Onwards and Upwards!

[Hushabyemountain98]

Good morning. Welcome to my new thread. I hope that all my MN friends will join me and maybe a few new ones!xx

[notonyurjellybellynelly]

I feel like you do that I may never get over the shock of it all

I never will either. And all the moreso in a week when my son has had to start heavy duty anti psychotic depot injections and my husband has ignored 4 texts telling him so. He was also here in town and didnt even ask our driver how our son was. Its killing me right now. But you know what? You'll be ok even if you never get over whats happened, and you will have a nice life, one thats on an even keel and is good for you. You'll even be a better mum. Not that I saying you arent now. But you will feel better in yourself and you''ll parent better. I see this in myself. One of my children is going through a heartache herself right now thats had to be dealt with and Ive surprised myself at how Im handling it all as her mum. I actually sat in a family pow pow about it yesterday and thought - Jeezy peeps, is this really me doing the talking. I was there for her the way her father never will be again and this is what happens when we get out of the bad situation we were in - we grow and develop into healthier and happier people.


You have all of this to come. The new you. Everything really is going to be ok.

[notonyurjellybellynelly]

makeup contoured whatever that is and my nails done , what the heck I deserve it

I will give you a laugh.

My daughter went into our local Bobby Brown to buy some lipstick and blusher she'd seen in a Magazine. The girl offered here a wee make over so my daughter said yes. The girl said thats great, I'll do the chicken lips on you. So my daughter said 'chicken lips'? And that was when the girl pointed to my daughters face and said yes, here and here, cheek and lips!

[Kirk123]

Tartan is back with us 😄, I have found out ladies he is with her in a boutique hotel in the lakes overnight , obviously that why he isn't coming to the wedding of one of his best friends !!! Our son is 21 in 3 weeks and I bet you he gives him a bit of money only , whilst he builds up a credit card debt to please that tart !!

[Kirk123]

Notonyour , wow your children are lucky to have you as their mum , my daughter went through an awful break up , got really depressed , that's when ex decided to have an emotional affair to sort with as he obviously wasn't get my full attention ! Prick ! We all seem great mums and are great examples of dignified caring women on this thread . Notonyour your kids will always remember what you have done for them , my parents divorced when I was 17, dad threw money at us , mum was always there for us with patience , time and love it's that what counts ❤️

[Hushabyemountain98]

Good morning notonyur.
I have typed a message and lost it!
So I will give it another try.
I am really sorry to hear about your sons latest treatment and your ex husbands treatment of you. What is up with these men! Are they just totally selfish! This is his son. At least he could show some concern and maybe even give you some support!
I am sorry that your daughter has been going through her own heartache. I am so glad that she has you and the rest of your family for support. I hope everything will work out for her.
You have obviously regained your confidence. I do not have any at the moment but maybe I will some day soon!
My heart has been giving me a lot of trouble this week. I really must learn to calm down and relax. Maybe If I do not have to deal with my dh I will?

You made me laugh about the 'Chicken lips!'

I hope that life will get better for us all.
I hope you have a good day xx

[Hushabyemountain98]

Good morning Kirk.
I know it is easy to say especially as I am doing exactly the same thing but please try not to think about them!
It is better that he is not at the wedding today. You just go along and enjoy the day.
I am sure that when the time comes you will make sure that you son has a great 21st Birthday.

Enjoy the wedding
xxx

[Hushabyemountain98]

Good Evening all.
I am sitting here crying. I am a soggy mess. I do not think I can do this. I feel so miserable. Sorry xx

[PiscoSour66]

Hello Hush. Have you been out today? And how is your tooth? X

[Timetosay58]

Hello Hush.Nothing I say will make you feel better.But please allow yourself to cry.You are a human being who has given so much.Yes,I agree its not fair,but you have come far.You have even been giving other people advice.Your husband was never worthy of you.You know this.Get angry.Do what is good,best, for YOU.
I am here for and thinking of you.xx

[Timetosay58]

And I hope his penis falls off!!!

[PiscoSour66]

Ooo, I say!
Hush, please don't apologise for how you feel.

[Hushabyemountain98]

Hello Pisco,

Only with the dogs. My teeth are playing up on both sides again.
I have some hot tea, paracetamols and Irish Mist! xxx

[PiscoSour66]

Blimey, that's a bit of a cocktail there!
How about food. Have you had anything to eat?

[Hushabyemountain98]

Thank you Timetosay58for your kind message.
It just came over me again. I know what he is doing tonight and it just plays on my mind. I just feel that she has taken my life away. I gave over 30 years to this man and now I am dumped! Its just hard to take.xxx

[Hushabyemountain98]

Its only 2 paracetamols and a liquor glass of Irish mist. I had 2 sausage rolls that I made and some soup xx

[Hushabyemountain98]

Sorry, liqueur glass! I am definitely not an American !xx

[PiscoSour66]

Ok. I'm getting curious about the Irish Mist. I might have to buy some! I accidently smashed 2 bottles of wine yesterday. Aldi's finest no less! I did stop myself from licking it off the floor!!

[PiscoSour66]

Wow! It has almost only 5* reviews on Amazon. I feel my shopping fingers twitching........x

[Hushabyemountain98]

Irish mist is really nice but not very cheap. Sorry that you managed to smash two bottles of wine yesterday. My young dog would have licked some of it up!xx

[PiscoSour66]

Any chance you could join those ladies tomorrow that made the knitted voodoo teddy?

[Timetosay58]

Hush,If your honest with yourself would you want him back?Or is it the picture of who you once thought him to be that you want?You are sitting by yourself but you are not alone or unloved.Your sons,family friends will always be there for you.And that is worth its weight in gold.My husband contacted me recently.Loves me,wants to be with me.Mmm.No.He had 38yrs of my life.And most of that was because I truly loved him.Still do,But he has hurt me too many times.I owe myself peace in my life.I am lonely,yes,but I have peace.And people who love me.So do you.xx

[Hushabyemountain98]

Irish mist was my Dad's favourite tipple too!
My sister isn't going to see the voodoo teddy ladies tomorrow.
She is coming to dinner here on Sunday with her husband xx

[PiscoSour66]

But he has hurt me too many times.I owe myself peace in my life.I am lonely,yes,but I have peace.And people who love me.So do you.
Time is right you know. Hush, you deserve peace, and who knows what good things are around the corner.

[Hushabyemountain98]

Thanks Time. I do not know what I want. I just want this pain to stop. When I found out about this one he told me everything would be alright and its not.
I am like you my dh has hurt me too many times but I really loved him.
I had a dream last night that he came back. But I do not think he will do that and I could never trust him again. I just need to try and toughen up xxx

[Hushabyemountain98]

Thanks Pisco. I hope you are right. At the moment I just feel so lonely and I cannot see around the corner yet!xxx