Welcome to the House of Fun (and positivity!) - It's dating thread 100

[IToldYouIWasFreaky]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now) 13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good. 14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

Oh Sassy

If it's any consolation you are a bloody legend in my eyes and there's no way in gods earth those men deserve an ounce of your mental energy.

When decent men are scarce, focus on tea and cake and the thread only.....

Sassy I get a lot of that sort of stuff too.

I remind myself that the reason the right one will be sp special was that he was hard to find, and I will appreciate him all the more.

Also applaud yourself for your standards, and how much you love yourself because not all women have the balls not to settle or get caught up in a bit of cheap and ill gotten attention.

Mr right is on his way...

Irrational exuberance. Haha. Love it!

Good luck all with dates later.

Positivity to all.

Sassy I alternate between thinking there's no decent men left and feeling really positive. I'm not surprised you're feeling low with that collection of undesirables!! . I think it may have been Freaky that said the other day that after a barren spell, there's often a rush of new matches and irons.

I've dampened my positivity somewhat by sending a message to my slow fader, I'm really annoyed with myself. He's not read it yet and I want to retract it . But the good news is I have a few more lovely looking matches to work through on tinder. My friends are divided between whether the iron with the awful photos is just poor at taking selfies and worth a meet or whether I should just move on to the next. I'm thinking the latter!

Who was it that suggested meeting up in York? I'm north west based and would be able to get to York easily if it happens.

Bit of an update. I went on a last min date with mrtravel last night. Went okay I think. Only spent an hour in each other's company. Bit odd at the end though! He looked at his watch and suddenly had to go, got up, kissed my cheek and walked out the bar. I was like as thought he wasn't into me after all.
He text late last night to say he had a lovely time and enjoyed spending it with me. I replied with the usual pleasantries. Then this morning he text again asking how I was, what I was up to today etc. Usual chit chat things. Said again he enjoyed yesterday so maybe he is into me? He did apologise about being a little abrupt with me but didn't actually say why.
We've swapped a few texts today. Shall see how it goes. The other iron I had got my number but never called so I've written him off.

Waving I agree with everyone else, the new guy sounds lovely but it's still very early days so perhaps it's best to bring Copenhagen up in say a month or so?

Hope everyone who has dates have fun!

Freaky I think it's really positive about Bacon, fingers crossed the banter continues and moves forward to a date once he's less pressured.

Foxtrot it was me and Ocelot talking about a York meet up.

Freaky definitely sounds good about Bacon.

Oooh Nannys please count me in if its going ahead!

Interesting for you lady's have you seen this thread?

To think there aren't enough decent men to go round?
http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/2594168-To-think-there-arent-enough-decent-men-to-go-round

Do you think there are enough decent single men? You have an adequate amount of experience I feel to get a more wholesome view. I mean from a viewpoint that they are decent and even if perhaps there was no chemistry.

And in comparison decent single men to women?

Sorry to bring a thread into another thread but i think you'd be a more expert opinion haha

Yeah I'm pissed off that Pier is behaving like a prick again. Serves me right for unblocking him He's just told me he's off to 'fuck 5 women across Europe'...oh and photograph refugees.

Gast get him blocked again!

Filling I'm sure there are lovely men out there, sometimes they can seem very thin on the ground, sometimes there's a few about. Looking at the lovely ladies on this thread, I would definitely say the quality of women outweighs the men but maybe I'm biased at the moment! I'm trying hard to collect quality irons but it's tough going!

There arent enough to go round for every woman but i only need one and i will find him.

I was going to send mr canceller an emoji. Just one. To revive the conversation. But then i got to the section in the MH book about over valuing men before you have got to know a man. All i know about this guy is that twice now he's been in touch for a little while after a date the disappeared. And on a LOA clip i watched earlier i heard that before making a decision to do something ask yourself if it the action of somebody who loves herself.

If if if i sent him anything it'd be a picture of the cheshire cat!

I hope everybody who is out tonight is having a good time.

Where are you Fox? York is between Nanny & me but we might need to find the centre of a triangle....

