity!) - It's dating thread 100

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

Well I definitely have a new iron, I'll call him Mr Perfume. I've just realised that Mr WTF has blocked me on FB. Feeling a bit pissed off that I didn't block him first now! But mostly I'm totally confused, he was the one who treated me badly, ghosted me and stood me up twice- why then block me?!

Anyway, new iron is very communicative (is that a word?!), the polar opposite of Mr WTF.

I still can't get on board with having more than one iron at a time though!

Welcome to the newbies, and good luck

I really love irrationally exuberant!

I always have to defend Tinder on here.

People (usually those who have never used it) go on about it "just being for hookups" and I haven't experienced that being the case at all.

Irrationally exuberant is wonderful. I like words.

Mags you should try follow the money its a Danish TV show that started last night, I've all ready seen the whole season its sublime:)

Don't tell me he's a fan of Greenspan Waving!

I presume his job sent him to the UK am being nosey also excited for you too.

steady I seriously suspect he was married / in a relationship.....

Hahaha! Did anyone else get the Mumsnet Daily email today? The subject line is "It is never appropriate to f**k about with bacon"
Is that some kind of sign from the universe? Or MN?

Oh Tak waving, I can't believe there's one I haven't heard of, Denmark can't keep up with my voracious appetite for Danish TV. I'll google that one. Is it on BBC iplayer.

Yeah, Steady, I agree with Sassy. It would explain the FB blocking as well as the general dickishness about standing you up etc. Congrats on the new iron!

the tusind tak was to CioaVerona!

I've used Tinder and PoF and had far more intelligent conversation from Tinder. I also was under the illusion that Tinder was far more shagfest than PoF but it's definitely not what I've found!

In fact possibly the best iron ever in the history of OLD (6 months - feels like years!), despite a few dodgy moments recently, has come from Tinder.

Oh. Look. I went and posted on the thread!

Another defender of Tinder...

I met Gentle on Tinder. Loveliest person I ever met in my life.

I think Tinder has a paid for option now that makes it a bit less of an option for late teens early 20s etc to just swipe for a shag. When I used it before that's what it seemed the main aim is for, but also i guess it depends it's what you make it, if you don't interact with them messages then them ones will be limited and you can focus on the ones that aren't

I've only had one Tinder date, and that was incredibly dull. Definitely didn't lead to a hook up! My other dates have all been from POF. I'm at the point of paying for Match or elite singles, if Mr Perfume doesn't work out.

Mr WTF definitely wasn't married, not that it really matters now. Can't believe I've let it get to me!

This thread moves fast! I'm sure I'll get to know your irons at some point.

Do people really just disappear on you when they know you have to face each other? I know you're all right, I just need to get over it. This has knocked me worse than my break up!

As for being scared of dating, I just worry that we'll have nothing to say or I'll be boring or they'll think I'm ugly. No self esteem!

The Legacy, that is Arvingerne I think. yes I downloaded that ages ago . But series one was better. Danish is hard allegedly but not compared with my constitutional first language :-p

Don't worry about YOU being boring, worry about THEM being boring.

Which is possible, in which case it's good to have already thought of your excuse to leave, if you don't feel up to saying "thanks for meeting me, I don't think this is going to work, bye".

Yes, follow the money is on BBC4 episodes 1 & 2 are on catch up or i player I think its fantastic, agreed with Mags Legacy is not great.

Trapped finished last week its an Icelandic show its also on Catch up or I player its also really fab. Borgen is also well worth a look.

I love Scandinavian society I think I may have too move there at some point.