Welcome to the House of Fun (and positivity!) - It's dating thread 100

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

Handy I'm excited for you and Twix!

I've had a nose, and think I know what MTG looks like - very nice, Waving

I've had a miserable day on POF with men disappearing, and one blocking me in the middle of arranging a date. Bastard.

I'm going to drink tea and watch The Good Wife like the sad person I'm becoming

I am also watching The Good Wife - enough that my TV asked "are you still there?". Stop judging me, TV, I'm poorly!

Blocking in the middle of arranging a date - how bizarre! People really are strange aren't they?

Can you PM his name Waving then I can be nosy!

I'd like to see twix too!

Hello all

I went on an uber long run today. Did chores. Watched sport. (Still watching). It's been a good day.

I am now awaiting a twix update.....

waving MTG sounds amazing!

So update from me. I sent scot a message last night (as we promised not to ghost one another). We've spoken today. It appears that we both thought the other was game playing and as such both pulled back. I have learned two things and I am sharing in the hope it helps some of you.

1. DTD too early on can really scupper things. You achieve an intimacy whilst not knowing anything about a person. (I've never DTD so early before with anyone and won't ever again).

2. Whatsapp is the devils work and leaves way too much room for miscommunication when you don't know a person really well. Phone calls are the way forward.

We're meeting for a coffee and taking a walk tmrw. Cards on table time.

Day 3 of my first ever OLD profile, I'm on POF for now and I've finally found someone I'm enjoying talking to although we are comp,tee opposites but there is banter

Is it worth paying for the extras on POF, any advice welcome, I feel like I'm a bit out of my depth with all of this!

Glad you've found someone you enjoy chatting to Hopping - even if it doesn't go anywhere it's always reassuring isn't it? :)

I haven't used PoF so can't comment on the extras but I'm sure someone more knowledgeable will be along soon, unless they are all out on hot dates!

No update from handy. I'm thinking its a good date!

hopping I wouldn't bother with the extras you get more photos and meet me. You can always look who wants to meet you in then notifications bit and the search for them by name.

Yes, no news from Handy is a good sign. I've just added about ten men who look reasonable enough to my favourites. I'll wait a while, see if any of them message me and if not I might message some of them..... I tweaked my profile a bit. Tried to make it funnier. Boring people will think I'm weird but people on the same wavelength will like it. That's the plan.

I'm not being very go-getty about it right now.

Writing the profile is so difficult! I don't know much about myself yet let alone put it into words. I de raged yesterday so I could change my username to something a little less desperate. That has stopped the weirdo ones sending me their mobile numbers and offers to meet right this minute.!

Yes, I made my profile name sound really demure and girl next doory. No shots of me in a red dress.

To be honest though, I am not getting much attention. So I might need to replace a couple of my photos. Put up one that is a flattering full length body shot, and another dressed up to go out.

I checked earlier and I had a few messages, whoah I thought!! But, one from a man whose age said 52 but he looked about sixty and two others from men with disgusting hair, ''ask me anything'' merchants.

The same kind who have "hey sexy" as a introduction ... No thanks

I hate all the talk of ladies, and in particular what really sets my teeth on edge, a request for "genuine ladies". What the does that mean?! I fear it means that you couldn't go out with that man twice and then say no to a third date? They'd think you weren't genuine because you didn't have sex with them. Shudder. Genuine Lady's. :-p

Hi everyone I have been lurking for the past 20 threads or so, living vicariously through you all. The main reason is that I still house share with my ex. We have been separated for over 8 years but financially and practically due to location and ds's SN amongst other things it has just been the only option.

I am coming to a point now where moving out is at last on the horizon. I would really like a man in my life again. Things were hard with ex before the split so it's been a long time without love, affection and sex (26 years living with ex).

I did date a couple of local men a few years ago both ghosted me. One turned up at a funeral we were supposed to be going to together, hand in hand with a new girlfriend after going silent on me and the other did similar, turning up at my place of work with a new woman without finishing with me first!

So I have been doing a lot of work on myself. Building up my self esteem and have begun to value myself. I am ready to date now. I don't want a relationship as such but I do want a life and to see men as part of that and hopefully find someone that gets me and enjoys my company and I theirs.

Sorry for the me me me essay. I have learnt lots from following this thread so thank you all for that.

I'm rooting for MTG too waving

I changed my profile bio - please don't call me Hun, Hunni, sexy etc I like my name just the way it is, thank you.

I'm not into xxx at the end of messages either. I don't know any male friends in RL that send me xxx's so why send them to strangers?

I really don't have any pics of me in my own and I'm not comfortable with adding pics with my DC in, I'm not a selfie person. I think I need to try harder.

I'm happy to chat about pets, work etc but just been told that's boring after 3 messages to each other! I'm finding it all quite an effort tbh!

Need some advice, this person I was texting didn't reply again ... It's been about 4 days and it's happened about 4 times, they text earlier and I've just seen, haven't read yet but from what I can see they've said they're shit at replying and they've had a shit...( and it ends) I want to reply but I hate that they just stop replying do I make a comment about it?

FillingMakesMeVom Personally I'd go with something along the lines of "You obviously have a lot on, let me know if things change..." kind of message so you're being kind but not accepting them just disappearing on you!

I've been on no dates for the past fortnight. Thursday Night Cocktails guy, I met him a month ago and have seen three times but lives a long way away and works shifts, has apparently RSVPd to his friends' wedding on our behalf and has invited me to visit the weekend after next. He texts me most days but I think he might be losing interest...

I have a new guy who I matched with on Tinder, he was 8km away at the time but just visiting so lives a two hour drive away! He's very attractive, interesting and accomplished so I was surprised he matched with me! He's been texting me and I guess we may meet up but again the distance isn't ideal

catty, mag there is a profile on POF of a guy requesting ex-underwear models with a Michelin star - I mean even in jest what does that say about him? Got lots of new irons from POF however.
Hopping I know what you mean about the messaging it can be excruciating but keep going and once you've had a couple of dates you will be more in the swing of things. Don't be afraid of suggesting the date yourself - I mean we're all on the sites for the same reason aren't we?
I'm starting to get cold feet about the sexy guy date in foreign city. I bought condoms at the airport and it is obvious that it's just going to be a hook-up. Could be fun but I'm really nervous.

Disappointed I blocked that guy on POF yesterday - he was crap at chatting and thought asking me my bra size and what I was wearing was flirting. His 'cook and underwear model' profile is him joking, apparently.

I need a big boost of positivity after my 24 hours on POF, and MrM's general flakiness. He said he'd call this morning, knows when I'm leaving to go out. He hasn't called, and I doubt he will. He says a lot of stuff but just sort of drifts - infuriating

Email comms from Mr Canceller overnight, asking me where I disappeared to!

He asked your bra size? What is he 12? Jeez it's no wonder it can be an uphill struggle!

I know - he's quite attractive, too. In a sea of fat fifty year olds (so many massive guts!!) he stood out. Shame he's a sleazy tossed.