I am now in the clear mountain air of the Alps :) ...might play on tinder for a laff...

toosassy
Im also without irons now. :-/ But I want to get physically fit like a navy seal and then enjoy my childfree week. I want to read up on the LOA a bit.

It's ok to take a two week break. Bear is visiting me while dc with their dad after easter and this time im going to enjoy it. Then get back on the horse after he's gone. Im looking forward to seeing him. He is not and never will be a bf but he is the only 'iron' who has said what he meant and meant what he said. It is nice not to be confused. Or analysing text comms.

Beer now.

Exercise tomorrow.

Yes Gast I think that comment in itself is worth blocking him.

Filling I have posted on that thread but honestly I just think it is really sad to be convinced you will never find a nice guy if you are still single when you turn 30. I was in that state of mind for a couple years, it is very depressing and I find now that it is also completely untrue. But on the positive side of things, like MH would say, while these women convince themselves there is not a nice guy for everyone, they are not out there and take themselves out of the competition. Which means: more nice guys for us to date, yay!

Winter Maple did that to me too, he jumped on his feet and practically ran away after a good 4h of conversation I have no idea what happened there, I think he freaked out, perhaps because he did not know how to tell me he was not interested (no likely given the texts I got afterwards) or perhaps because he was scared of kissing me. I think I will never know! That is so weird and confusing.

Sassy uh sounds like you have hit a low, & are a good remedy to get your mojo back!

Freaky it is great that Bacon is back in banter mode! Pretty sure a date will follow..

Waving please share how you got MTG to grow a beard for you, I might have to place the same request with MrOrganizedYogi because his stubble is leaving my face all red and puffy (very sensitive skin and hardcore make out session ).

Super mmh I would not ask to meet TBH because he could say yes while only wanting a shag out of it and it will leave you even more confused on where you stand. Can you do the MH thing "I am at that place, getting a coffee come join me!"? It is breezy and confident and it gives him the opportunity to either go out of his way to meet you or reschedule. I think you would know more depending on his reaction.. Over invested Sherlock Holmes here.

Wow gast pier sounds like he is at the very bottom of the food chain. Block him.

Evening all

Thank you all for your uber kind and comforting words (especially handy and brabit) I'm not remotely fussed about irons, two new ones have tried to meet me over the weekend for a coffee and I've said I'm busy. I'm busy looking after me!

batshit they are not all remotely like that. Mine were just like buses, they came in a set of three.

super you'll have to let us know how the luvstruck event goes! I'm out with girlfriends on Thursday night!

waving love it! Irrational exuberance! Where's / how long is MTG gone for? How do you feel about the birthday weekend? You up for it?

winter it sounds like he had somewhere else to be. That's the only reason I'd scarper....

gast . Seriously? Block him. What a twat.

filling there are plenty of decent men. I still think the best chance of meeting them is to get out to new places in RL and try and meet people that way.

314 you should just do a me and delete everything. I'm serious. I have absolutely no way of contacting scot and it's actually really nice. Let canceller come back in his own time. I'm also doing two long runs this weekend and getting some serious training in. Go us!!!

You are all utterly fantastic. Thank you for today, you've really helped me feel heaps better!

Waving, I might be out in Brighton tomorrow night, it kind of depends on what MrCS is doing.

Currently sitting here waiting for Bagel, wish me luck!

gast best of luck!

waving cut yourself some slack. You're human. I think you possibly needed to get the response you got. Why has it set you back? You can tell us, it's a judgement free zone here. I'm telling you, sharing with you all today really helped me xx

Ah I get that. Give yourself time and it will pass. Honestly. It's pretty shit in the meantime, I get that. If Over the 4 months he managed to mess with your head and play games (which I think he did), that's hard to get over.

Listen scot had really limited interaction and time but even in that short space he managed to get way more headspace than I should be giving him.

It doesn't make any logical sense. But I'll say one thing. This doesn't reflect poorly on you. At all. It's him. You will move on and have a fulfilling relationship. The game players won't.